Bed wetting, lying for sympothy and attention,

sillywolfe · #1 May 17, 2008, 04:10 PM

My sister-inlaw is 19 and wets the bed every night. She likes to lie to get people to feel sorry for her and also likes to cut her self. The thing is, the cuts are never deep. They are nothing more then cat scratches on her legs. She likes to show people for attention. We have tried to be supportive of her. We have even tried taking care of her laundry for her and she still won't work on her problem. Instead of changing her sheets, she leaves them on and sleeps on them and it's a on going cycle. This is causing conflict in my marriage and in the family. My husband and I are the only ones willing to let her stay with us so that she can concentrate on school. We are both at the end of our ropes with her and thinking that maybe she should move back with her mom or on her own. She has been in a mental institution before and admitted that she was making everything up. She claims that there are voices in her head and something scratches her when she is sleeping.
These were things she has confessed about making up and now she starting to do it all over again. What can we do to help her?

Choux · May 17, 2008, 07:33 PM

All you(or she) have to do is strip her bed in the morning and put the sheets in a 30 gallon black garbage bag and spray her room with Glade air freshener. After a couple of days of accumulated sheets, you can take her to do her laundry when you do yours.

The fact that you are directing so much anger toward her is very unhealthy for her and for you and your marriage.

Is her brother able to show her love, that is talk to her, hug her, and take her places, just the two of them??

It is impossible to control people, the only person you can control is yourself. Are you willing to work on your attitude toward her?

Don't place yourself in a mental position of being in competition with her for your husband's attention.

If you find that you are unable to lose your anger, I think the girl would be better living elsewhere.

Best wishes in 2008,



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