| Question | Topic | Date | Comment |
 | is my house haunted | Paranormal Phenomena | Feb 28, 2008 06:04 PM | I feel you are correct. |
 | Do I wish an ex-gf an... | Relationships | Jan 3, 2008 07:39 PM | not |
| People, ready for the... | Other Family & People | Oct 13, 2007 07:44 AM | We(collective "we") could prevent so much pain in our lives if we looked into people better before we jumped into relationships |
| how do i survive... | Relationships | Oct 5, 2007 09:18 PM | very well put. |
| kitten eye infections -... | Cats | Sep 17, 2007 01:12 PM | idiot |
| What Action Most... | Other Religion | Sep 16, 2007 05:44 PM | How a person expresses their faith can change day by day as they see needs. Good Samaritan, etc. |
| Book Clubs in Los Angeles | Books & Literature | Sep 16, 2007 04:56 PM | Wish you were still around Val...thought I'd say hi too, and let you know that you are missed. |
| Book Clubs in Los Angeles | Books & Literature | Jun 11, 2007 04:24 PM | just noticed i wasnt seein you much since i resumed my stay at AMHD. thought Id say hi ;) |
| kitten eye infections -... | Cats | Jun 7, 2007 07:12 PM | insensitive and not realistic |
| Marriage near end? | Marriage | May 25, 2007 07:04 PM | i agree. please don't hurt yourelf. get professional help |
| Overweight, depressed,... | Relationships | May 23, 2007 06:54 AM | Great Suggestions! |
| What type of christian... | Christianity | May 8, 2007 09:00 AM | Your personal relationship with the Lord is what counts. Sounds like you have found your way through some tough times. |
| Is it possible for a... | Adult Sexuality | May 1, 2007 10:02 PM | Exactl what i was thinking. He feels inadequate. |
| two many loves | Marriage | Apr 30, 2007 12:55 PM | Very good advice! |
| married man | Marriage | Apr 26, 2007 03:26 AM | Very thoughtful and helpful response. |
| The ex.is it possible... | Relationships | Apr 5, 2007 08:15 AM | Perfectly put! |
| I don't know how to live! | Mental & Emotional Health | Apr 5, 2007 03:36 AM | HELL YEAH! |
| I think my BF is going... | Relationships | Apr 4, 2007 01:16 PM | Exactly. Excellent response on all counts. |
| Me boyfriend never... | Adult Sexuality | Apr 4, 2007 06:17 AM | Hmm, insightful... didn't think of it from that angle. *sigh* I think I may have started the Mexican standoff last night...anway, good post. |
| Finding Free Counseling | Mental & Emotional Health | Mar 23, 2007 12:44 PM | Thanks! |
| Overweight, depressed,... | Relationships | Mar 22, 2007 05:25 PM | Yes. However kind and helpful, words on a screen are no substitute for the presence of a living, breathing person. |
| legal and personal... | Dating | Mar 21, 2007 10:40 AM | thank you for the advice. Its much appreciated |
| pregnant by a married man | Relationships | Mar 21, 2007 03:55 AM | every word said was true |
| i love my girl to death... | Relationships | Mar 20, 2007 09:18 AM | Your absolutely right. Maybe it is his underlying problems that are the cause of these things happening to him. |
| How do I take this? | Relationships | Mar 20, 2007 06:52 AM | Thank you! |
| The line between NC and... | Relationships | Mar 19, 2007 01:25 PM | Spot on Val. It is a tool to win someone back. You should never have to win anyones love. You should EARN it. |
| Overweight, depressed,... | Relationships | Mar 18, 2007 11:35 AM | Dont look at everything as a whole, take everyone one at a time...dont overwhelm yourself |
| Am I Caring Too Much? | Relationships | Mar 17, 2007 06:54 AM | Excellent suggestions as they need to learn how to communicate/negotiate before they can begin to solve overcome their obstacles |
 | obssessive, smothering... | Relationships | Mar 17, 2007 03:06 AM | She needs encouragement and support at this time, not people doubting her. |
| I believe geography... | Christianity | Mar 15, 2007 04:06 PM | Anyone that loves ELMO has GOT'ta be helpful! :) 5Star ***** |
| Are ALL addictions bad? | Addictions | Mar 15, 2007 02:08 PM | Often the family of the addicted person is addicted to their own enabling behavior. |
| I believe geography... | Christianity | Mar 15, 2007 01:56 PM | Very astute answer. |
| Miserable is LA | Marriage | Mar 15, 2007 07:34 AM | Yes let dig down to the root of the problem, excellent idea. |
| Miserable is LA | Marriage | Mar 14, 2007 06:23 PM | I realize that if I don't do something drastic, things won't change. But I am afraid to take that step. |
| What is an Indigo Child? | Gifted Children | Mar 14, 2007 02:50 PM | Thank you |
| Almost 10 years and now... | Relationships | Mar 13, 2007 02:51 PM | Good Advice |
