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Until you are a fully self-actualized person, bear in mind its challenging to understand the language, let alone effectively speak it.
 
     

 
 
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All modesty hopefully still intact... I've managed to survive enough for several lifetimes and been able to travel in some interesting circles. That which I have not lived firsthand, I have either known others who have or read about it. And it may help to know that when I don't know the answer, I simply say "I don't know." As I am still learning, I would rather be considered wise than expert... with the bulk of my "gift" falling in the "how the world works" catagory, except of course for all mechanical/technical things LOL.
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Learning to be human in all its richness.
 
     


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is my house haunted Paranormal Phenomena Feb 28, 2008 06:04 PM I feel you are correct.
Do I wish an ex-gf an... Relationships Jan 3, 2008 07:39 PM not
People, ready for the... Other Family & People Oct 13, 2007 07:44 AM We(collective "we") could prevent so much pain in our lives if we looked into people better before we jumped into relationships
how do i survive... Relationships Oct 5, 2007 09:18 PM very well put.
kitten eye infections -... Cats Sep 17, 2007 01:12 PM idiot
What Action Most... Other Religion Sep 16, 2007 05:44 PM How a person expresses their faith can change day by day as they see needs. Good Samaritan, etc.
Book Clubs in Los Angeles Books & Literature Sep 16, 2007 04:56 PM Wish you were still around Val...thought I'd say hi too, and let you know that you are missed.
Book Clubs in Los Angeles Books & Literature Jun 11, 2007 04:24 PM just noticed i wasnt seein you much since i resumed my stay at AMHD. thought Id say hi ;)
kitten eye infections -... Cats Jun 7, 2007 07:12 PM insensitive and not realistic
Marriage near end? Marriage May 25, 2007 07:04 PM i agree. please don't hurt yourelf. get professional help
Overweight, depressed,... Relationships May 23, 2007 06:54 AM Great Suggestions!
What type of christian... Christianity May 8, 2007 09:00 AM Your personal relationship with the Lord is what counts. Sounds like you have found your way through some tough times.
Is it possible for a... Adult Sexuality May 1, 2007 10:02 PM Exactl what i was thinking. He feels inadequate.
two many loves Marriage Apr 30, 2007 12:55 PM Very good advice!
married man Marriage Apr 26, 2007 03:26 AM Very thoughtful and helpful response.
The ex.is it possible... Relationships Apr 5, 2007 08:15 AM Perfectly put!
I don't know how to live! Mental & Emotional Health Apr 5, 2007 03:36 AM HELL YEAH!
I think my BF is going... Relationships Apr 4, 2007 01:16 PM Exactly. Excellent response on all counts.
Me boyfriend never... Adult Sexuality Apr 4, 2007 06:17 AM Hmm, insightful... didn't think of it from that angle. *sigh* I think I may have started the Mexican standoff last night...anway, good post.
Finding Free Counseling Mental & Emotional Health Mar 23, 2007 12:44 PM Thanks!
Overweight, depressed,... Relationships Mar 22, 2007 05:25 PM Yes. However kind and helpful, words on a screen are no substitute for the presence of a living, breathing person.
legal and personal... Dating Mar 21, 2007 10:40 AM thank you for the advice. Its much appreciated
pregnant by a married man Relationships Mar 21, 2007 03:55 AM every word said was true
i love my girl to death... Relationships Mar 20, 2007 09:18 AM Your absolutely right. Maybe it is his underlying problems that are the cause of these things happening to him.
How do I take this? Relationships Mar 20, 2007 06:52 AM Thank you!
The line between NC and... Relationships Mar 19, 2007 01:25 PM Spot on Val. It is a tool to win someone back. You should never have to win anyones love. You should EARN it.
Overweight, depressed,... Relationships Mar 18, 2007 11:35 AM Dont look at everything as a whole, take everyone one at a time...dont overwhelm yourself
Am I Caring Too Much? Relationships Mar 17, 2007 06:54 AM Excellent suggestions as they need to learn how to communicate/negotiate before they can begin to solve overcome their obstacles
obssessive, smothering... Relationships Mar 17, 2007 03:06 AM She needs encouragement and support at this time, not people doubting her.
I believe geography... Christianity Mar 15, 2007 04:06 PM Anyone that loves ELMO has GOT'ta be helpful! :) 5Star *****
