help me

manimuth

Do you have children? Are you currently in India? Is your wife financially dependent on you?

ajmahesh

No ,

gabmd

Assuming that you aren't in India, then consider a divorce. It is nothing but selfish and self-serving to remain in a marriage where there isn't love. If you do love your wife, but just don't find yourself attracted to her, then consider counseling. Maybe you just need to learn how to tap into your sexual side with her.

Otherwise, do not act on your compulsion or attraction with this other woman. Leave your marriage with integrity.

Tuscany

Can your wife get gainful employment if you did leave her?

manimuth

Being Indian myself, I understand your fear of rejection and exclusion from the community. But, the most important thing is that you do not hurt anyone. Arranged marriages are often hard and not for everyone and I do not blame you for not being attracted to your wife but you did make a choice and a commitment by marrying her. If you feel like you cannot stay true to your wife and that you want to pursue other women, be honest with your wife.
It is even more important that you do not cheat on your wife if you have children with her. They do not deserve the hurt and pain of the ugliness that will follow if you are unfaithful. The best thing to do is to be honest with yourself and be honest with her. Compare the worth of everything you have now with what you can gain by leaving and decide which is worth more. I wish you good luck.

ajmahesh

Thanks a Lot to every one wh replied back

hdcook

Thank God for what you have. Many men will never find a wife. I coudl be one of them. You are very blessed. If you do not love her, then love her. That means to do what a loving husband does. It is a verb.

Parajr

I beleive it is natural. It happens all the time. Married or not you are human. THe best thing to do is look but don't touch. Actually I don't know. I'm going through this myself. God wanted us to be faithful, but why are these issues so common. You could love your wife to death, but sooner or later you are either going to have to become creative in the bedroom, or it is going to loose its bang. Why is that? If God wanted us to be with one woman forever why is it so hard. Why can't you feel for your wife what you feel for the office chick. I know that is what I wished im my situation. The truth of the matter is we are in a battel that is hard to win. I am beginning to believe that the majority of men cheat on their wives. I have tried very hard to be faithful, and it seems to get harder each day. When will this end. All I can tell you is to take it one day at a time and don't be stupid. Don't put youself in situations where you have the opportunity to fail.