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I've suffered from depression for 4years and its getting to the stage of not coping! there are many causes of this and seeing a counselor didn't seem to help. Anti-depressants just seem to mask the symptoms, any suggestions? Please help can't cope anymore?
If you are getting a prescription from a doctor, tell him or her this isn't working. If you are seeing a therapist, tell him or her this isn't working. They have a right to know and as a patient you have an obligation to tell. It can mean you need to "shop around" for the right drug (that is a very common experience) or that you aren't getting to the bottom of it in therapy. Depression can literally be a fight for your life, I know firsthand. If you aren't in anyone's care, make immediate arrangements to go back and this time be very candid. There is no magic fix out here in the world. But there is lots of help. Don't be one of the people who dies of "terminal uniqueness" - I have seen a bunch of that and its always very sad. This is no joke. Please let the help help you, okay?
If you are getting a prescription from a doctor, tell him or her this isn't working. If you are seeing a therapist, tell him or her this isn't working. They have a right to know and as a patient you have an obligation to tell. It can mean you need to "shop around" for the right drug (that is a very common experience) or that you aren't getting to the bottom of it in therapy. Depression can literally be a fight for your life, I know firsthand. If you aren't in anyone's care, make immediate arrangements to go back and this time be very candid. There is no magic fix out here in the world. But there is lots of help. Don't be one of the people who dies of "terminal uniqueness" - I have seen a bunch of that and its always very sad. This is no joke. Please let the help help you, okay?
Don't be one of the people who dies of "terminal uniqueness"-Val, what is this? You got me kinda worried...
Don't be one of the people who dies of "terminal uniqueness"-Val, what is this? You got me kinda worried...
What I mean by that is this:
Depression kills by way of suicide. I have had something like a front row seat to more than a few suicides (including two attempts of my own). One of the most deadly ideas is "I am beyond help... I am so unique that no solution exists out there for me". I am hoping I don't hear subtle tones of it in the original post but if i am, I am gently, lovingly calling it out with that remark about terminal uniqueness. This thinking often exists in someone close to suicide and it needs to be gently challenged and reframed, if possible.
Depression kills by way of suicide. I have had a front row seat to more than a few suicides (including two attempts of my own). One of the most deadly ideas is "I am beyond help... I am so unique that no solution exists out there for me". I am hoping I don't hear subtle tones of it in the original post but if i am, I am gently, lovingly calling it out with that remark about terminal uniqueness. That is thinking that often exists in someone close to suicide and it needs to be gently challenged and reframed, if possible.
Does that make it clearer for you?
Do you believe people can suffer illnesses or even die from a broken heart?
Of course! I believe the human is a very complicated, interconnected physical, emotional and spiritual being. I like the holistic approach best. I am a big fan (and consumer) of psychological and spiritual help too. I tend to "collect" medical people who have great spiritual hearts and see themselves as healers. I also think that our current culture in the US places far too much importance on the physical at the expense of the psychological and spiritual side of humans. And we are all paying a price for that too. As a result of that, some ailments (depression is one) sometimes don't get treated consistantly. So it bears looking around, getting second opinions, etc.
If Please Help Me doesn't get help one way, they can try another. But it has to start with letting the current ones know its not helping, to be fair about it.
I once went to a councellor who said a way of getting rid of your worries and depression is to write yourself a letter about every thing that is worrying you. Write down absolutely everything. Get everything right out of your system. Then get a match and burn the letter.Imagine in your mind that Every puff of smoke that comes from the letter you are burning is the problem dispearing in the air. Another trick is to write a letter again rap it up around a medium sized stone go to a lake or pond and throw the letter rapped in the stone in the pond the ripples you make in the water are your problems evaporating. Another good thing is to look in the mirror each morning and tell yourself you love your self, that you are beautiful cleaver, kind,honest. You keep doing that you will start to believe in yourself. The depression will lift and nobody can ever make you feel low. Because if you don't love yourself who will.
Thank you all for your help and advice, it really is appreciated. The counselling was adviced by my 6th Form College tutor, however now I have finished college and the sessions have ended.
You said you have suffered from depression for 4 years. Did you ever have depression before that? What triggered it 4 years ago? I felt I needed counseling several years ago and I went to 3 different ones that I felt "flat" with and then I found one that I connected with.
Val is so right, different medication, different therapists. Stay on top of it. Go to the book store, there are so many books there on depression, thumb thru them and find a good one for you. There are many tools out there, but if you feel you cannot do it alone, get help.
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