I started dating my boyfriend a week after my dad was buried. I was so broken after that and he just seemed to know what to say and what to do to put me back together. And now he's in basic training and I'm all alone again. And now that I wont get to see him for 10 weeks, im falling apart again. All I want to do is cry all the time. I try to keep busy but every time I try to fall asleep, there he is, in my dreams. I miss him so much. I love him so much and I want him back in my arms again. I can't believe how much of a baby Im being about this. I am so lonely without him. Im so stressed, my hair is falling out and i am so tired. I really need someone to talk to right now.
Honey, find a support group. You need to know that what you experiencing is due to unresolved grief issues. Is there a support group for grief recovery at a nearby church or mental health center? Find a counselor, someone to help you through this very difficult time. You are not alone, although it may feel like it now. Good luck, and find a friend to lean on and let them help you find a support system for dealing with your loss.
You've been through an awful lot in a short time; your father's death (please accept my condolences, by the way), followed immediately by an intense new relationship cut short due to his entering boot camp. And keep in mind that under any circumstances the military isn't exactly "relationship-friendly" and there's always a lot of sacrifice whenever one has a relationship with or marriage to someone in the military. I think the previous poster's suggestion about a support group is a good idea. You need a social network of people you can communicate with, and particularly people who can relate to the issues you're now facing.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder - or so the saying goes.
You may see a period of separation as the beginning of the end? But I am sure your partner is feeling just as bad as you are.
Share your feelings about the separation - both the positives and the negatives. This will give you the opportunity to really understand each other and give the support and reassurance you both need.
Talk about your resentment at the situation rather than at each other and look forward to the time when you're next together.
Use a variety of ways of communicating depending of course on his cicumstances - email, telephone, text message, letter, etc.
Send regular pictures - this will help your partner keep a visual record of what you're up to even if they are just by text.
Keep a diary - then share it with your partner when he comes home , if not just keep it for yourself but you will feel better if what your writing is what you wish you could tell him.
And remeber hun unlike your dad who my heart goes out to you for ( know how it feels) your partner is coming back to you.
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