My boyfriend makes me feel so alive and i am so in love with him. He will be going to jail for over a year and i dont know what to do or how to feel. I so much pain that i cant breath, think or stop crying. What do i do?

Fr_Chuck

first it is a year, that is reallly such a short times over a life time, when we are in love, people go into the military, have to go to many thngs that seperage them for a time. Next one can not, and should not have their "life" controled by another person, yes you will miss him but you need to have family and friends and your own life that will still be there also.

You write him, you be there for him and hope he also learned a lesson and does not come back out to do things to send him away for longer times

Altenweg

You have to find something that you enjoy, something that will make you happy independant of him. You cannot expect someone to always be around so that you can be happy, that sort of relationship never works honey.

Yes you will miss him, yes a year is a long time, but in the long run it's only a year, if you are really in love with him then wait for him, and improve on your own mental health in order to have a healthy relationship when he comes back to you.

Good luck.

RedneckMama

Calm down....
You didn't mention how old you were; but from the emotion in your post I'm gonna assume for argument's sake you're still pretty young...Young love is all consuming, which is why you feel the way you do--that you can't breathe if he is not there for you physically...

The reality of life is this: you will make it...think of all the many people in jail, so many of them leave behind not only girlfriends, but mothers, and wives with children...and those left behind HAVE to figure out a way to pick up the pieces and move on..and the amazing thing is they do, sometimes with little or no help...
And you will too...There will be a time..especially at the beginning...where just getting out of bed will be hard for you; but you'll get past it. Time will help with that...

And you could use this time away from your boyfriend as an opportunity for you to really decide whether or not this is the life you want....can you see yourself with this guy 5 years from now? Do you want to stay with a guy who is spending more time away from you than with you? Use your time wisely, make your decisions and chances are that you might be glad that this happened and gave you the time you needed to realize he's not all that you thought he was..

Good luck either way.

allofme

okay, I'm not sure why anyone hasn't brought this up but hello, your boyfriend is going to jail and you are going to miss him???
I think this might be the easy way to dump his sorry ! Do you really want this next year to be about missing a guy who did something so bad that he is going to jail for a year? What if you had his kid? what would you tell your little girl or buy if they wanted to know where Daddy was going? I am sorry to be so brutal, but I would love to see you look at the silver lining in this grey cloud you are in. Please remember when one door closes, 4 open.......
Do you really want to be with a guy you cannot trust to keep himself out of jail? I think you are better than that, you deserve better than that, you need better than that. The re-offense rate is pretty high, and there is a strong possibility that this guy may be in and out of jail for the rest of his life. You need someone who cares about you enough that he takes care of his own life well enough to support you in all you want to do in your life. So take this next year, and work on what matters to you. Take a look at what you want to really do with you and go for it. Don't let anyone stand in your way. By the time he gets out if jail, I am hoping for you that you have and interesting story to tell your new goal oriented boyfriend who cares enough for you that he would never dare risk being away from you for any amount of time at all. You deserve a great guy. Put that on your fridge, and don't take it down until you get one.

Choux

Angel, Of course he's exciting, he's going to jail! He's a criminal who did all kinds of sneaky, dangerous stuff. Guess what? You are lucky he didn't get you involved *yet* in something that might have sent you to jail for a year, too.

Find a way to make your life exciting and meaningful....you had a close call here.

blackblue

You should NEVER place your happiness totally in another person.This time might be good for you to do some soul searching to discover you and what makes you happy (besides your significant other) Obviously if he felt the same for you he wouldn't be committing crimes and hurting you by being away.

Rest assured he is going to jail, not the moon so you will still be able to visit him.Chill and take a breather.It is not the end of the line.

mta

I know how your feeling and it doesnt seem like anything helps, but it gets better. You absolutely need to fill your time with constructive positive things. As the time passes you'll start realizing the things you didnt like about him, and this will be a learning experience. I struggled with this for a while but beleive it or not, I started going to church and my whole life changed. The community there is encouraging and always willing to help others in need. Whatever you do do not sit around by yourself and think about him or stare at photos, you will never get out of this rut. You have to be strong its these moments that make us stronger and this will shape the kind of woman you will be. Decide what you want out of life and go for it! You have your whole life ahead of you and you can either spend it crying and feeling alone or you can have the best life imaginable. But these are the moments that define us. You are strong, intelligent, person and you can get over this and will be better for it. God Bless!

xExMxMxA

hun if he is going to jail
that mean the year he is in there
he is going to think of you more and more
you are going to fine it sounds like you two are
really close and it sound like you to are sole mates "][/color]