I'm 17, and am currently in my last few months of college before going to university. I've never been a confident person, but I was becoming livelier. However, recently I've been crying at really silly things. Like my friend will ask me how I am on msn and I'll cry about it. I know I'm worried about the whole transition into university idea, and whether I'm doing the right thing, as well as my exam grades. Also, my parents are very strict, and all I do is go to college and work. I'm not allowed to go out apart from that, so I spend all my time in my bedroom, and I do get very lonely and crave company. I find myself just staring into space, daydreaming or just randomly crying and not being able to fully explain why. And when I do, its over really pointless things. I sometimes end up so down that even when I'm in college with my friends, I struggle to become involved in conversations and instead find myself just staring at nothing and not even being able to tell anyone what I'm actually thinking about. Why is this happening and is there anything I can do to sort it out?

fubby

I understand.

I hope your situation lighens up for you soon, just hang in there! A lot of the time we think our life is just going to be the same forever - until suddenly it isn't - and then we can't believe how much time we spent feeling down.

Are you shy?
Or unable to start trying things to get more independence?
Because you could always start saving up your money to move out!
Or do ou feel that your parents get too offended by that?

I understand what it is like to feel trapped, I have been in a similar situation that changed a few years ago.
Hang in there!

If you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to email me!


Take care

N0help4u

You could be having anxiety.
Change your eating habits.
Eat small healthy snacks through the day.
Eat less sugar and more protein and B vitamins
Your blood sugar may be off too. You really should find time to go to the drs.

psiloveyou

im not sure if its anything to do with anxiety, because ive not really had much chance to research it, but i usually get what i call 'the shakes' when i haven't eaten for a while (where my whole body shakes and if i hold my hand out flat in front of me you can actually see it shaking) and i also go light headed. however, lately i've been getting it more often, and its even after i've eaten. i can just be sat down and all of a sudden ill get the shakes, or ill go light headed.
ive assumed its some form of diabetes or something like that?
in regards to fubby's post, yeah i am really shy when it comes to going out, meeting people etc. i can sometimes be so shy that i would rather someone else went to the till in a shop before me just so i wasn't first, and i always walk behind people, not infornt where i can be noticed. im moving out in september anyway to go to university, but im scared that i'm not going to be able to do it because of my lack of confidence and not being used to having my independence.

talaniman

To overcome shyness be among people. Take baby steps and just say hello to those you interact with. Hello, how are you today is enough.

fubby

I'm not sure why i'm posting here so much! I think I can relate to you well...maybe thats it.

yeah, "the shakes" definitely sounds like you need food, OR it could be anxiety. Well you're not sure if it is anxiety or not, but you should definitely look into it. Especially with being shy and having low confidence and worrying about your current situation.

A lot of anxiety comes from the difference between what your life is now and what you want it to be. I don't know if this is the case with you...

I'd say you'll feel 100% better once you're moved out and you can call the shots.

I'm just so curious, what do you WANT your life to be like?
Who would be in it, where would you be, what would your daily routine be like?

And also, you say you're shy (and i'll believe you if you say it) but you said you have a job? So you mustn't be TOO shy?

psiloveyou

i just want my life to have a bit if variety, instead of always being the same.
i want to be able to come home after college, and just for a few hours think 'you know what? im gonna go see a friend. have a good chat. ive not that in a while!'
but i don't. i go to college. then i either go to work and come home or just go straight home. i spend all night everynight just on the internet because i have nothing else to do. i stay in my room from five till eleven, then i go to bed. weekends i get up, and stay in my room all day, then go to bed. the end.
and i know i have a job, but i go into work where i talk on the phone so people can't see me, and im really quiet- people don't even notice i'm there.

psiloveyou

Saturday night my mum decided would be a good time to have a go at me because she said i'd been moody all day, when actually i'd just been really quiet because i'd been down.
she found a webcam that my friend had given me so that we can stay in touch once we both go to uni etc, but my mum as always has problems with trust, so she took it off me because she assumes im going to be showing off to loads of men on there....which is odd considering i've never even had a proper boyfriend!
she then said that i had to stop chatting to some people. i met them on a trip to london with college, but they actually go to the college over the other side of manchester. my mum said they are from the bad side of manchester so they will be a bad influence.
i ended up spending saturday night lay on my bed staring at nothing, with my laptop and my phone packed away because i was so tired on my mum suspecting me with everything. i lat on my bed crying till about eleven, then i went down and my mum was acting as though nothing had happened, so i said good night and went to bed but hardly slept.
i give up. i feel like i'm in a prison and the friends i had were the only bit of independence i had. now my mum is trying to control that too. i don't know what to do.