hello everyone my name is nancy and i want some advice please;
I am 22 years old, i got married when i was 19 years old...and i just had a baby she is 9 months old...my problem is my husband i am sooooooooooo tired of him because i found out that he keeps on communicating with his ex girlfriends he talks with them on the phone,and even chats with them...and he sweet talks to his friends and acts totally different with them. ohh and when i tried to see who is calling him he gets mad if i get near the phone and when he is chatting he tells me "what do u want? are you spying or what?"
When the baby cries he perfer to be on the computer insted of checking to see whats wrong with her.He doesnt change diappers, or give the baby a bath and when i ask him to he is like "your the mom"....i am very depress sometimes i feel like running away... When it comes to his friends he perfers to be out all night long he gets home at 5am or later he doesnt even pay attention to me..he doesnt say that i look beautiful or give me a goodnight kiss.. Right now we are in vacation with his family and instead of taking me out he perfers to be home all day sleeping and when the night comes he is like "ill be right back i am going to see a friend" and leaves me here with the baby....Sometimes i feel like i HATE HIM, i just cant stand him no mor.Everyday i feel like if he is killing all the love that i used to have towards him. I dont admire him like i used to, i dont love him like i used to.I want to divorce him but i think about the baby i dont know what i should do please if someone read this give me some advice please i need it.... THANK YOU.......

CarolinaChick

Wow you just summed my life up! I am in the exact same boat as you. I am sorry...its a horrible horrible feeling. The only difference is my husband doesn't contact ex girlfriends. My husband is a complete a$$hole and is very very mean. He completely changed when the baby got here...he used to be a wonderful person. I don't know what it is but all I can say is that I am getting ready to take that next step but I am waiting for the right time do it financially. I need to be stable for my son & I know I will be! Hold on hunnie I promise you WILL be OK. You just need to figure out whats in your heart. Your child will be fine whatever your decision is but remember one thing, as someone told me on this site, do you want your child to grow up learning from his bad habits much less always seeing you unhappy. Your daughter can feel the tension and your unhappiness. Good luck whatever decision you make.

Emland

Some men behave like juveniles after a baby comes along. They aren't confident in holding or feeding the baby, they are jealous of the attention you give the baby and often, we moms look like hell a great deal of the time due to the baby's schedule.

You sound overwhelmed and he is being a jerk. It is time for you to call in some reenforcements. Ask for help from friends and family. Talk to him in a calm way - not after he has done something stupid. Make sure he knows where you stand. Tell him that partying all night is no longer acceptable if he wants to keep you in his life. Tell him you expect him to help you with the baby. If he doesn't want to - then you might as well leave since he is serving no purpose in your child's life anyway.

Try to hang in there. This is the worse part they were talking about in your vows.

robgun

I think its time you put it all out for him to know and let him hear how you are feeling, and if he cares he will try to make a change for you, to me it just sounds like he doesn't respect you at all, I should know I have done some of those things in my first marriage i was exactly the same way, he's not ready to grow up yet, i think he has missed out on a lot of things and he's just not ready for a committment. You cannot let the baby decided your happiness, if your not happy in the marriage how do you think the way that you and your husband act towards each other is going to affect your child? I say you make him away of how you are feeling and if he is unwilling to change you need to start thinking of a way to get out and move on.