I dont feel like living anymore!

jellybean92 · #1 Jul 18, 2007, 07:15 AM

Well it all started off when i started hanging around witha new group at school and my mum didnt aprove of it. She kept telling me to keep away and i kept telling her to leave me alone and that i would hang around with who i wanted, then this caused arguments between us.
Then one day my older brother had seen enough of me and my mum arguing and followed me, after me and my mum had yet another argument. My brother tried to get me home nut i refused and we started fighting in the street someone phoned the police and when the police arrived my brother had already gone back home. I had told the police i just wanted to leave it as once my brother had calmed down we would appologize to each other so they said that was fine.
But about an hour later i was sitting in the police station being questioned about what happened. When i kept teling them i just wanted to leave it they told me that if i didnt start talking to them they were going to phone social workers and get me put into care. this kind of scared me a bit, and they also told me i wasnt giving them a statement, so i told them about what happned and then they took me out to my mum. The next day we found out that my brother wasnt allowed in our street or in our family home and he isnt allowed any contact with me.
Without my brother in my life i feel there is no point in living. I have cut my self a few times on my arm and i feel down all the time. My mum isnt coping very well either and when ever she is in a mood she takes it out on me by telling me its all my fault that my brother isnt allowed near our house. I know i am to blame but i never knew i was giving a state-ment. I just cant cope with all of this. I am only 14 years old and i cant atke it anymore!!! Please help!!!!!!

tam_83 · Jul 18, 2007, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by jellybean92

Well it all started off when i started hanging around witha new group at school and my mum didnt aprove of it. She kept telling me to keep away and i kept telling her to leave me alone and that i would hang around with who i wanted, then this caused arguments between us.
Then one day my older brother had seen enough of me and my mum arguing and followed me, after me and my mum had yet another argument. My brother tried to get me home nut i refused and we started fighting in the street someone phoned the police and when the police arrived my brother had already gone back home. I had told the police i just wanted to leave it as once my brother had calmed down we would appologize to each other so they said that was fine.
But about an hour later i was sitting in the police station being questioned about what happened. When i kept teling them i just wanted to leave it they told me that if i didnt start talking to them they were going to phone social workers and get me put into care. this kind of scared me a bit, and they also told me i wasnt giving them a statement, so i told them about what happned and then they took me out to my mum. The next day we found out that my brother wasnt allowed in our street or in our family home and he isnt allowed any contact with me.
Without my brother in my life i feel there is no point in living. I have cut my self a few times on my arm and i feel down all the time. My mum isnt coping very well either and when ever she is in a mood she takes it out on me by telling me its all my fault that my brother isnt allowed near our house. I know i am to blame but i never knew i was giving a state-ment. I just cant cope with all of this. I am only 14 years old and i cant atke it anymore!!! Please help!!!!!!

What was the context of the fight? This doesn't make sense.
Was he violent towards you and the Police?
Has he a history of violence?
What is it about your new friends that your ma doesn't like?

jellybean92 · Jul 18, 2007, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by tam_83

What was the context of the fight? This doesn't make sense.
Was he violent towards you and the Police?
Has he a history of violence?
What is it about your new friends that your ma doesn't like?

well we were both rolling around the ground he was pulling my hair and i was slapping him. no he doesnt have a history of violence this is the first time he has ever been in trouble with the police in his life and he is 18. Er i am not to sure what it is about them that my mum doesnt like as she has never actually told me that she just says she doesnt like them and calls them sluts and slags.

tam_83 · Jul 18, 2007, 07:45 AM

I think its your ma that u need to talk to and demand to know what is the problem with your friends so as in order to try to set it right... Are they slags and sluts? If they are fair enough on your ma's part..
So your brother never did this before? Has he a criminal past with the police? Suspected or confirmed...?
in your upset you must have said that he frightened you and they took it out of context..
This will blow over...it always does...
unlikely to be anything you'll laugh about in years to come though!!
How old are your friends?

tam_83 · Jul 18, 2007, 07:45 AM

I think its your ma that u need to talk to and demand to know what is the problem with your friends so as in order to try to set it right... Are they slags and sluts? If they are fair enough on your ma's part..
So your brother never did this before? Has he a criminal past with the police? Suspected or confirmed...?
in your upset you must have said that he frightened you and they took it out of context..
This will blow over...it always does...
unlikely to be anything you'll laugh about in years to come though!!
How old are your friends?

jellybean92 · Jul 18, 2007, 07:52 AM

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Originally Posted by tam_83

I think its your ma that u need to talk to and demand to know what is the problem with your friends so as in order to try to set it right... Are they slags and sluts? If they are fair enough on your ma's part..
So your brother never did this before? Has he a criminal past with the police? Suspected or confirmed...?
in your upset you must have said that he frightened you and they took it out of context..
This will blow over...it always does...
unlikely to be anything you'll laugh about in years to come though!!
How old are your friends?

No they arent slags or sluts my mum says that because they wear make-up and are really girlie and she doesnt think i look right with them coz i am a bit of a tom-boy. My brother has never been involved with the police before.
It cant be sorted unless me and my brother can talk to each other, but no-one will listen. No-one thinks i am sorry for what happened they all think i have no remorse and that i dont care about my brother. and thats what hurts the most. i just wish it was all over!

tam_83 · Jul 18, 2007, 08:03 AM

Ah wee missus...
ken you an ur brother not talk over the phone?
Is it his stubborness rather than a police barr order that is stoppin him frae comin home?hurt pride and so on?
I think yer ma is frightened that she is losing her wee girl...your personality is probably taking on new angles and mayb yer losin the old tom boyishness?Mayb she doesn't respect overly girlish girls...tell her these are the doors you need to go through to grow up!! (don't shout that at her!the whole neighbourhood i'd hear and think they had a case of hippism comin on!!)
Talk to me again tomorrow cos i'm finished work now. Be good and if everyone see's you keepin a calm head it wears onto them eventually and they do the same..
tomorrow.



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