ok I have a question. Well, I think my boyfriend may have a problem. When we have sex it takes him a very long time to . (Like 3 hours.) Sometimes he never even does. A few times he done it pretty quick, but its not often. Now I don't know if its normal or if I should be worried about him. I mean I have no complants of course! lol. But I feel as if I'm not pleasing him or something. He says I'm great, but I don't know what the deal is. Can someone please help me out? thanks. ???

jhschmeltzer

I am going to resurrect this Q because I am a male with the same problem. I want an answer instead of the typical bull which doesn't address the problem.

I am 44 yrs old, but I've had this problem since my mid-30's, and even occasionally during my late 20's and early thirties. It may be age related, or due to smoking, or a general hardening of the veins in the penis. I also have high-blood pressure and this could be a factor as well.

And I hope so, if true that means it's treatable. I can have great sex for a period of a week or two at the most and then go into "Superman" mode for a week at best followed by days, even weeks of zilch. All I really want is potency for a normal period of 15-20 minutes twice a day, and I don't think at my age that's too much to ask. I want it not so much for myself as for my partner.

I tend to think my problem is psychological, an inability to relax without pressuring myself to perform. To the young lady who began the thread, and all women out there, there is nothing wrong with you AT ALL. If your partner is growing weary of you it won't be manifest in just the bedroom, you'll know it outside there too.

I am lucky to be blessed with a partner who feels just as the woman who began this Q, she doesn't mind (and I can tell she doesn't, so I'm not fooling myself) and I have myriad other ways to please my lady but I believe our sex life would be so much richer if I could just maintain a decent erection on a regular basis instead of a real high high followed by a super low low.

Naturally I don't have the money for all the tests I'd like to have so if anyone who stumbles across this thread has had similar experience PLEASE relate for the rest of us how you dealt with it. I intend to find an answer as I feel my peace of mind depends on it.

elina

jhschmeltzer and banqiin_mami hi, a really good site to get the answer you are looking for is:

http://health.rutgers.edu/discussions/sex/general/
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Also, try this site at:

http://my.webmd.com/medical_informat...ns/default.htm

(ask question part is in middle of page under Sex Matters®: Louanne Cole Weston, PhD)

thatoneguy

i'm in my early 20's and have the same problem, i can have sex sometimes for 10 minutes and finish other times it takes 3 hours and other times it never happens i just get to tired and give up

but here's the kicker, if "rubbing one off" with a lil "me time"..... only takes like 10 minutes

ya figure that one out, and when you do... let me know

zelda_zaoldyeck

uhmm.. i have studied a little bit about it in our science subject. I think it can be cured with help of medicines. it canm also be caused by stress, smoking alcohol intake ( unhealthy lifestyle) or genetic (maybe). Consult your doctor about it. That is the best thing to do.

torches123

I wish I would have something like that. I have the opposite problem. While having sex I can barely last a one minute, and I don't think my sexual partners enjoy it very much. I don't even last a minute when I masturbate.

I masturbate a lot..and I mean a lot. About 2-3 times average a day. Could this have anything to do with it? Help please!!