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- Location
- U. S. A.
- Experience
- Since 1982, I have been coaching executives on individual and organizational performance, personal balance, working relations from the board level downward, reconciling inner-life/outer-life issues, and personal-life/professional-life issues. Clients have come from a wide range of industries, circumstances, and roles. Most clients have been C-level executives in the Silicon Valley, but I have worked with state and county governments and government agencies, small businesses and family businesses, and professionals in private practice. I often deal with relationship conflicts, both at work and in people's personal lives.
Prior to coaching, I researched, developed, and delivered training programs on interpersonal communication, strategic leadership, and managing organizational performance.
I have practiced martial arts since 1960, tai chi chuan since 1964, and am the student of the late professor Cheng M'an-ching, and Grandmaster William CC Chen. Starting in the late 60s, I had over 40 magazine articles published, including several in T'ai Chi magazine, plus a book on natural medicine. Other martial arts include aikido - 20 years under Senseis Masahiro Nakazono, Yoshimitsu Yamada, and Koishi Tohei; tae kwon do - 2 years (a long time ago) under Min Pai, western fencing - 2 years (sabre) under Charles Selberg, boxing 5 years (also a long time ago) under Grandmaster Chen. I've taught Yang style tai chi since the early 1970s.
Having dealt with many training injuries, and after struggling for many years with a spinal stenosis (bilateral pars break) that resulted from being hit by a car as a pedestrian in 1984, I developed a system for managing the chronically injured spine. For several years, I taught people with chronic back pain how to manage their backs, and seniors with ambulatory problems how to move.
I studied Chinese medicine in Kenilworth, England, with Jack Worsley (circa 1970). Before that I studied under the great master Masahiro Nakazono, who was also my aikido teacher. I practiced for 12 years, combining acupuncture, diet, body work, NLP, and general counseling.
I am the father of three grown sons, am still in love with my wife of 30 years, grow bamboo (18 varieties so far), enjoy landscape gardening, and have lived in New York, Paris, London, Santa Cruz, and Kihei. - Occupation
- executive coach, semi-retired
- Paypal Email Address
- taoplr408@comcast.net
- Live Advice Rate (USD/min)
- $2
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Latest Reputation Received | | Question | Forum | Date | Comment |  | newlywed,pregnant,perfec... | Marriage | Oct 10, 2009 03:28 AM | I cannot add to this. Very complete |  | Consumed with guilt for... | Relationships | Oct 9, 2009 05:38 PM | just saw this-thanks- it's really helpful! |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Aug 31, 2009 05:02 AM | These just keep getting better and better. |  | She broke up but now... | Dating | Aug 11, 2009 09:50 AM | Nice empathetic view of the situation |  | long time divorced... | Divorce | Aug 10, 2009 07:27 AM | Very good post. |  | Mutual, very painful... | Relationships | Aug 2, 2009 01:30 PM | Good response. |  | Being Rejected. | Teens | Jul 31, 2009 12:42 AM | yeah, its called the freind zone, the ony phrase worse than heil hitler is lets just be freinds |  | Can't get out what I... | Personal Growth | Jul 30, 2009 06:46 PM | good advice |  | My whole life seems... | Mental & Emotional Health | Jul 27, 2009 04:43 PM | Great advice Tao |  | Scared i am screwing up | Relationships | Jul 26, 2009 09:08 AM | You are wise. The first sentence says the most. |  | Can't get out what I... | Personal Growth | Jul 24, 2009 03:45 PM | excellent post! think i said that before,its still true. |  | searching for a... | Personal Growth | Jul 24, 2009 07:47 AM | Good advice! |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 20, 2009 01:59 PM | I understand.. So basically I'm kind of "making up" a reality for myself which, in effect, has really been taking a toll on MY feelings, and is also affecting my personal life/ relationship. Got it. |  | I need you to read this, | Relationships | Jul 20, 2009 02:27 AM | Expert advice. |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 20, 2009 02:10 AM | Her decisions are based on feelings, despite the facts. |  | I need you to read this, | Relationships | Jul 20, 2009 01:03 AM | Such good advice. |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 20, 2009 12:05 AM | -" don't confuse your internal reality with the reality of the world." Beautifully said. |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 19, 2009 06:40 PM | yep |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 19, 2009 