I am 27 years old my boyfriend(32) was a wonderful, loving and caring man then he started turning into somebody I didn't know. He stopped texting me, calling me, calling me horrible names and distancing himself from me. I would get random texts from him saying things like "someday I will love myself as much as you love me" and that he was a horrible person.. I finally was able to get out of him that he had been off his Lexapro, which he says he was taking for social anxiety disorder. He would go days without talking to me but act okay around his friends for his "happy hours" and nights out at the bar on fridays. I confronted him that he was treating me horribly and that he needed to go to his counselor. He then told me he stopped going to see his counselor and didn't know if he was going to go back. I told him I thought that was bad idea and that he should go back. He didn't. He got back on the meds from the advice from his friends whom I asked for help from, because I was seriously worried and concerned not to mention completely emotionally torn apart. The first couple of weeks nothing changed he was still rude and mean to me. I knew it would take time for the meds to work again and I supported him and let him know how much I loved him. Then the 3rd week he opened up and told me never to leave him and that he loved me and sorry for what he has been doing. And I assured him we could work through it. He started exercising and making plans with me it was great then literally overnight he changed. He dumped me outside of a bar/restaurant in the middle of his friends engagement party and told me he didn't love me. He showed zero emotion he looked me right into my eyes and told me. I was in shock I didn't know what to do I cried he just stood there like a stone emotionless. The next day we talked and hung out all week long, it was great. He again told me he loved me and was sorry, then the following Monday he broke up with me on the phone, like a coward. I went to his house a week later to get my stuff and he just stood there didn't say a word while I got all my stuff together. It was like he didn't even care about me or my feelings. It was as if he was a robot. What does this mean? Why did he do what he did? How does someone tell me he loves me and for me to never leave him and then disrespect me so much? Is this social anxiety disorder or someweird personality disorder? Or just a lexapro side effect?? Any advice or help to get me over him would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Lexapro being an antidepressant is used for mood disorders, if diagnosed inappropriately can have varying side effects depending on the personality of the person. I can only say, he was pretty spaced out at the time and probably was someplace else.

I don't know the particulars of his personality before your discussion on his behavior. Does he have a family who monitor his whereabouts? Has he lived with people who care for him?

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