I have heard this quite sometime back - and i wanted to implement this, but then again i am too busy thinking of it to stop carrying the backlog...

can anyone suggest wats the best way of stopping thinking of the past - of wats gone and wat cant be changed anymore...??

example: a broken affair, an accident which i could have avoided etc.

help
Raj

QueenSheba

I think counselling is a good idea. The present moment is all we ever really have. The past is past, and there is no guarantee of our future. We can only control our thoughts and actions in the present moment.

When you find yourself in destructive thought patterns, stop yourself and substitute positive thoughts, like affirmations or prayer.

backlog007

hi thanks for the positive response.. yes, i agree it works, but with a lot of patience, and if you ask me, honestly, patience is one commodity money cant buy in this modern hifi world..

simoneaugie

Meditation puts you in the present moment. It can take a while to learn, but it's free. Turn off the electrical parts of life, what's left? Quit thinking yourself into a mess. Quit thinking, and what is left?

What is left is no issues, no past, no stress.

backlog007

thanks simone.. thats one apt answer i would like to put into practice.. God bless you.

Choux

Starting now, add new aspects to your life over the next five years or so. For example, starting today, ride a bicycle for 2 miles. Make a plan and build up your time and mileage to five miles.

While you are out, enjoy Nature.....take a friend along with you. Make it a fixture in your life.

In three months, add something else to your life that will enrich it....volunteer at the hospital, the library, a nursing home...whatever...one day a week.

Join a club in six months. Gardening, book club, any kind of club you like.

Soon you will have a whole wonderful new life.

twinkiedooter

One of the best tricks I found for not thinking about something and dwelling on what could have been, etc. is to live your life 5 minutes at a time. Take 5 minutes and think of something really awful that you wish could not have happened. After 5 minutes think of something you want to do. Then keep thinking about what you want to do as you have already wasted 5 minutes thinking what if.... It is very hard to just block things out of your mind. It's much easier to let yourself think of these thoughts for 5 minutes and 5 minutes only. Then be off doing or thinking of something else. Pretty soon you won't have to give yourself the 5 minutes to think what if anymore as you will be too busy to stop and think....hey did I spend 5 minutes today thinking what if....