| Is he worth it? | Marriage | Mar 13, 2007 02:33 PM | Good answer |
| whats going on in... | Relationships | Mar 13, 2007 08:48 AM | That is a great inciteful and accurate response. |
| Trying to let go. | Relationships | Mar 12, 2007 02:07 PM | This is good advice. |
| Did I do something wrong? | Relationships | Mar 12, 2007 05:43 AM | Such a great answer and he needs to pay attention as does myself and others..what great advice |
| Did I do something wrong? | Relationships | Mar 12, 2007 04:14 AM | After 6 years you'd think they where much further along, communication breakdown, and he didn't see it coming? |
| Did I do something wrong? | Relationships | Mar 11, 2007 07:59 PM | I know what was wrong and I am prepared to make those changes. The question that I needed answered was whether I should let things be, or give her an indication that it is ok for her to contact me if she wants. |
| 12 months on! Thanks AMHD | Relationships | Mar 11, 2007 04:04 PM | I am proud to have you as my friend Val Thanks!! |
| Changed my number... | Relationships | Mar 10, 2007 05:21 AM | I agree and from my experience, it is a step forward and I have yet to regret it and probably never will. |
| Death as a result of... | Death & Dying | Mar 10, 2007 03:19 AM | I often think of the good times with my own mother and the bad times have evaporated. Excelent idea |
| What now? | Relationships | Mar 9, 2007 01:10 PM | Whats the rush to crash and burn when taking your time and doing it right is the way to go. |
| How do you get past... | Marriage | Mar 8, 2007 12:41 PM | I am taking your advice because it the truth, thanks for taking the time to read my story. |
| does he sound like a... | Dating | Mar 7, 2007 08:29 AM | Both posts on this subject truthful, caring and good advice! |
| Is it possible for a... | Adult Sexuality | Mar 7, 2007 08:20 AM | Big round of of applause for you |
| Is it possible for a... | Adult Sexuality | Mar 7, 2007 08:14 AM | good response |
| i want him back but... | Relationships | Mar 5, 2007 08:45 AM | thank you som much for the advice |
| what about dating... | Divorce | Mar 5, 2007 08:34 AM | Excellent answer! |
| Wrong Gift! | Relationships | Mar 5, 2007 05:07 AM | Because I agree with the Ans. |
| My girlfriend wants a... | Relationships | Mar 5, 2007 04:56 AM | excellent point! nothing will change |
| Lonely forever? | Relationships | Mar 5, 2007 04:41 AM | yes it really does work that way...thats what happened me already before when i met this ex, got to do the same now again lol:) |
| I am in love with 2... | Relationships | Mar 5, 2007 04:35 AM | Dead on. |
| You think it is better... | Relationships | Mar 4, 2007 11:53 PM | Exactly. He wasn't rejected at all just his perception of being rejected. |
| Is my ex-coming back ? | Relationships | Mar 4, 2007 12:22 PM | Exactly..I see it like that now, my ex's loss, now I am holding out for better..LOL |
| i really like this girl... | Relationships | Mar 4, 2007 12:16 PM | Exactly! and how does he know that she wouldn't do the same to him... |
| Toilet Etiquette | Etiquette | Mar 4, 2007 07:55 AM | Funny but good idea. But will she do it. |
| Teen Hitting Mom | Parenting | Mar 3, 2007 08:47 AM | Thank you for your kind words and good advice. |
| secretive teenage... | Mental & Emotional Health | Mar 2, 2007 04:12 AM | Yes. A local ally/advisor/advocate is next. |
| We Are Meant For... | Relationships | Mar 1, 2007 07:28 PM | remarkable response and great input |
| Swarthy, feel out of... | Mental & Emotional Health | Mar 1, 2007 05:43 PM | agreed |
| Really Confused And my... | Relationships | Mar 1, 2007 05:17 PM | Thank you. Some good advice, very sensible comments that have givrn me food for thought. I know I love her and my actions are stupid and irrational this week. Just hope that it sorts itself out, what a fantastic website this is, cheers guys. |
| I don't know how to live! | Mental & Emotional Health | Mar 1, 2007 09:30 AM | Excellent Advice! |
| I've had enough | Criminal Law | Mar 1, 2007 07:41 AM | I would rather see an amusing answer then anything else ! |
| Law of Attraction | Relationships | Mar 1, 2007 07:17 AM | "So as long as I remain on the healing side of the equation, I think its all okay." Thank you. This just disolved any conflict I may have had while trying to share what I know. |
| We Are Meant For... | Relationships | Feb 28, 2007 07:01 PM | not too powerful, gave options...some of the things i contemplated already but wasnt sure if i should do them....thank you! |
