Some of you may recognize me from some of my postings on relationships.
If I look back at my life even just a year ago, I was very active and not feeling so depressed. I own a business that's doing well, I have several great hobbies, I have great friends. The average person would say " Why are you so depressed?" Well... I am!
I went through a bad breakup at the beginning of April that pretty much crippled me.
I have been seeing a therapist for a few months now and that seems to help sometimes.
I started working out, getting in shape, I am a 14 week non-smoker now after 20 years, I was feeling a lot better. This woman that dumped me is still very much in my head.
The past week or so has been horrible. I don't even want to leave the house. All I want to do is lay around and be lazy. I feel extremely lonely now. I have had long periods of being single and was very much o.k. with it. But now its terrible. I'm 36 and feel like I'm running out of time. ( You older folks reading this are probably all chuckling right now)
I am just not happy at all with myself right now. I'm afraid of getting on medication.
Somebody cheer me up PLEASE!
Im sorry to hear your story. You're heartbroken now and I don't think there's even a joke or a word can ever make your feeling away in a snap. If you can, try to put up a project so you'll be occupied on something worthwhile. Just come here often and we'll be here for you. You are not alone, everybody has their story of heartache. Also visit the Humor & Comedy posts here.
Hey I have been there myself lately and it is a lonely place to be but whatever you do DON'T give up on yourself. I have been married for 23 years and my husband left me for someone he worked with. It has taken me over 8 months to realize that your happiness don't depend on that person that you are so much in love with because if they don't feel the same way or in my case he walked away from that hard core love that everyone else dreams about there is really nothing you can do to change their minds. Just pick yourself up and continue to live your life, make yourself happy and everything else will fall into place. Trust me. The best revenge is for the other person to see that they can't hold you back. 8 times of 10 they will more likely realize what they let go. It may be too late or you will never know... because no matter what there is always HOPE that holds on. The best thing you could do for yourself right now is realize that you can't change anyone but you can change yourself. So live it up and be happy... You are still very young (I know because I am only 39, and I am looking at 40 as the new 20's) lol, so get out there and enjoy life... Life is too short to be sad, depressed and lonely... Best wishes.
It is normal to be lonely and miserable after a breakup with a partner who really meant a lot to a person in more ways than love. It just takes *time* to get over the unhappiness and heartbreak, time. Almost all of us have to endure this kind of misery in our lives... but, it does heal but leaves us altered for the better.
Just guard against quick fixes such as drinking alcohol or entering into any kind of addictive behavior. Go about your life every day... job, hobbies, sports, intellectual interests... whatever. Make sure you cry and express your emotions... get them out of you or they will make you sick in the long run.
Your friends are being insensitive, let out your emotions with the therapist.
If you do the above, your misery won't last forever... remember that. It may last through Christmas, but it *won't last forever*.
Sincerely, I don't know and I can't say anything that would cheer you up... but I can surely tell you something true.
This feeling you have won't pass that easy and soon. But in time, you will surely get used to it, you will learn how to live with it. Till one day, when you'll realise that the pain has diminuished and that you have the right and power to be happy again.
But for now, just give yourself time to evaluate all your feelings, good or bad. The most important thing is to find your peace of mind and spirit, don't lose yourself. Spend the time only for yourself, to regain your trust and optimism... because for each tear there's a smile out there. And you should smile again because someone could fall in love with your smile. Someone who's the true one this time.
I do understand you. The man I was supposed to marry this year left me a few months ago, on the 5th of January, when we were coming back from Rome where we spent our last new year's eve together.
I'm still fighting with the pain inside me... but I don't want to give up. And neither should you!
One more thing, remember that everything in life happens with a very reason.
Its funny how people can be lonely even married as myself. I have no friends other than my wife I don't know anyone and never figured out why I cant make friends. I'm 57 and feel horrible I've never been able to break this cycle I just try to deal with it I have fought depression all my adult life and I'm a very likeable person but cant make friends to hang with. I work a full time job go to work and come home repeat the same thing every day . I cant never feel good allways have a cloud over my head . I never loved life and allways feel it's a punishment to be here I'm married 25 years this time and 7 years on my first marriage . ( I know you don't want a sob story ) but wanted to let you know lots of people feel like this . Now 25 years later don't feel any better just added 25 more years to my miseralble life and I love my wife very much . So try to answer this . My best way to describe myself is like a infant in a mans body infants cant make decisions . I've got into the bible real heavy and still read every day but nothing ever helps . Of course your depression is because you lost your love not born with it . I see you wrote this in 08 2 years ago you may be married to her now or someone else .
Take care dave
Colybcheese- you just described me to a "T" there is nothing worse than feeling lonely.. I feel such a void in my life and feel completely unable to connect with anyone -even my own family -it's devastating some time and I wonder if Life is even worth living and just yesterday realize -this just might be pergatory.
I wish I could look forward to the future -but when I do - I just see more of this feeling for years to come.
I was at work the other day and we were playing a 'get to know you" type game where you have to answer questions annonmysouly and then everyone has to guess which person said it. One of the questions was " If you could meet anyone in the world- who would it be" And everyone was saying " Steve Jobs, Oprah etc.. " and all I could think was " A friend"... I really wish I could just meet a friend.
I desperately wish I could snap out of it,but everything feels grey -and I don't really want to be around any longer and sadly I pray to be taken early.
I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you find some light in your life. I don't think it will come to you - you will have to make the effort to make it happen.
It's nice having someone to chat with who feels the same way - thank you for finding the courage to write how you felt.
I feel the same.. dont want too be here any longer I am 37 this weekend and I have nobody yoo be with..
I haven't had a hug in a very long time.. I feel so alone I have no girlfriend not even a friend too talk too..
Its very frighting.I believe what one of the comments says that this is pergotory .ill go a bit more and says it hell living hell.I don't have the will too live any longer and as I type this I am crying.. I don't want too be alone..
Well maybe you should look to God! It's been a little over 2 years that I've been single after a 10 year relationship. It was a very bad break up but it is what it is! He betrayed me but with God in my life we are OK with each other (we're not best friends) and it feels good to not hate him! My point is I was so broken that after 6 months of partying my *** off I was still lost, depressed, and lonely and with God in my life it helps. Good luck to you and blessings!
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