hi, i am really depressed as my mum does not let me out of the house at all i am always kept inside. i am losing my friends at my new school in england i have just started - a dance school. I live in the Channel islands. i knew this girl at my old school and she was a good friend to me and i told her my problems and she always listened, but my mum said i could no see her again so i didnt talk to her. she knew it was my mum. now she is at the same school as me and i was best friends again, and we share a room, and again she helped me through things because my mum goes crazy if i stick up for myself to her or anyone else even if they r in the wrong etc, and my mum found out that my aunt invited her to her ouse with me for a weekend and told me i was not to be friends with her again. i dont know what she has a against me. my mum was in a mental home a while ago, and she threatens me that if i dnt do as im told she will be like she used to in the mental home and go suicidal, but surely if she has a family, (me, my sister and my two little brothers) she is well enought not to go back like that again. and my dad is over powered by her. also she stuffs religion down my throat like no ones business. i dont know wat to do, cos i wont be alowed bak to school if i disobey her or tlk to her about it. my dad wont do n e thing about it. ????

Fr_Chuck

I am not familar with things in England so forgive me.

But I will assume your school has a counselor, I would advise you go see them. And you will have to be very specific about behavior of your mother.

Also you need to seroiusly set down with your father over these matters.

I will not try to judge if your mother merely loves you, wants to be sure you are safe. I am sure my kids may have said simular things about me as they were growing up being forced to go to church 3 nights a week and on sunday
but so the life of a ministers kid.

I do not beleive that with the little informatoin given, and the possible seriousness ( maybe or maybe not) of this, that you need to talk to someone more trained in these issues closer to you.

Chery

Sweetie, you need to talk to the school counselor or a social worker about this problem and your mom's past history of mental illness. This might make her go back in hospital - but since she is threatening to 'change' again anyway, let her be confronted with the bare fact that she can go ahead and do it, but under supervision and proper medication. She is an unhappy person and is taking this out on you which should not be allowed. Maybe she just needs medication to stabilize her. Your father has resigned himself to this fact and does not seem to care anymore one way or the other, but he should be there to support his children. If nobody else does it, take it upon yourself and see the proper professionals to help her get her mental health back. Even if this takes a while, she'll eventually be better and thankful. Children have more rights than parents these days anyway, so take advantage of this before it's too late - this will eventually benefit all of you. Nobody should make empty threats and get away with it, no matter how old they are. I hope you find the help you need and that you get your friends back. Please keep us posted and don't be spiteful - mental health when out of order, can be worse than organic damage, so it's a valid illness and needs to be treated, and she surely needs help since she threatened suicide and putting pressure on you that she should not. I wish you good luck, and please seek help for her as soon as possible.

Sometimes things have to be hard and strenuous before they get better! We are always put to the test.