Are ALL addictions bad? Addictions Mar 15, 2007 02:08 PM Often the family of the addicted person is addicted to their own enabling behavior.
I believe geography... Christianity Mar 15, 2007 01:56 PM Very astute answer.
Miserable is LA Marriage Mar 15, 2007 07:34 AM Yes let dig down to the root of the problem, excellent idea.
Miserable is LA Marriage Mar 14, 2007 06:23 PM I realize that if I don't do something drastic, things won't change. But I am afraid to take that step.
What is an Indigo Child? Gifted Children Mar 14, 2007 02:50 PM Thank you
Almost 10 years and now... Relationships Mar 13, 2007 02:51 PM Good Advice
Is he worth it? Marriage Mar 13, 2007 02:33 PM Good answer
whats going on in... Relationships Mar 13, 2007 08:48 AM That is a great inciteful and accurate response.
Trying to let go. Relationships Mar 12, 2007 02:07 PM This is good advice.
Did I do something wrong? Relationships Mar 12, 2007 05:43 AM Such a great answer and he needs to pay attention as does myself and others..what great advice
Did I do something wrong? Relationships Mar 12, 2007 04:14 AM After 6 years you'd think they where much further along, communication breakdown, and he didn't see it coming?
Did I do something wrong? Relationships Mar 11, 2007 07:59 PM I know what was wrong and I am prepared to make those changes. The question that I needed answered was whether I should let things be, or give her an indication that it is ok for her to contact me if she wants.
12 months on! Thanks AMHD Relationships Mar 11, 2007 04:04 PM I am proud to have you as my friend Val Thanks!!
Changed my number... Relationships Mar 10, 2007 05:21 AM I agree and from my experience, it is a step forward and I have yet to regret it and probably never will.
Death as a result of... Death & Dying Mar 10, 2007 03:19 AM I often think of the good times with my own mother and the bad times have evaporated. Excelent idea
What now? Relationships Mar 9, 2007 01:10 PM Whats the rush to crash and burn when taking your time and doing it right is the way to go.
How do you get past... Marriage Mar 8, 2007 12:41 PM I am taking your advice because it the truth, thanks for taking the time to read my story.
does he sound like a... Dating Mar 7, 2007 08:29 AM Both posts on this subject truthful, caring and good advice!
Is it possible for a... Adult Sexuality Mar 7, 2007 08:20 AM Big round of of applause for you
Is it possible for a... Adult Sexuality Mar 7, 2007 08:14 AM good response
i want him back but... Relationships Mar 5, 2007 08:45 AM thank you som much for the advice
what about dating... Divorce Mar 5, 2007 08:34 AM Excellent answer!
Wrong Gift! Relationships Mar 5, 2007 05:07 AM Because I agree with the Ans.
My girlfriend wants a... Relationships Mar 5, 2007 04:56 AM excellent point! nothing will change
Lonely forever? Relationships Mar 5, 2007 04:41 AM yes it really does work that way...thats what happened me already before when i met this ex, got to do the same now again lol:)
I am in love with 2... Relationships Mar 5, 2007 04:35 AM Dead on.
You think it is better... Relationships Mar 4, 2007 11:53 PM Exactly. He wasn't rejected at all just his perception of being rejected.
Is my ex-coming back ? Relationships Mar 4, 2007 12:22 PM Exactly..I see it like that now, my ex's loss, now I am holding out for better..LOL
i really like this girl... Relationships Mar 4, 2007 12:16 PM Exactly! and how does he know that she wouldn't do the same to him...
Toilet Etiquette Etiquette Mar 4, 2007 07:55 AM Funny but good idea. But will she do it.
Teen Hitting Mom Parenting Mar 3, 2007 08:47 AM Thank you for your kind words and good advice.
secretive teenage... Mental & Emotional Health Mar 2, 2007 04:12 AM Yes. A local ally/advisor/advocate is next.
We Are Meant For... Relationships Mar 1, 2007 07:28 PM remarkable response and great input
Swarthy, feel out of... Mental & Emotional Health Mar 1, 2007 05:43 PM agreed
Really Confused And my... Relationships Mar 1, 2007 05:17 PM Thank you. Some good advice, very sensible comments that have givrn me food for thought. I know I love her and my actions are stupid and irrational this week. Just hope that it sorts itself out, what a fantastic website this is, cheers guys.
I don't know how to live! Mental & Emotional Health Mar 1, 2007 09:30 AM Excellent Advice!
I've had enough Criminal Law Mar 1, 2007 07:41 AM I would rather see an amusing answer then anything else !
Law of Attraction Relationships Mar 1, 2007 07:17 AM "So as long as I remain on the healing side of the equation, I think its all okay." Thank you. This just disolved any conflict I may have had while trying to share what I know.