06:12 PM | Thanks for kicking some sense into me. I love how you put it. |  | My BF slept w/ another... | Relationships | Jul 19, 2009 05:43 PM | I agree! Enough of the drama. |  | I give up, I don't... | Relationships | Jul 18, 2009 03:13 PM | good post. |  | I give up, I don't... | Relationships | Jul 18, 2009 01:44 PM | Nice post! |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Jul 16, 2009 10:02 AM | Honest inventorie of self are very helpful in getting facts we need to know, to make good plans for ourselves |  | How I can have my life... | Marriage | Jul 16, 2009 09:01 AM | very good advice. |  | Deserve a second chance? | Relationships | Jul 15, 2009 12:36 PM | trust is letting go, i love it! |  | Letting his ex stay | Relationships | Jul 13, 2009 09:52 AM | Fear is whats got her holding on. |  | GirlFriend Says she is... | Relationships | Jul 13, 2009 12:22 AM | I agree as well. |  | GirlFriend Says she is... | Relationships | Jul 12, 2009 10:19 PM | I agree |  | a lifetime of love | Relationships | Jul 12, 2009 09:28 AM | I think so, too. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 12, 2009 04:05 AM | You have much insight and show great intelligence with what you write!! |  | a lifetime of love | Relationships | Jul 10, 2009 11:46 AM | It's bad to start off on the wrong foot. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 8, 2009 03:31 PM | It sounds like a good answer to me. If you have to go there, go prepared to come back with lightness in your soul for having known what darkness is. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 8, 2009 12:32 AM | Wonderful post. Caring advice. Well done. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 7, 2009 02:54 PM | I totally agree,a compassionate and clear post! |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 7, 2009 12:51 PM | Great post. Sadly I still think we're being played, or she has deeper problems then we can solve. Manshausens comes to mind, but that's not a diagnosis anyone can make on the net. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 6, 2009 02:55 PM | I like that and it's mentally stimulating (sorry can't spell) |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 6, 2009 01:24 PM | great post |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 5, 2009 02:10 PM | food for thought for the op. |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 5, 2009 01:31 AM | Interesting questions for the OP. - Stringer |  | i want problems! yes, i... | Teens | Jul 5, 2009 01:24 AM | Excellent response here!! |  | Being More Naughty In... | Adult Sexuality | Jul 4, 2009 11:41 PM | Great suggestions Tao. Hopefullly she won't find herself trussed like a chicken on the BBQ in the back yard! |  | My Boyfriend. Am I To... | Relationships | Jul 3, 2009 12:35 PM | I agree |  | Feeling quite low and... | Relationships | Jul 3, 2009 10:36 AM | Wow, I agree |  | Wife cheating me | Relationships | Jul 2, 2009 08:05 PM | Makes sense |  | My husband won't make... | Adult Sexuality | Jul 1, 2009 02:19 PM | Thanks for the info! |  | Wife cheating me | Relationships | Jun 28, 2009 11:29 PM | Makes good sense......................... |  | Struggling, struggling,... | Mental & Emotional Health | Jun 28, 2009 10:07 PM | balancer. your response said nothing of laws so idk what there is to check out. and i thought it seemed helpful. |  | Wife cheating me | Relationships | Jun 28, 2009 09:45 PM | Exactly very well put |  | Struggling, struggling,... | Mental & Emotional Health | Jun 28, 2009 03:54 PM | Check out the laws |  | Consumed with guilt for... | Relationships | Jun 28, 2009 11:28 AM | afflicated with guilt..excellent insight. |  | Consumed with guilt for... | Relationships | Jun 27, 2009 09:20 PM | very well put |  | Why can't my boyfriend... | Adult Sexuality | Jun 26, 2009 04:29 PM | Excellent post. |  | 45min away relationship | Dating | Jun 26, 2009 10:15 AM | Great response. I have to agree. |  | Is it wrong/silly/crazy... | Relationships | Jun 24, 2009 06:19 PM | Great advice |  | i'm super shy . | Personal Growth | Jun 24, 2009 06:19 AM | I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE shy, smart guys |  | Its seems its working!... | Fitness | Jun 24, 2009 12:16 AM | thanks! ur words are scientific! i might be over-working, shall check my schedule |  | dad problems! | Relationships | Jun 23, 2009 01:51 AM | Lovely advice, as usual, Tao. |  | Weird situation with... | Relationships | Jun 22, 2009 11:13 AM | Thats some very good advice, and a healthy perspective by which to live for ones self. |  | Is he the one i should... | Relationships | Jun 20, 2009 12:09 PM | it helps lots of people if they can find a "reason" or "fault" |  | Lost in the drama | Relationships | Jun 19, 2009 09:57 AM | Many good points here. |  | Why am i not angry at... | Relationships | Jun 18, 2009 04:19 AM | exactly |  | my sex drive is long... | Adult Sexuality | Jun 16, 2009 08:30 PM | Great advice from you too! |  | "us against them"... | Relationships | Jun 16, 2009 02:40 PM | Excellent. |  | My Girlfriend and Her... | Relationships | Jun 13, 2009 08:41 AM | This was the perfect answer! |  | stressed out like crazy | Relationships | Jun 13, 2009 08:12 AM | I love reading your posts. So much info to take from them. |  | stressed out like crazy | Relationships | Jun 13, 2009 02:30 AM | theres a lot of sense in this post,i hope the op will be able to see it too. |  | My Girlfriend and Her... | Relationships | Jun 12, 2009 11:50 PM | Great answer Tao - reflecting my thoughts exactly. |  | Shes the one. | Relationships | Jun 12, 2009 05:54 AM | I won't disagree, but I married a younger guy. So did my mom. It happens. |  | Women who get bored of... | Relationships | Jun 11, 2009 06:28 PM | that guy i was crazy for i felt security and he is the first guy i was able to visually picture myself starting a life with |  | friend with benefits? | Relationships | Jun 10, 2009 08:36 AM | The friendship is definitely lost. |  | friend with benefits? | Relationships | Jun 10, 2009 05:00 AM | Correct |  | All about a girl. | Dating | Jun 9, 2009 06:39 PM | Totally agree with this answer great stuff! |  | This is one for the... | Relationships | Jun 9, 2009 07:42 AM | I agree with OG, very Eloquent!! |  | This is one for the... | Relationships | Jun 9, 2009 05:50 AM | Eloquent!! |  | no sex drive | Adult Sexuality | Jun 9, 2009 12:18 AM | Great suggestions. |  | This is one for the... | Relationships | Jun 8, 2009 06:51 PM | Perfect post. |  | husband left for... | Relationships | Jun 8, 2009 08:26 AM | I agree, well said. |  | no sex drive | Adult Sexuality | Jun 7, 2009 06:31 AM | This is the best answer you will ever get on this topic taoplr has given you a very concise answer |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Jun 6, 2009 09:27 AM | You have taught this old dog sometjong for sure, can't wait till you get back. |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Jun 6, 2009 05:26 AM | Reading the self awareness you had Van do taught ME about myself. |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Jun 5, 2009 11:48 AM | This is a much better desciption of what I mean when I tell people to not look "out there" for solutions but in themselves. |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | Jun 5, 2009 11:41 AM | That makes perfect sense. Learning to be proactive on ones own behalf, and learning about oneself period is an empowering thing |  | This is one for the... | Relationships | Jun 5, 2009 05:49 AM | I kept thinking the same thing |  | This is one for the... | Relationships | Jun 5, 2009 05:17 AM | Fully agree! I kept thinking "Ego-maniac" when I read it |  | My Boyfriend is... | Dating | Jun 4, 2009 05:18 AM | Possession, fear, insecure, the list goes over... |  | no sex drive | Adult Sexuality | Jun 3, 2009 04:04 PM | Excellent questions, I'll wait for info before responding |  | She broke up with me... | Relationships | Jun 3, 2009 06:44 AM | Harsh but true! |  | She broke up with me... | Relationships | Jun 3, 2009 12:59 AM | spoiled, irrational, tantrum-throwing manipulator - love it! |  | I am so confused about... | Relationships | Jun 2, 2009 07:38 PM | He does |  | Is there a chance of me... | Relationships | Jun 1, 2009 04:02 PM | Exactly............good post tao !! |  | I am so confused about... | Relationships | Jun 1, 2009 03:01 PM | Yeah you just need to free yourself from this drama. The only way to win is to simply walk away and refuse to play the game. Why waste time hurting her. When it could be used to heal. |  | Is there a chance of me... | Relationships | Jun 1, 2009 09:28 AM | Agreed |  | My wife is talking to... | Marriage | May 31, 2009 04:51 PM | Great points - he needs to look within himself as well. |  | Girlfriend wants to... | Relationships | May 30, 2009 03:03 PM | Lot of truth in this response. |  | Online relationship.... | Relationships | May 30, 2009 09:29 AM | When it's over, it's never as historic as it seemed like it would be going in. |  | my ex texted me after 5... | Relationships | May 29, 2009 05:10 PM | Yes, make peace with yourself. |  | How I can have my life... | Marriage | May 27, 2009 09:33 PM | Excellent, compassionate advice. |  | Am I unfaithful | Other Family & People | May 24, 2009 06:34 PM | In fact you answererd wisely I agree with you |  | Am I unfaithful | Other Family & People | May 23, 2009 11:24 AM | I agree, she's not doing anything wrong, but needs to get her needs met by her husband. |  | I think I really messed... | Relationships | May 22, 2009 12:51 PM | Great answer! | |