I have a blog and a woman who'd been reading it for some time contacted me, (I'm a poet and painter and she is a photographer) beginning a wonderful dialogue about art, writing, life and such. And any time yr dealing with art or artistic matters, it become personal. Early on in our correspondence, she mention a pair of red shoes she once had; in reference to a couple of bits of overheard bloc I'd posted on my blog about red shoes. It hit something and I began writing a series of poems with "red shoes" as a point of reference somewhere in the poems.

We'd been emailing each other (sometimes several times a day) and after about a month, decided to meet. Prior to meeting there'd never been any mention of a husband (although two children were mentioned) and so I wasn't completely surprised to discover she is married. What I didn't expect was learning that her husband is extremely controlling (she cannot have male friends) and that she was making plans for leaving but didn't have things in place yet. Our meeting ended after about 90 minutes (we had coffee) and went our separate ways.

Having learned about her situation, I became concerned about her well-being and in trying to offer support (suggested she call me to let me know she was OK, and set up an private email account her husband wouldn't be able to find) only increased the stress and anxiety she had about our correspondence, necessitating that she end our correspondence because of her husband and her fear of him. She asked me not to contact her.

After the correspondence ended, I posted a few things in my blog that were directed specifically at her, written for her - apologies mostly, info about help for spouses with controlling/abusive mates and could tell that for about a month she (or I assume it was her) was chking the blog from time to time. That ended about a month ago.

I came upon a means of indirect communication (I found art things that I thought might be of interest and using one of her email addresses, could then forward it to another one,)

About a week ago I made a posting on Craig;s Lists and forwarded it to her. It was an apology of sorts and the last of the poems she'd inspired. (I'd discontinued the blog a couple of weeks earlier because it had become essentially an attempt to communicate with one person.) I left the craigslist posting up for about 4 days, not wanting to cause her a problem (more than I possibly had) And since her last email, she's been on my mind, wondering if she's OK and such. So having possibly made her life much more difficult, I was very surprised to discover 46 views of my blog in the other day after not having posted anything (having announced its retirement a couple of weeks earlier).

I would like to think it was her, but I have no way of knowing. My question is - is there anything I can do at this point? Have I endangered her? Any advice and council anyone might offer me would be greatly appreciated.

There is nothing you can do... if she is in an abusive relationship, only she can get herself out of it. You made attempts to lead her in the right direction, but beyond that you can do nothing. Attempting to contact her directly could result in a lot more physical and emotional pain for her. Just pray she takes your advice, follows your leads, and gets the help she needs.

You cannot be responsible for that which you cannot be responsible. This woman is married and has her own problems with which to deal. Leave it be.

If she was being honest and open with you, she would have told you that she was married before you met in person.

People can hide a lot when communicating on the Internet. I don't know how much you learned about her in 90 minutes during an in-person meeting.

She did ask you not to contact her. I would certainly honor that request. She is not a woman free to be courted. Treading on some very unstable and dangerous turf if you do.

I would also be careful as to what I would put on a blog. Many of the contents are readilly available by searching for certain keywords on a search engine. If you want to share the personal details of your life to be available to all, then that is your choice. Sharing things about art and such are a different matter.

I have a number of blogs, but I use them for advetising purposes for my businesses.