I need help, some one to talk to.......my girlfriend and i broke up and im not able to get over it. I havent talked to her in four days and i want to very bad, but cant. Im so depressed that i think in ways that are not healthy.......If you can help me, please do i am hurting more than ever

Wondergirl

Well, stop it!!! Read Sneezy's thread from beginning to end. Just read his entries and you will get the gist of it without all the side comments from other posters.

It's been only a few days. Don't add to the problem by being down on yourself. This too will pass (IF you let it). Don't wallow in it.

Wondergirl

Is there a girl you would be willing to take out for lunch or coffee or to the zoo? It's like riding a bicycle and falling off -- get back on again as soon as possible.

Aoife_C

Hello,

I can TOTALLY relate with you. It feels like you will never ever find anyone as good as that person and the minute ye break up you feel like it was such a bad mistake. Talking from my experience though I think it was more a cause of Lonelyness. My boyfriend was from Italy (I'm from Irteland) so when he had to go back to italy I lost a part of me. I got over with it and I met another guy but right now, thinking about it I cry I miss him SOOOO much. We talk and I know he feels the same so all I'm saying is, Take a breather and see is it the lonelyness or true feelings for her and if she feels the same, get back together. There is nothing worse than no being with the one you love. As for the unhealthy feelings, I think alot of ppl have gone through them, I just hope that you can get past them and look forward to hopefully one day where you find someone that will make you the happiest man alive

helpmeout58

I know i have a lot of feelings for her, but do think the lonely part could contribute to the way i feel. How do you know if its lonelyness or feelings. I go out and try to meet new women, get my mind off her and try to move on, but i just am not 100% there; im not 100% interested, happy, and just not my self in general if you know what i mean.

Wondergirl

Loneliness IS a feeling. I don't understand what you are saying.

Give yourself time. This doesn't happen overnight.

halflife1820

I can absolutely relate to you (along with most of the world!) Trust me you are not alone. Around the end of last year my wife (ex-wife now) put me thru hell by seeing other guys behind my back and lying to me constantly. It hurt like hell! I was extremely depressed for months and on many occasions considered ending my life. Its hard you put your love and feelings in someone elses hands and you expect the same. Yea it hurts its gonna hurt its natural and almost everyone goes theu heartbreak. What you have to realize is tomorow will always come and today is not the end (even though it feels that way sometimes) One way I got thru it was I went one a week vacation, pretty much go somewhere with a change of atmosphere it really helps. Explore new and exciting things. Dating at first will be hard but as time goes by (cause it always does ) it will become easier. And one big thing that got me thru was i started attending church more. If your up for it religion will get u thru anything.

helpmeout58

Wondergirl: I guess what i was saying is how do i know if im this down about my situation because im mostly lonely and dont want to be, or is it mostly because i truely care and miss her. Right now i just feel like all i want is to be with her because we have great times together and both complement each other so well

But on the other hand, Ive been reading Isneezefunny's blog (not completley finished with it). And it really has helped so far.

Well im off to go hang out with a few friends, try to meet some new women, and try to forget about my situation.

thanks for the help so far