I want to get married.

RoMe · Sep 10, 2007, 01:49 PM

Im 18 years old and my girlfriend is 15 and we want to get married. One thing is im a girl shes a girl.. Her mom is fine with the relationship and I get along with her fine but she wont let her move out until she is 16. We live to far away to see each other enough for our relationship to work, were falling apart after a year and couple months. If we get married we can live together and have the life we want. Is there a way for us to get married without permission??

nicespringgirl · Sep 10, 2007, 03:31 PM

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Did you not read what i said her mom knows how old I am and everything shes fine with it. Maybe you never had a relationship but you cant help who you love. The state doesnt matter if there is a state we can get married in then we will go.

Call the court house see what they say? do you have a yellow book with you?

RoMe · Sep 10, 2007, 03:34 PM

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Call the court house see what they say? do you have a yellow book with you?

Not right here with me but I do have one.

underdogg · Sep 11, 2007, 08:08 AM

It seems you are getting irritated by everyones post. I am just curious is this your first relationship with a female? I know you are in love and so is she but your very young. i married at 17 its hard because you are still growing as a person. You talked about moving or moving to another state to get married if you had to. is it possible to move closer to your girlfriend so you could see each other more often and work on your relationship? That sounds more plausible. working on your relationship is better to do before you get married or live together it will make your bond stronger. Remember she is 3 years younger and how much growing and maturing you do in those years before adulthood you yourself will go through many too.

LearningAsIGo · Sep 11, 2007, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by RoMe

Im 18 years old and my girlfriend is 15 and we want to get married. One thing is im a girl shes a girl.. Her mom is fine with the relationship and I get along with her fine but she wont let her move out until she is 16. We live to far away to see each other enough for our relationship to work, were falling apart after a year and couple months. If we get married we can live together and have the life we want. Is there a way for us to get married without permission??

For me, the issue is not how you can get married without permission, but why. First, you may have difficulty finding a state/county that would "legally" marry two women. Second, it will be nearly impossible because of your partners age. In most states, younger partners must either have parental consent and/or be pregnant with a signed statement from their doctor before age 18.

Part of what you must learn as an adult is that getting married does not save a relationship. Sure, it may help to spend more time together, but it doesn't mean you should marry. (It may just be my humble opinion, but marriage should be taken very seriously and not rushed into for impetuous reasons.) If you're falling apart now, what makes you think an offical marriage will change that?

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If we get married we can live together and have the life we want

Believe me hun, Marriage does not make life a bowl of cherries. Sure, its good when both partners are ready and able to take care of each other but it has its downs as well.

Be together, but have fun and be young first.

talaniman · Sep 17, 2007, 07:20 AM

If you love her so much why can't you wait until she is of a more mature age? If you can't deal with a relationship it doesn't matter what state you move to, the marriage will fail.



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