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Well, I am 17 and i will be getting married on July 19 2008. I have been engaged since november but haven't told my parents. I am afraid to because they may tell me i can't see him. Since he is graduated, and my father wont let me get a license it would be very hard to sneak and see eachother...however i hate hiding this...i know that they will say that i am too young but i know this is right for me. He and I are so in love and we know that we have what it takes. His mom and dad know and they support us 100%. What should i do, and if i tell them what do i say?
You have already established this relationship on a shaky foundation - that of concealing this from your parents. You are making adult decisions and yet not acting like an adult.
Instead of hiding this you really need to sit down with your parents and tell them the truth. The whole truth.
17 is too young to be considering marriage. You have not even graduated high school yet. Your fiance is graduated - what is he doing with his life? Is he working and making enough money to support you and possibly a family? What about continuing his education? What are your plans for college? Or do you think that high school is enough in this day and age? It is not.
You need to give your parents the opportunity to understand what is going on. You say they will not. I can see that, especially when they find out that you have been hiding this. But you have to cross that bridge. Or do you think you are going to elope and come home married and then tell your parents?
Please consider being upfront with your parents. Tell them that you have this boyfriend and you love him and that he loves you. Tell them that he wants to marry you and you want to marry him. Your parents may surprise you and not outright forbid it, but ask that you wait at least until you are out of high school. Make them a part of what should be a happy time for you.
You are so young, most marriages don't last when people get married at your age. Why not wait???? if you love each other so much then it should be no problem to wait a few years. How long to have been "dating" your bf anyways? and what's the hurry? You need to act your age finish school, go to college then worry about getting married.
I may be young but that doesn't mean that i do not know whether or not i can handle this. I have lived in a world where living on my own has happened. I have supported myself while staying in school and being successful in that. I am not naive or dumb. I am going to persue college and my fiance is planning to enroll wherever i decide to go to. He has his major planned out. He isn't back in it already BECAUSE he is working his off at a damn good job paying wise which will and has supported us! Even couples who are in their thirties have troubles telling their parents that they are getting married! Yes my situation is different but that doesn't mean it is any less valueable, or has any less of a chance. I didn't ask this question so that i could be put down and degraded and LECTURED to about my age and my decision! The question wasn't wether I should get married it was how do i tell my parents. and YES i am making an adult decision and YES i am being adult right now. I may be concealing it from them but i DONT WANT TO BE which was the whole point of this so please watch your wording more carefully. NOW if anyone with a real brain and heart wants to help me i would appreciate it. I am not normally rude or mean but this is ridiculous. Just because someone is young doesn't mean that they dont know whats going on. And also theres no need to worry about supporting a family right now because we both agree to wait for that, even after we're married! and if we do have sex we have BC and condoms, and even then he can still pull out. and if after all that it still happens then it was meant to by God. Any christians going to argue god's will and plan? Now please someone, HOW do i tell my parents that I am engaged?
well tell them like your joken and then when you do then they just going to be like why didnt you tell me and you can be like i did but you didnt believe me. lol
or are you trying to go before you are 18?
Well im 17 and my boyfriend/babyfather is 21 and we are getting married tomorrow if we can or friday because we are just going to the court house and doing everything and we been with each other 3 years and we have a 1 year old child i told my mom like this Mom i need you to sign a consent form saying that i can get married lol it hit her hard but i mean it was easy for me because my dad dont have a say so and your do and its only my mom so i mean no your not too young to get married dont let nobody tell you that because me and my fiance are both christians i just recently got saved and we decided to live our lifes right and with god on your side all is possible so yea all them that was telling you that just hating cus maybe they was married and it didnt work or something i dont kno but pray to god consalt him first and ask if its ok cus even with my fiance he stop going to college he was playing football he wants to go back and in 4 years he is going to try out for the redskins team to become pro and me i want to be a marriage family divorce counslor so dont let nobody bring you down and when you have doubt thats the devil trying to steal your joy ok hun.
im glade if anything i said was helping you but if not swollow your gutt and just be like mom dad im 17 i have came a long way of making my own choices nobody told you 2 that yall didnt know if yall was for each other and i feel like im ready to handle the responsability of taking care of my self but wait do you plan on moving out there house and stuff too?
well just tell them how you feel like your ready cus really its not up to nobody but you two people are going to all ways say how they feel about it but so wat its your love for one another that matter and if it dont work o well you tried ok hun.
Like others said--You know its right, so why hide it? Since you'll be old enough to legally do it by then, they literally cannot stop you, so give them respect as your parents and come clean.
I waited to tell my Grandmother and I was relieved when I finally did tell her since.. she died a few months later. You just don't know what can happen in life, so be as honest as possible day by day.
I just want to know if you told your parents yet and what they said because I am in the same boat. I am 24 and still struggle to tell my parents I am getting married. I guess it's just hard for some of us to tell our parents. Let me know if you told them and what happened. I am looking for some suggestions!
With as old as this post is I hope you have figured out a way to tell them by now.
I would say that you just tell them that you are engaged and you are getting married on
July 19, 2008. IF they say you can not see him tell them you will still be getting married July 19, 2008 so don't they think it is better that you have the time to really get to know him better.
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