[737fpm]

I wanted to buy my wife something sexy for valentines day, She know I think sexy high heels shoes look good on her feet, when she open the gifts all she did was complain about the backing and I didn’t listen to her about them. But she said but what I like. I’m so mad hurt or what ever about the whole event. I don’t want to see the clothes or shoes. Am I wrong and taking this to personally?

[dynocompe]

I wouldn't take it to personally, go out and buy her some nice roses that say I am sorry! Happy v-day!
And now we know not to buy your wife clothes or shoes unless she picks them out.
Maybe buying her the I am sorry flowers, will get her to dress sexy for you ;)

[neverme]

I'm sorry I don't understand what she was complaining about? And then she said what she did like?

Just a little clarification

[dynocompe]

I think he is saying, that he gave her a gift that he likes, not what she likes..

[Romefalls19]

I don't buy clothes for my fiancé strictly for this reason. I'll stick to flowers, doing more things around the house and generally giving her peace and quiet when she wants it.

[spitvenom]

Don't take it personally. I really stay away from buying shoes and clothes for my wife. It is flowers and an all expenses paid day to her favorite spa.

[neverme]

Well as a woman I think it was a really nice gift. But sure what do I know, I got nothing for V day... well I think it's a manufacturer's holiday anyway! ;)

[Cat1864]

Clothing and shoes are very difficult to buy for another person. Comfort and fit are unique to each individual. Sizes don't stay constant between styles. Shoes especially have the problem of needing to be tried on to find the correct fit.

Plus it sounds like it was a 'gift' for you not her. YOU wanted to get her something that YOU find 'sexy'. When giving a gift it is extremely important to take the feelings of the person receiving the gift into consideration. It took several years together before my husband figured out that I don't care for jewelry or clothing. I much prefer a book or a small stuffed animal.

I think you both need to sit down and discuss what happened. Talk about how you feel and listen to her when she tells you how she feels. DO NOT get defensive or augmentative. DO be honest.

[Jake2008]

I think that she behaved very badly.

If she had reacted to this gift from anybody else the same way, people would see her as ungrateful, rude, and boorish.

That you went to the trouble to please her, and surprised her with a gift, should have provoked at least a thank you. Even if she exchanged the shoes herself, or kindly told you later on that they were unsuitable and hurt her feet.

If it were me, next time I'd give her a gift certificate to the attitude adjustment store.

[Gemini54]

I understand that you're upset. I would be too!

You went to all that trouble to buy her something and all she did was complain.

Perhaps when you simmer down a bit you can explain why you're mad.

Anyway, perhaps you can both go back to where you bought the gifts and exchange them together?