We Are Meant For... Relationships Feb 28, 2007 07:01 PM not too powerful, gave options...some of the things i contemplated already but wasnt sure if i should do them....thank you!
why does he back away... Relationships Feb 28, 2007 09:43 AM i agree with you, i just don't know how to bring this up to him. i want to give him his space, but i also need MY needs taken into consideration. this is so frustrating to me!!!
why does he back away... Relationships Feb 28, 2007 09:35 AM lots of good points here, thank you so much. will definately do some more thinking...
How best to overcome... Relationships Feb 28, 2007 04:56 AM You sure made that sound easy and it is. This is not rocket science, just learning.
Annoying Neighbors! Etiquette Feb 27, 2007 08:55 AM Good fun idea and i love your other ideas as well.
pregnant by a married man Relationships Feb 27, 2007 12:20 AM So true. That poor baby didn't ask for any of this nor does he/she deserve it.
Not Happy Marriage Feb 26, 2007 09:51 AM Good advice. Sometimes it does take a third party to step in and help both people see things a bit more clearly. We tend to get so wrapped up in our own feelings that we lose the ability to understand how the other person feels.
job hunting in today's... Research Feb 26, 2007 09:24 AM cuz it explained what i needed
Meeting a girl at church Relationships Feb 26, 2007 06:25 AM i like this idea :) it would show confidence and that u are ok if u are rejected ;-)
Did I mess up? Relationships Feb 26, 2007 04:18 AM Good advice, allow only good men in your life. Go Slow to judge this better in the future..
I am confused Relationships Feb 26, 2007 04:01 AM They should both be working to get better together or this will never work to make them stronger.
I am confused Relationships Feb 25, 2007 05:43 AM Yes, that is an excellant idea. Why do they not go through improving themselves together. Getting help together. This will create a stronger bond between the two of them.
I am confused Relationships Feb 25, 2007 04:45 AM Awsome post here Val! It does take courage to seek help and there is concern about the relationships you have before seeking that help. Great insight.
What's going on in her... Dating Feb 24, 2007 06:59 PM Great answer! Yes, most of us girls can tell the difference :-)
What's going on in her... Dating Feb 24, 2007 05:19 PM Insightful advice all the way through.
what to do in order not... Mental & Emotional Health Feb 23, 2007 09:24 AM Definitely more food for thought
Iran is in Bush's sights Politics Feb 22, 2007 12:07 PM You miss the point I made by a mile. That seems to have developed into a habit with you. Each time I disagree with you you take it personally and hit the machine guns. Is that your notion of reasoned debate?
I think my BF is going... Relationships Feb 21, 2007 04:47 AM Rude and pointless answer
How do I tell an... Relationships Feb 21, 2007 03:28 AM The lady speaks the truth
How do I tell an... Relationships Feb 20, 2007 07:09 PM Despite my male feelings I know you do have a point.
Steps of dealing with... Relationships Feb 20, 2007 06:21 AM All these stages are normal and quite consistent but as val says, they can repeat themselves and it is a messy process..
What is his intention? Relationships Feb 20, 2007 06:19 AM You are on the money ,val. How dare he?!?!?!
We don't see eye to eye... Marriage Feb 20, 2007 06:02 AM Rules you both agree with works for me.
what about dating... Divorce Feb 20, 2007 05:08 AM Absolutely correct!
How to persuade a husband Marriage Feb 20, 2007 04:11 AM good answer.
What is his intention? Relationships Feb 20, 2007 04:04 AM Absolutely Perfect!!!
How do you define a... Relationships Feb 19, 2007 11:59 AM I agree - knowing what a healthy person is the first step inorder to define healthy relationships
I'm confused and want a... Relationships Feb 19, 2007 05:38 AM i agree val..i also sugegsted some kind of counselling in the beginning of all the mess, he said not now maybe later, so i left it at that, better not to try and convince anyone.
Cheating husband Marriage Feb 19, 2007 03:04 AM I agree and did talk to him a lot but without any progress and he refused the marraige counselor idea, what do I do?
What causes a person to... Relationships Feb 18, 2007 02:54 PM Good points
Handicapped divorce Divorce Feb 18, 2007 08:11 AM Yes, take the argument somewhere else.
Handicapped divorce Divorce Feb 18, 2007 05:30 AM now heres a person who listening and not judging! Thank God for people like you!




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