Am I going into depression?

s_cianci · Oct 27, 2007, 01:34 PM

I don't know if you're actually depressed or just burned-out from overwork. I think you suggested part of the problem in your thread. You ought to endeavor to get involved in some types of activities to occupy yourself when you're not working. Since your boyfriend is so far away and you only get to see him on a limited basis it's imperative that you have other things to do besides just work. Is there any possibility of cutting back your hours? Or maybe finding yourself a more lucrative job? After all, you're working 60 hours a week but can't even afford a car and you're forced to live with your mother so you can't be earning very much. You might even consider relocating to where your boyfriend is or at least considering what opportunities might be available in his area. I think you've fallen into the rut of "all work and no play makes ____ (insert your first name) a dull girl." You're young and free so take advantage of that to explore whatever opportunities may be out there. At the very least, take yourself a vacation, without pay if necessary and go visit your boyfriend.

guapaestujefa · Oct 27, 2007, 01:43 PM

I currently live in Canada and my boyfriend lives in Mexico now. We have planned on living together but its going to be 2years and we are saving our money now to be able to afford to. Right now I am learning spanish. So I don't want to cut back hours because then I will have to wait longer to be with him. And I don't have a car because my mom won't drive so I have no one to teach me. And if I'm moving to mexico in 2 years my license here will be pointless

Wondergirl · Oct 27, 2007, 01:56 PM

Wouldn't it be good to at least know how to drive and have even gotten a license and practiced by going to the store or the mall or church or wherever? If you wait until you get to Mexico, you will have to take the time to learn. I think Mexican traffic is a lot wilder than Canadian, so having had practice would be a good thing.

What about spending a couple of hours a week volunteering at a hospital or an animal shelter? You will learn new skills there and meet people and do something fun as well as be helpful to society.

guapaestujefa · Oct 27, 2007, 02:03 PM

I don't have a car to practise with

Wondergirl · Oct 27, 2007, 02:10 PM

Certainly there is a way. Canada is not at the end of the world. Is there a relative or friend or neighbor who would lend a car and even teach you? What about a driving school? Have you checked their prices? I'm guessing the cost of lessons and getting your license would be a very wise move financially and socially and maritally and for your personal satisfaction.

guapaestujefa · Oct 27, 2007, 02:24 PM

Thank you, but I really don't want to spend money on that, I'd rather save all that money to get a place with my man. I guess I'm just stubborn.

Wondergirl · Oct 27, 2007, 02:31 PM

Have you checked prices? Maybe it's not "all that money" like you think it is. Sometimes we have to look past our stubbornness and single-mindedness for today to find the beneficial things for the future.

Your boyfriend is spending money on school, on having a happy life, on his car. Meanwhile, you sit in Canada being stubborn and pinching pennies and being burnt out. I don't understand.

guapaestujefa · Oct 27, 2007, 02:41 PM

He doesn't have to pay for anything, his parents pay for it all. The money he works for is money for like goingout or whatever he wants. Otherwise his parents pay for everything!

Wondergirl · Oct 27, 2007, 02:43 PM

So how is this going to work when you move to Mexico?

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