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I keep having dreams about my ex-boyfriend and people in his family. There are times when I can't recall in my dream if I married him or my husband now. I'm always very upset in my dream because I don't want to be married to my ex, but keep thinking I am and made the wrong choice in my dreams. I never even see my ex anymore, or his family. Can anyone explain this? It's driving me crazy. Any insight would be appreciated.
I had tons of dreams about exes before. Tons of them that bothered me a lot because I wondered the same thing as you. I spoke to someone who explained that there were probably several more likely reasons I was having the dreams other than the possibility that I was feeling I made the wrong choice. It could have been that the relationships lacked closure, or that there were simply just certain qualities that one of my exes had that were lacking in my current siginificant other. In any case, after recieving this information and giving it some thought I stopped having the dreams. I was also told that the biggest problem is reading into dreams too much, it will sometimes cause them to repeat if you are dwelling on them, because it is your subconcious that conjures up these dreams in the first place. If you want to talk to someone who knows more about dreams, then go for it. But in the mean time try not to worry about it too much, or to feel guilty about anything that happens in your dreams. They are just dreams, and rarely reflect your true feelings.
Think about the things that remind you of your ex.
For instance Starbucks always reminded me of my ex because the only time I ever went there was with her. The solution is to make new memories instead of being controlled by the past. I started going there on my own. I don't drink coffee so I bought tea or went with friends.
Point is to replace anything bad with something good. This really only works once you have closure with your ex. You know that has happened when you not only wish them well but also wish for good things to happen to them (apart form your influence).
Be creative and make new and better memories with your husband and laugh at any silly dreams.
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