My girlfriend has recently broken up with me (About 1 1/2 months ago) and I am feeling lost. We had been living together for about 2 months, and I had moved out of the place that I shared rent with my roomates. When she left, she left me with all of the bills that were partly her responsibility. I am now being evicted, with no place to really go. I am currently staying at my brothers apartment, and his lease is up in about a month. He already has plans, for after he moves out. So, he is out of the question as a roommate. I have nowhere to live after this, I have lost my job, and bills are piling up. I don't even have money for food at this point. The only other option I have is to move to Arizona, and live with my best friend. Even though he is married, and has a kid as well. I feel completely lost right now. I mean, I was completely happy when my girlfriend and I were living together, and it seemed as thoug my life was goig in a positive direction. Now that she is gone, I feel like I have been stripped of everything, including my dignity. I am not happy, and at 26 years old, I don't have much going for me right now. I have been through these kind of downs before in my life, but I think I am at my wits end when it comes to all of these depressing, negative times. I am sick of it! I just need a little help, because the light at the end of the tunnel seems very dim at this point!

Hi Star

I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened. It is such a shock when a relationship finishes, whether it is out of the blue or not, the feeling of isolation can be overwhelming and that is set aside from your other problems on top of this.

I appreciate your brother is moving and has plans, is he willing to help? Do you have any other family at all?

Sounds like you have a good friend in Arizona who is ready and willing to help you until you can find a job and a place to live. It may seem a long way to go, but you can not stay where you are and hope things will go back to they way they were 2 1/2 months ago.

Make a clean break and move to where you have food and shelter, then take time to mourn your loss. I understand your friend has a family but if he is happy for you to stay with him, then he wants to help you, so let him, you do not have to interact until you are ready.

Don't give up Star there are always people who care about you, just take one step at a time and seek counselling if you want someone to talk to face to face, sometimes it helps speaking to a total stranger.

When you are in a relationship where you date never move in with your partner or share any bills or money you make. When you have a girlfriend and is not married NEVER MOVE IN WITH THEM. Even if you think you know them because chances are if your living with your girlfriend you will lose everything. The only time you should live with your partner is only if you married with them. You should have your own place to live and pay your own bills. When your living with someone your dating and if you break up things like what happened to you will happen.

Well now this is what you need to do. Forget the past and work on the future. First live with your best friend. Get a job as soon as you can even if it has to be in Burgerking because you need to pay your bills if you can't get them paid in time get a loan. Next rent a room or apartment from someone. Next try to get a living on your own and work to a job with better pay. You dug yourself a big hole but you need to get over the past and work for your future it will be tuff but YOU CAN DO IT!!

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Originally Posted by jshrckstar

My girlfriend has recently broken up with me (About 1 1/2 months ago) and I am feeling lost. We had been living together for about 2 months, and I had moved out of the place that I shared rent with my roomates. When she left, she left me with all of the bills that were partly her responsibility. I am now being evicted, with no place to really go. I am currently staying at my brothers apartment, and his lease is up in about a month. He already has plans, for after he moves out. So, he is out of the question as a roomate. I have nowhere to live after this, I have lost my job, and bills are piling up. I dont even have money for food at this point. The only other option I have is to move to Arizona, and live with my best friend. Even though he is married, and has a kid as well. I feel completely lost right now. I mean, I was completely happy when my girlfriend and I were living together, and it seemed as thoug my life was goig in a positive direction. Now that she is gone, I feel like I have been stripped of everything, including my dignity. I am not happy, and at 26 years old, I dont have much going for me right now. I have been through these kind of downs before in my life, but I think I am at my wits end when it comes to all of these depressing, negative times. I am sick of it! I just need a little help, because the light at the end of the tunnel seems very dim at this point!

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K, this really isn't an answer because I don't exactly know what to say about this other than what she did was wrong but she obviously doesn't want to be with you and you're only hurting yourself by holding on to what isn't there... Anyway, on to my question... This is weird because I have heard of SO many people moving to Arizona with friends! You mentioned how you'd like to move with a friend but he's married and has a kid now... I have friends who just moved to Arizona who just had a baby... Weird huh? I think so... K, really there's no question cause I highly doubt it's the same people since this is a big world... Just thought to myself "what a coincidence!"

This is an opportunity to work on yourself, to chase a career you have always wanted to try, to exercise and become the best person you can be, to go on a life adventure and to enrich your knowledge base and become a better, more interesting, more compassionate person. Now is the time to grow. Happiness does not come cheap, it's something you have to build and nurture, protect and secure. It will never simply be given to you and it shouldn't come easily because when happiness is given to you and you don't have to work for it, it becomes easier to take it for granted. Breaking up with your girlfriend could be the best thing that ever happened to you. Now get to work and stop playing the role of a victim!