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You can't be good at everything you try and it makes me upset. The things that are fun to do the first time I try them I have no talent for and the things I don't like to do I can do really well. For instance I hate running, playing my saxophone, singing, and math, and I love drawing, playing football, basketball, football, and video games... just to name a few. The thing is the stuff I hate to do I can do very well and the stuff I love to do I have no talent for what so ever. I've done 3 years of art classes i've been trying to draw stuff my whole life but I haven't gotten any better and the sad thing is I'm going to college for just that and I have no artistic ability or imagination. The things I can do good I hate doing mostly becuase they leave me feeling physically terrible, I always get extreme headaches, or my body feels like crap after exercise and it tends to stay. I did a daily workout for 2 years straight hoping I could work through it and feel better in the end but i just don't, I eat healthy as well. I have received some very high awards for playing my saxophone but I don't feel good about it I just feel depressed even more when I do a good job at something I hate. It's not a mental hate either I'm never negative about it when I do it I keep a positive attitude the whole entire time with the hopes that some how what I think will make me feel better but I'm wrong.
So in short what I'm trying to say is I do the things I love can't do them at all I have no talent for them and I feel bad becuase I know it's not something that can be a major part of my life. Then I do the things I am very good at doing and I feel bad becuase my body hates it and I just can't seem to shake the feeling that I didn't do a good enough job even though I did terrific and know it, my subconscious mind is attacking the way I think in a way.
Add this to the fact that people tend to hate me at first sight and tend to shy away from me for some reason, even on the internet and I know your thinking that right now. It's not that I don't dress nice or that I'm ugly or something, it's just that people hate my personality. I tend to be very very straight forward in all situations and I tend to be very how would you say someone that tries to be everyones friend without being their friend, and add that to my somewhat to the dark humor my total disregard for other people that I know i'll never meet. Because if I have to confront someone, I'll be nice every single time, but if I can tell people what I really think boy the things I say. Which would explain why I have zero friends.
I really don't know what im trying to ask I don't know what the hell I need to do, all I know is that there is something wrong with me and I have no idea how to find out. Maybe I'm just being too critical of myself or something I just don't know, maybe I'm just a chronic complainer. Someone tell me what I need to Know becuase I sure don't know what it is.
You can't be good at everything you try and it makes me upset. The things that are fun to do the first time I try them I have no talent for and the things I don't like to do I can do really well. For instance I hate running, playing my saxophone, singing, and math, and I love drawing, playing football, basketball, football, and video games... just to name a few. The thing is the stuff I hate to do I can do very well and the stuff I love to do I have no talent for what so ever. I've done 3 years of art classes i've been trying to draw stuff my whole life but I haven't gotten any better and the sad thing is I'm going to college for just that and I have no artistic ability or imagination. The things I can do good I hate doing mostly becuase they leave me feeling physically terrible, I always get extreme headaches, or my body feels like crap after exercise and it tends to stay. I did a daily workout for 2 years straight hoping I could work through it and feel better in the end but i just don't, I eat healthy as well. I have received some very high awards for playing my saxophone but I don't feel good about it I just feel depressed even more when I do a good job at something I hate. It's not a mental hate either I'm never negative about it when I do it I keep a positive attitude the whole entire time with the hopes that some how what I think will make me feel better but I'm wrong.
So in short what I'm trying to say is I do the things I love can't do them at all I have no talent for them and I feel bad becuase I know it's not something that can be a major part of my life. Then I do the things I am very good at doing and I feel bad becuase my body hates it and I just can't seem to shake the feeling that I didn't do a good enough job even though I did terrific and know it, my subconscious mind is attacking the way I think in a way.
Add this to the fact that people tend to hate me at first sight and tend to shy away from me for some reason, even on the internet and I know your thinking that right now. It's not that I don't dress nice or that I'm ugly or something, it's just that people hate my personality. I tend to be very very straight forward in all situations and I tend to be very how would you say someone that tries to be everyones friend without being their friend, and add that to my somewhat to the dark humor my total disregard for other people that I know i'll never meet. Because if I have to confront someone, I'll be nice every single time, but if I can tell people what I really think boy the things I say. Which would explain why I have zero friends.
I really don't know what im trying to ask I don't know what the hell I need to do, all I know is that there is something wrong with me and I have no idea how to find out. Maybe I'm just being too critical of myself or something I just don't know, maybe I'm just a chronic complainer. Someone tell me what I need to Know becuase I sure don't know what it is.
What I, as an observer am seeing just from what you have written, is you are someone who seems to enjoy "beating yourself up" emotionally and mentally and who thinks negatively in spite of all the positive things that there might be.
Do you enjoy doing those things? Sometimes, people can get into a rut where they think that they do enjoy doing that.
It also sounds like you might be clinically depressed with a possible anxiety disorder. But, that would be something for a physician or other professional outside of this site to determine. Have you ever been examined for the diagnosis of those sort of things? Has someone in your life looked down on you a lot or treated you badly?
You know, a huge part of life is about making choices, dealing with the cards with which you have been dealt and weighing the cost and benefit concerning the choices that you make.
