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Asked Jan 18, 2011, 11:23 PM — 4 Answers
I'm already married and still attach with my ex boyfriend, we are just friends and I can't just ignore him because when we broke up, we've promised that we will remain friends. If my husband knows about it that I'm still seeing with my ex, he'll get mad. I treat my ex like a real best friend, he is the one I trust, I texted him whenever there's a problem. He gave me a friendly advices. Please help

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Jan 18, 2011, 11:33 PM


The biggest danger and mistake is that you are keeping this a secret from your husband.

It's time you tell your husband. He will somehow get knowledge of this, so best you tell him yourself.
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Jan 19, 2011, 12:07 AM
If this man is just a friend than you wouldn't be keeping it a secret from your husband.

So, do you still love your ex? Is he more than a friend and you're just fooling yourself into thinking that he's not? That's what it sounds like to me.

Either tell your husband that you're friends with your ex, or tell your ex that you can't be friends with him because you're married and you're lying to your husband.
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Jan 19, 2011, 07:00 AM
I agree with Altenweg, are you sure that there is not more going here than just friendship? It's not your frienship that is so wrong but the fact that you are keeping it a secret from your husband is. As hard as it may be to tell him now, how do you think he is going to take it whe he eventually finds out all by himself?
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Jan 19, 2011, 04:42 PM


Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
If this man is just a friend than you wouldn't be keeping it a secret from your husband.

So, do you still love your ex? Is he more than a friend and you're just fooling yourself into thinking that he's not? That's what it sounds like to me.

Either tell your husband that you're friends with your ex, or tell your ex that you can't be friends with him because you're married and you're lying to your husband.
You saved me a lot of typing. I agree 100%!
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