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Well - its finally come to an end. He moved out today while I was at work. I had his stuff ready for him. One of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
He thanked me for leaving the keys etc. by...

I thought this was going to get easier! But sadly its not. I am having a really bad day today. I can not understand why he is completely shutting me out of his life and deliberately trying to hurt me...

I actually had the best birthday I have had in years – I planned a big night out – and surrounded myself with people who ACTUALLY care about me. I am realising through this break up that he really is...

Sorry you are hurting.

I think the fact that she is on the cruise will give you time to sit back, relax and try to gather yourself for when she gets back.

I would recommend not trying to get...

I just need to vent!

It was my birthday on the weekend - and I didn't receive a single text email, fb message, NOTHING!

How can my best friend of 16 years (and boyfriend of almost 2 years) not...

I know this sounds sad - but I am just going to wait for 2 weeks and not contact him and keep trying to exercise and be active and once he moves out - then maybe I can get it through my thick skull...

I keep trying not to love him - but I can't. I just keep hoping that when he comes home in 2 weeks that he will actually reconsider and not move out.

I just can't understand how my best friend of...

Thanks for the support - I really appreciate it.

I almost emailed him today because a girl at work has extra room available for this concert that my ex and I really wanted to go to. And so I was...

Having a really bad day today. I am not dealing well with this break up. The other day I just wanted to call him - because I didn't care - I can't make anything worse - he already doesn't want to be...

I agree as well aoifee - it feels like I have taken a step forward - but on the other hand - it is on his terms as well - he does not want to talk to me either. I wish I could have gone in NC before...

This is like riding a rollercoaster! One day I feel OK - next day I crash.

NC is supposed to make me feel better - but just knowing that he is not reaching out to talk to me either - everyday just...

Also just wanted to say that I really appreciate everyone's help.

This has been the hardest thing I have had to go through. If I can get through this I think I could do anything! :)

Its nice...

Question - do you think you can bounce back to being friends after so much drama?

We were best friends for 16 years before we got together. I am close to his family and he has always been there...

I am sorry for your loss. I can not begin to imagine how hard that must have been.

About your relationship - I too have been in a volitile relationship where we must have broken up 30 times in the...

But he doesn't know that - and that is what is so hard to accept.

I need him to know that I am OK with this (even if it is a lie). That I don't need him to be happy. Right now I am sure he thinks...

Maybe once he actually moves home and gets his stuff it will sink in and I will be able to accept it.

Even packing his stuff up felt good - but there is still that glimer of hope that once he...

I want to let go! I really do - I just don't know how. I try to not think about it - I try to exercise - I try to get involved - I try and I try.

I packed up his things last night - I have not had...

Thank you Amicon - I just wish I could get this through my head - which would make getting through this much easier.

My therapist has said that I have a choice in all this as well - that it is not...

I am seeing a therapist - I started seeing him about 8 months ago due to all of our fighting - but we have not made much progress because I am always in "crisis" mode because my boyfriend was...

My dad says that same thing - that what has happened has happened - no amount of analysing and saying "if only I had done this - or that...." will change anything - and just look forward.

The...

Thank you for your responses - just seeing that there are people out there when you are struggling so bad - makes things better.

The sad thing is - I know these things and would offer others the...

I just can't forgive myself. I had a guy who wanted to commit to me the minute I stepped off that plane a year ago. A guy who was trying to work hard to give "us" the best future possible and just...

I know good things are around the corner... as I have been through this before. But I also know how long it takes. And that scares me. I am also scared that I won't meet someone who fits the mold -...

I am only on day 2 of NC and it is terrible! Knowing that he thinks that I am an emotional nutbar is hurting so much. I know I need to let it go - but it is so hard.

I have decided to train for a...

Maybe as bad as this whole thing ended - especially my horrible disgusting begging behaviour - I now have a definite answer. I kept asking him before if there was a chance? If this was just a break?...

How do you forgive yourself for going to the lowest depths and begging and pleading?

How am I ever going to forgive myself? I KNEW that this behaviour would push him away and I still did it.

We are both on the lease for another 6 months - but he said he will pay until the lease is up.

I am staying in the flat with our flatmate.

He told me I could do whatever I wanted to with his...

I know I do - but I can't help beating myself up that if I could have just given him his space that maybe when he got of the plane in a month - he might have realized that he missed me and want to...

Oh no... I have finally pushed him too far!!

He wrote me an email that his is NOT talking about it again... NOT getting into us... and the only way this is going to come to a conclusion is for...

I have hit a major low!
This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. It is affecting my sleep, my work, my health – everything!
I logically know that everything will be OK and time will heal...

Thank you amicon for helping me. You seem to be the only one out there who is helping me through this.

I didn't realize how hard going NC would actully be! :(

Should I tell him then? This is where I get confused. I don't want to just not answer his emails etc. I think that would be rude. Maybe that is silly but I don't think ignoring him is the way to go....

Sorry to hear that you are going through this - I am in the same boat actually.

I have doubted the NC thing but after speaking with some friends and really listending to what people are telling...

Not having a great day today! It seems as though that one day of emailing 4 days ago was nothing as I have not heard from him at all. I guess I said something wrong or pushed him back further into...

I just crashed and burned!

He emailed me at work - I answered - then it got to me flirting a bit and asking him if we could chat by phone - then he said this probably isn't good for the break! So...

amicon: I just re-read what I wrote and I can see how desperate it sounds.

I guess I just need to finally put the hope down and move on with my life for me and not in hope of "us".

I am in NC...

Hi azif - I may not be able to help like the others but I just wanted to let you know that I understand how you feel and I know how hard this can be. I am going through a break up myself so I can...

Thank you everyone - I have held off making any major decisions while in this emotional state.

I also hear what everyone is saying and I know NC is for the best - it is the advice I would give...

Thanks artlady and amicon - it is nice to have encouraging words when I feel like this.

I guess the more I fake being happy and trying to have fun I actually will - but it just seems so far away....

I have hit a low!

The first two days seemed quite easy - I felt almost empowered because I took the stance that I would cut all contact from him. BUT now it just hurts because he has not made any...

Valkman: Old bay! Love it - it might just be time that I get my mom to send me a care package.

Thanks for the encouragement - NC is hard but I am sticking with it!

Not having a great day today :(

I really miss him and the thought that maybe it really is over is just overwhelming me right now. I don't want to hold onto any hope – but it is the only thing that...

Thanks again for the support!

So - just wondering why guys (sorry - dumpers) like to mess with our heads? He told me not to call him that he can't have "us" in his life and that he would never...

Thanks you very much for your posts! I know this is what I need to do it is just so hard (and I am sure everyone comes up with an excuse at this point). All this break talk and him moving out has...

Hello - after reading some other posts it is clear to me that I need to go into NC, but I just don't know how I can do it!

It's a long story so I won't go into all the details. Basically for the...