I'm 17, and am currently in my last few months of college before going to university. I've never been a confident person, but I was becoming livelier. However, recently I've been crying at really silly things. Like my friend will ask me how I am on msn and I'll cry about it. I know I'm worried about the whole transition into university idea, and whether I'm doing the right thing, as well as my exam grades. Also, my parents are very strict, and all I do is go to college and work. I'm not allowed to go out apart from that, so I spend all my time in my bedroom, and I do get very lonely and crave company. I find myself just staring into space, daydreaming or just randomly crying and not being able to fully explain why. And when I do, its over really pointless things. I sometimes end up so down that even when I'm in college with my friends, I struggle to become involved in conversations and instead find myself just staring at nothing and not even being able to tell anyone what I'm actually thinking about. Why is this happening and is there anything I can do to sort it out?

talaniman

Start with a check up, and be candid with your doctor, so he can make a complete assessment of your physical health, just to rule a few things out. Tell him what you have told us.

forevernow

It feels that your heart is reaching out, and your emotions are coming up to the surface. See if you can let these emotions go. It's not the same as expressing or suppressing them, but releasing them like opening up a pressure bottled wine

When all these emotions are up and out, you'll be feeling happier and more joyous.

We're here to listen and support if you need anything. Welcome to the site, btw.

P. S. I love you
...jk!

psiloveyou

Thanks for the help.
I was gonna say, because im not exactly confident I tend not to talk about how I feel. I feel like I'm a bit of a burden if I'm complaining to people. Plus my self esteem isn't that high so I always end up blaming myself.
I probably will end up going to the doctors for a check-up to be honest. For a while now, I've had the problem of shaking and feeling very light headed if I don't have something sugary or I miss a meal, but other times it's just spontaneous. I can't control it, so it might all be connected somehow I guess?
Alot of the time I feel worse because I get so lonely. It means I have far too much time to just think about all the negative points, instead of making more positive memories really.
xxx.

shygrneyzs

Going to the University is major life transition. If you are leaving home and going to be a resident as well as student at that University, yes, this prospect can cause the anxiety.

Getting checked out by a doctor is a wise choice. You want to make sure you are physically well. Please do explain all your symptoms and stress (with the crying). It is not complaining at all. It is called taking care of yourself.

Good luck to you.

psiloveyou

i do agree it would be a good idea to have a check up at the doctors, but the only problem is finding the time. i always in work or college, and when im not my mum and dad don't let me out.
i was down again today. i was sat with a group of friends and it felt as though they were completely blanking me. but it was actually because i was just daydreaming again.

talaniman

Make the time, instead of daydreaming with friends.

fubby

^ yeah, i was going to suggest purposely daydreaming at times when it wouldn't affect what you're doing.

daydreaming is fun,but what do you daydream about? and why? I wonder if you're daydreaming about something you want to happen in your life.
I know usually when i daydream it's about a fantasy, something i want.
maybe you want your life to be different and this is why you're upset often?
or maybe you really don't know what you're daydreaming about..
are you avoiding conversations with your friends? how comfortable are you around them?
just a thought!


sounds like all that time in your bedroom is not helping your mental situation. maybe you need more interactions and activites to go out and do... maybe you could talk to your parents about that. and if they are not understanding, then maybe you'll get the chance to do this whenever you move out! I guess try and take in the things to do while you're out, try and make yourself talk to your friends and put off daydreaming until later.

I'm sorry i can't be more helpful...
i wish i knew more about you or the situation, I remember awhile ago feeling EXACTLY how you described. And i'm not like it anymore, so i guess that means there is hope!

Good luck my dear!

psiloveyou

Alot of the time I just daydream about things that would be nice to happen but never do.
Other times its as though I just switch off and when I snap back to reality I can't remember what I was thinking of.
I sometimes feel like its wrong of me to join in conversations. Especially when my friends are talking about things they've done together and I wasn't involved because my parents wouldn't let me.
My parents don't seem to understand, and say that I should respect what they say and they're doing it to protect me. But in the long run, its just damaging me more. Because now I have low confidence, low self-esteem and am just totally fed up with being imprisoned. I just feel trapped.

talaniman

Be patient, I have a good feeling, you will be more independant soon, as you are at the age to make your own decisions.