My husband got a text message from a female coworker around 11pm at night, he was at home with me, this was also the night of the company Christmas party, which we decided to not attend as we have 2 small children and no babysitter. The first text message was "where are you" and the second was asking something about needing him there for a "dance off" (it was implied that it was a "dance off" with fellow coworkers). He didn't seem to think this was inappropriate but I did. I called her on his cell phone and told her that he was home with me, his wife and we were not going to the party. My mom was at the Christmas party as she also works at the same company. She said the girl seemed drunk and was dressed in a short skirt and heels. I had never met her before. When I told my husband I did not like her texting him this late about the party, he got a little defensive and thought I was being a little rediculoius about it. He thinks I am just a jealous person. I met her shortly after this and she seemed nervous around me and wasn't overly friendly. My husband introduced me to her, she seemed friendly for a second but the rest of the night we shared what seemed like uncomfortable glances with each other (the woman and I)
A couple weeks ago after this she asked my husband for a ride to work as her car was in the shop or something. I found out about this by seeing a text message from her saying "dont forget me", it was sent a little before the time he would have went to pick her up. She sent him a text today during when they were working, asking a work related question but then went on in the same text making stupid jokes like "why do bananas smell like glue?" "why do I ask so many questions?" (she is 28 years old believe it or not). I told my husband I think she is a bit immature and he got very defensive. So my question is, is this appropriate or inappropriate behavior from a coworker of the opposite sex??