When I was younger my sisters now ex husband was extremely cruel towards me and extremely intimidating, now I seem to have problems with most guys. I have a boyfriend, but if he raises his voice too loud I freak out. I haven't trusted my father since this guy was around and my father would never even think of harming me. Any time anything comes up where I have to be to close to a guy I freak out, Is there any way to settle down my anxiety?