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I don't think it so much of an age issue as a 'what have you done' issue. For instance, do you have a job? a checking account? a car? a loan? paid off a loan? filed a tax return? balanced your checkbook without help? graduated from secondary school or higher? employment history? purchased life insurance?
When you are both sure that you have the right person, are mature, and ready to move in together. Pre-marital counseling is great, and can help you make sure that the time and person is right.
You will know when the time is right. As dumb as that sounds. I am a firm believer in the fact that your heart is never wrong. Nothing is foolproof, nothing is for certain. Someone can always get hurt and things can always change. But if you follow your heart you will never regret what you did, and being able to live without regret is the key to happiness no matter what is going on.
thats sweet about follow your heart, i also believe that.
i think i have found the one. we have dated 2 years and never broken up or been in any big fights. we always try and talk things out.
but we are too young now to marry, but i was just wondering what anyone thought a good age was.
we do have great jobs already and are mature enough i think.
anyways thanks. =D
what is a good age to get married, have a house, and start a family?
Two years after you started dating a guy and he still is the same guy he pretended to be when you met him. Two years means the courting behavior, often filled with misrepresentations and irrelevant attraction, has given way to real behavior and you have had a chance to really see who the guy is, and he you. If you're both still after each other, go for it. Any age.
If this is true for you now, the rest is stuff you can accomplish together as a committed team. You're going to continue to mature longer than he will, so if the guy he is today is great, then waiting could be pointless.
Oh yeah, and stay out of debt. Seriously. Car payments and credit cards are the leading basis of marital fights and money is central in most breakups (not solely, but a lot). Keep debt out of your house and you two will always have a solid foundation. Anything you could buy on credit you can buy in cash cheaper, and I mean anything. (celebrating our 25th anniversary next year with a cash trip to Paris, shopping the deals is so much fun)
I have to disagree with everyone on this one. I think it should be early 30's and late 20's. Being married is a job in itself. You need two adult with alittle understanding of life and that is something you dont have at in the early 20's. This why our divorce rates are such as they are. What type of career do you have at age 20? What type of income is this new young family going to have. 1# reason for divorce is financial. To young people get together and realize they can afford the these they wanted and blame each other. When you finish HS what age 17-18?
Then you have a young man with this super sex drive trying to keep his urges at bay. Which brings me to adultery...when this young man is faced with the oppunity to cheat. What exactly does he have to fall back on..
I disagree with those who say marriage comes after late 20's ... What does the person has to do while waiting to get 30 ?? Sleep with whoever he likes ? weird logic. Why not start right at the beginning .. What other choices does the person has beside marriage ?
Marriage has to do with maturity not with 20's or 30's.
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