Please realize that water seeks its own level, it's a basic law of physics. It's the same way with people. You are going to attract those who are like yourself. There is truth to the old saying that "misery loves company."
You can turn your "scars into stars!" But, that is a choice that you make.
Most of the things really worth doing that will be the most fulfilling in life, are going to take a lot of effort. It's not just practice that makes perfect, but perfect practice that makes perfect!
It sounds like you are probably quite a talented person who is also a perfectionist. A perfectionist so much so, that you think that you might be able to read the minds of people before they have ever met you.
It also sounds like you might have a lot in common with those of us on this site who have more of an artistic bent to them. I would particularly like to hear about your artistic pursuits in drawing and also music. The kind of teachers that you have had for certain things can really make a difference as to how much you will like doing those activities, especially in the visual or musical arts.
Some of your problems might be related to your age and what you are going through because of your age. As such, it would help us to help you the best if you would let us know how old you are. I know that you mention about going to college, but that doesn't really tell us about your age.
What you are talented at and really don't enjoy doing, is a mystery to me. As such, I think that warrants some further discussion here...
That's enough from me for right now. Hopefully, others will be along to also address your post.
You are a whiner and a complainer.....people avoid negative types.
I think you need a life coach to help you with your social skills. Also, you are piling on problems and negativity instead of taking your life one problem at a time, one day at a time.
Life is not easy, you have to prepare yourself for it.
Yes but thats the problem, strangely I hate the fact that I'm good at what I'm good at and I'm having a hard time figuring out why. It's almost as if my mind is against itself and I'm just sitting here taking the damage.
Choux I do agree that I do whine and complain, but I never tell anyone I complain and whine to myself but if you met me and hanged out with me for awhile you wind say that I never whine and complain and I always do everything without fuss. Just becuase I hate doing it doesn't mean I don't. The reason I came here is becuase I get very annoyed with complaining about things to myself.
I do hope that you read and assimilated into your thinking some of what I said, senbunotheard. What do you think about some of those things? I did also ask you a couple of questions in my post. Thank you.
What I, as an observer am seeing just from what you have written, is you are someone who seems to enjoy "beating yourself up" emotionally and mentally and who thinks negatively in spite of all the positive things that there might be.
Do you enjoy doing those things? Sometimes, people can get into a rut where they think that they do enjoy doing that.
I enjoy analyzing myself trying to figure out why the hell I do and think the the things I do.
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It also sounds like you might be clinically depressed with a possible anxiety disorder. But, that would be something for a physician or other professional outside of this site to determine. Have you ever been examined for the diagnosis of those sort of things? Has someone in your life looked down on you a lot or treated you badly?
Nope I don't wanna see a physician, if I can't solve it myself I don't want drugs to do it for me. And no one one close to me has looked down on me or treated me badly, people everywhere else take advantage of me and treat me like .
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You know, a huge part of life is about making choices, dealing with the cards with which you have been dealt and weighing the cost and benefit concerning the choices that you make.
Please realize that water seeks its own level, it's a basic law of physics. It's the same way with people. You are going to attract those who are like yourself. There is truth to the old saying that "misery loves company."
You can turn your "scars into stars!" But, that is a choice that you make.
Most of the things really worth doing that will be the most fulfilling in life, are going to take a lot of effort. It's not just practice that makes perfect, but perfect practice that makes perfect!
It sounds like you are probably quite a talented person who is also a perfectionist. A perfectionist so much so, that you think that you might be able to read the minds of people before they have ever met you.
It also sounds like you might have a lot in common with those of us on this site who have more of an artistic bent to them. I would particularly like to hear about your artistic pursuits in drawing and also music. The kind of teachers that you have had for certain things can really make a difference as to how much you will like doing those activities, especially in the visual or musical arts.
Some of your problems might be related to your age and what you are going through because of your age. As such, it would help us to help you the best if you would let us know how old you are. I know that you mention about going to college, but that doesn't really tell us about your age.
What you are talented at and really don't enjoy doing, is a mystery to me. As such, I think that warrants some further discussion here...
That's enough from me for right now. Hopefully, others will be along to also address your post.
Maybe it is my age or whatnot but I got a huge question facing me, I'm about to put a large sum of money into something I don't know if I can even do or will enjoy... going to college. I just don't know what to do with myself and I don't know how to find out what it is I will like to do, becuase I've never done much, I don't have the resources or money and
I live in the middle of nowhere.
You did write a very good response though and I thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post, seenbutnotheard! It is much appreciated!
Now, I would appreciate it if you would share more of what you feel and think about art and music, please? Also separately, what you feel and think about your involvement in those sort of things?
A lot of times, in order to figure out what is going on with a person, we need to go slowly and discuss things one thing at a time in order to uncover and discover solutions to problems that a person would like to have help with solving.
It does sound like you need a life coach or counselor to help you sort things out. You don't have to be on medication. You can tell the counselor up front that meds are not an option. Trained professionals can help you get past these issues, so you can live a more satisfying life. You wouldn't try surgery on yourself, right?
There is no shame in asking for help and deciding what you want to do with your life before you spend all that money on a college degree you may not want or will use.
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