I need help, some one to talk to.......my girlfriend and i broke up and im not able to get over it. I havent talked to her in four days and i want to very bad, but cant. Im so depressed that i think in ways that are not healthy.......If you can help me, please do i am hurting more than ever

Wondergirl

What have you done to move forward?

Our member, ISneezeFunny, went through exactly what you are going through, and he wrote about it on this site. For weeks and even months we followed his story. I think he should turn it into a how-to book. Here is the thread:

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...161688-48.html

Sneezy found out that going to the gym every day or as often as possible was one of the biggest helps to get through his anger and upset and grief.

helpmeout58

i dont know what to do. I try to go out with friends, but all i do is think about her and wonder why she hasnt reached out to me yet. She was the one that approached me and now says that shes not ready for all this........im so confused and down

Wondergirl

Read that thread I posted. It will keep you busy for a while and even give you a few laughs.

Can you work out somewhere, maybe at a gym? Are you in school? Do you work?

Wondergirl

Being miserable is a choice. You don't have to choose to be that way. Stay busy with work or school or get a volunteer job at a hospital or library or nursing home. And please read Sneezy's long thread about his own breakup. You will see how someone else survived.

It's almost 2:30 a.m. here, and I am going to bed. I'll check back with you when I get up in the morning.

helpmeout58

yea work out... off of schoool for the summer one more year of undergrad and then to med school......i try to stay busy but think that there is something about me that promotes fear, insecurity, and depression. I feel that my deelings are so strong im afriad of loosing them and being lonely again

Wondergirl

Sneezy was headed toward med school too when his girl dumped him. Sounds like you two have a lot in common, so please please read that thread.

There is NOTHING about you that promotes fear, insecurity, and depression. Stop blaming yourself and being a martyr. It's HER problem, not yours.

jasmine24

move on by keeping your self busy.. hang out with your friends just to have fun.you don't have to talk to someone else (female's) to have fun while ur w/ ur friend it only makes u think about her more.........

Wondergirl

I totally disagree. He should make a point to talk with lots of females and find out that they are actually nice people and trustworthy and kind. Do not avoid females!!!!

helpmeout58

Thank you, i am just feeling very down and not worthy of going on right now. My feelings are so strong and i feel like i have been dumped on and forgotton about.