| why does he back away... | Relationships | Feb 28, 2007 09:43 AM | i agree with you, i just don't know how to bring this up to him. i want to give him his space, but i also need MY needs taken into consideration. this is so frustrating to me!!! |
| why does he back away... | Relationships | Feb 28, 2007 09:35 AM | lots of good points here, thank you so much. will definately do some more thinking... |
| How best to overcome... | Relationships | Feb 28, 2007 04:56 AM | You sure made that sound easy and it is. This is not rocket science, just learning. |
| Annoying Neighbors! | Etiquette | Feb 27, 2007 08:55 AM | Good fun idea and i love your other ideas as well. |
| pregnant by a married man | Relationships | Feb 27, 2007 12:20 AM | So true. That poor baby didn't ask for any of this nor does he/she deserve it. |
| Not Happy | Marriage | Feb 26, 2007 09:51 AM | Good advice. Sometimes it does take a third party to step in and help both people see things a bit more clearly. We tend to get so wrapped up in our own feelings that we lose the ability to understand how the other person feels. |
| job hunting in today's... | Research | Feb 26, 2007 09:24 AM | cuz it explained what i needed |
| Meeting a girl at church | Relationships | Feb 26, 2007 06:25 AM | i like this idea :) it would show confidence and that u are ok if u are rejected ;-) |
| Did I mess up? | Relationships | Feb 26, 2007 04:18 AM | Good advice, allow only good men in your life. Go Slow to judge this better in the future.. |
| I am confused | Relationships | Feb 26, 2007 04:01 AM | They should both be working to get better together or this will never work to make them stronger. |
| I am confused | Relationships | Feb 25, 2007 05:43 AM | Yes, that is an excellant idea. Why do they not go through improving themselves together. Getting help together. This will create a stronger bond between the two of them. |
| I am confused | Relationships | Feb 25, 2007 04:45 AM | Awsome post here Val! It does take courage to seek help and there is concern about the relationships you have before seeking that help. Great insight. |
| What's going on in her... | Dating | Feb 24, 2007 06:59 PM | Great answer! Yes, most of us girls can tell the difference :-) |
| What's going on in her... | Dating | Feb 24, 2007 05:19 PM | Insightful advice all the way through. |
| what to do in order not... | Mental & Emotional Health | Feb 23, 2007 09:24 AM | Definitely more food for thought |
| Iran is in Bush's sights | Politics | Feb 22, 2007 12:07 PM | You miss the point I made by a mile. That seems to have developed into a habit with you. Each time I disagree with you you take it personally and hit the machine guns. Is that your notion of reasoned debate? |
| I think my BF is going... | Relationships | Feb 21, 2007 04:47 AM | Rude and pointless answer |
| How do I tell an... | Relationships | Feb 21, 2007 03:28 AM | The lady speaks the truth |
| How do I tell an... | Relationships | Feb 20, 2007 07:09 PM | Despite my male feelings I know you do have a point. |
| Steps of dealing with... | Relationships | Feb 20, 2007 06:21 AM | All these stages are normal and quite consistent but as val says, they can repeat themselves and it is a messy process.. |
| What is his intention? | Relationships | Feb 20, 2007 06:19 AM | You are on the money ,val. How dare he?!?!?! |
| We don't see eye to eye... | Marriage | Feb 20, 2007 06:02 AM | Rules you both agree with works for me. |
| what about dating... | Divorce | Feb 20, 2007 05:08 AM | Absolutely correct! |
| How to persuade a husband | Marriage | Feb 20, 2007 04:11 AM | good answer. |
| What is his intention? | Relationships | Feb 20, 2007 04:04 AM | Absolutely Perfect!!! |
| How do you define a... | Relationships | Feb 19, 2007 11:59 AM | I agree - knowing what a healthy person is the first step inorder to define healthy relationships |
| I'm confused and want a... | Relationships | Feb 19, 2007 05:38 AM | i agree val..i also sugegsted some kind of counselling in the beginning of all the mess, he said not now maybe later, so i left it at that, better not to try and convince anyone. |
| Cheating husband | Marriage | Feb 19, 2007 03:04 AM | I agree and did talk to him a lot but without any progress and he refused the marraige counselor idea, what do I do? |
| What causes a person to... | Relationships | Feb 18, 2007 02:54 PM | Good points |
| Handicapped divorce | Divorce | Feb 18, 2007 08:11 AM | Yes, take the argument somewhere else. |
| Handicapped divorce | Divorce | Feb 18, 2007 05:30 AM | now heres a person who listening and not judging! Thank God for people like you! |
