I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost two whole years, and we have ups and downs as anyone can imagine.

But one thing that I hate about her is that she razor blades herself.

When we got together, I really liked her and didnt know much about her, but as the days and weeks grew on I saw a secretive side to her, I thought she was seeing someone else too.

And I kept thinking that for a long while.

I would see her each lunchtime and one lunchtime, I left but I stayed near by, and I walked back to see her, as she didnt leave.

I saw her with something in her hand it was a knife, she hid it away.
I then knew that she was self harming.

I didn't like it and I told her that its bad and she should stop.

All through our relationship she has doing it. I got her to stop for about a month.

I have told her I cant take much more of this.

She thinks I dont care about her, I have told her to see a Doctor, and a shrink.

She does not admit that she has a problem, and when she does, like a about a month ago when she posted on this site she admitted she had a problem.

Then she said a few minutes later, "I dont have a problem, I dnt hurt myself"

We keep arguing about loads of things, and Im at the point where I cant take it anymore.

Lastnight she told me that she still wants to do it (cut herself) I said she shouldn't be thinking like that, and then when I got nothing positive from her, I got angry and I said:
"Go and slit your wrists, and die".

Someone please help.

P.S I have read alot online about self harmers but shes not willing to help herself.

giggles

she might feel she doesn't "deserve" you, that it's draining her to try and be a "proper" person.
you need to let her know you will be as much help as you possibly can, either as a friend or a boyfriend. you are probably the only person who knows she hurts herself. now she can't face the reality of dealing with herself, so she denies it, and finishes things with you... do you see a pattern? she can't cope with pain, with negative feelings at all. you can't teach her that either.
this girl is seriously ill. she needs a lot of care, and attention and help from a PROFESSIONAL. And she needs to gently realise that unless she gets it, she is killing herself. she needs support, but she needs to accept that support first. there is nothing you can do to convince her to let you in.
talk to her gently, and leave it with her to decide. she has a chance of a friend, support and a chance to heal. but she has to make that choice.
look after yourself, you're really putting yourself through the mill.

cataleptic

:'-( well that's ur choice not mine

angleyez62

You cannot help anyone who is not willing to help themselves! I would say go low and talk to her parents or someone close to her. If not then I say make her go see a doctor. Trick her into it just so a doctor has the chance to tell her to her face that she is sick!
Its the same concept as anorexia or somehting like that! I have anorexia and denied I had a problem until my boyfriend took extremely extensive measures.
If there is nothing you can do anymore, leave her. I know its hard but sometimes you have to do what feels like the most wrong thing ever!