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My daughter is 34yrs and is hard to live with. She throws tantrums whenever she feels unhappy about something. It is so scary that she looks possessed. She makes up stories and lies. Takes things that do not belong to her. Always late or cant keep time.
Does not take responsibility for anything. Her life a cos and has no organization. Her mind is always going 24-7. has problem sleeping and does not maintaining a schedule. She constantly complains she is sick and that she does not want to be here in this planet
She can not focus even to boil water without burning the pan, or pouring a bath without flooding the bathroom. 99.9% of what she says never happens. You can not count on her for anything. What is this condition called??? She is on the other hand a sweet adorable girl very smart and likeable.
There is an online test for personality disorder diagnosis. Now, always remember this site is not a replacement for professional and medical care. This will help you in determining what is needed for your child. Sometimes we all will need help in explaining our special problem to a professional.
Mam, if your daughter is 34 years old and still living at home, I would say there is a big problem here. Of course I am speaking from the typical American family home when I say this, and I know many families of different cultures stick together more. You say she is throwing tantrums and not being responsible...sounds to me like she has been babied and spoiled.
However I would think there is more going on in your daughters head than anybody here could possibly diagnose by reading what you have said. My first thought is a depression disorder. Lunagoddess has a good idea to try those online quizzes, maybe they will help you figure something out. My suggestion would be to seek professional help. Your daughter is 34 years old! she should be taking care of herself!!.... I am 24 and I have been doing it for 8 years now...The only excuse for a 34 y/o living irresponsibly with her parents is that she has a mental/physical need that she cannot handle on her own, or they need HER care (which I do not see this as the case).
No, s2tp, you were not the only one to catch that!!!
Yes, 34 is WAY too old to be living at home. One thing I don't remember is...has she always lived at home? Has she come back home recently and if so, why?
Luna gave some good websites, and she is correct in that mental illnesses must be diagnosed by a professional.
I also wondered if there was a possibility of drug abuse. These are many of the symptoms of an abuse problem.
I really don't want to judge, but if your daughter acts like this 24/7 I can see why she would have a hard time holding a job- is that true? You didn't mention anything about her employment status, but I would guess she has bounced around from place to place. People can have a hard time working with someone that wired up- your her mom so you are more forgiving. I would take her to a doctor to get her checked out. You never know, it could be something medical. Has she always been this way? Did she have a hard time in school growing up? Even the most spoiled children usually outgrow tantrums
This does not sound like spoiled to me.
My guess would be that 1. there it is a mental illness that is causing your daughters instability, 2. drug abuse, or 3. both.
The only way to try to help her is for you to make an appointment with a doctor and have her evaluated.
Kae
Quite frankly I would say this problem has to do with the parent. 34 years old and your still keeping track whether she is late or not, organised or not. Must still live at home, you created that dependance and now she can not do anything. Honestly look in the mirror. Some parents raise there children doing everything for them, then it is hard for them to do anything for themselves. You have in my mind from your post have created a dependant child. So where does the mental illness lie, It might have started with you? Everybody is saying have the 34 year old evaluated, but I think the mother should be evaluated as well. Both of them. Also I do not want to leave a side the possibilities of it being any medical condition, first of all we all need to know if this is the way she has always been, or just started happening. Could be something even neorological, but the only way to know for sure is to seek medical help. Not only councelling but also specialists (Medical condition) example epilepsy.
I say what I see. Please do not take it personal but look at it and maybe you will discover the truth.
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