Ok so here it is. So I betrayed my wife of 4 years. we were fighting constantly and nothing was getting better our friend that I have known for years since grade school kissed me when we were drunk. Well I givin feeling low thought that was nice someone hit on me. Well after I felt like a piece and me and my wife were still fighting I figured if I was to kiss her again that I would know if I felt wrong about it and really wanted to put me and my wife in gear and get back to us. So the next time drinking I decided I could use that first kiss as leverage to get her to do it again. SO I asked her if she had feelings she said No I love my husband and I said are you sure she says yes then I said lets kiss to find out so we did and it was awful NOW my wife is stuck on that and I cant get her to realise that it sounded that way but I DONT HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER. any advice?

plonak

My, the way you reacted to your marriage problems was very immature..

Going and getting drunk with some chick is not a way to solve your marriage problems..

Why dont you and your WIFE go to counseling and try to work things out.. she should be your first priority

And another hint, stop getting drunk and putting yourself in tempting situations..

Dizzle55

I wasnt Tempted its not like that. Me and her are friends and she was someone that I thought I could figure it out with if it was someone else it wouldnt have happend. I just needed to find out and thought I could do it all on my own I am not a good comunicator?

Altenweg

If she had said that she does have feelings for you and would like to have an affair, would you have stopped?

You cheated by kissing another women. The second time you kissed her was to find out if you should step out of your marriage, and now you wonder why your wife is upset? Wow, really?

My suggestion, stop drinking, stop flirting with other women, stop kissing other women and start trying to fix your marriage.

Dizzle55

Ya I know I am a and non of it makes sense some times not even to myself. It sucks and we were all so close and now its all ty. I love my wife and I will do anything to fix it but she is struggling thinking I have feelings I dont know how to prove to her I dont? and It was to figure us out? sounds so stupid and it is stupid but I was thinking it was the way at the time.

Altenweg

The only way to show that you know you were wrong is to stop doing stupid things and work on your marriage.

Maybe couples counselling would help both of you.

ethansmommy

u coulda just replied to ur "wife's" thread. here ya go buddy:






"Hi Everyone, So I have a horrible thing that I am dealing with right now. So this Halloween I was dropped a Bomb I found out that last Halloween My husband and My best friend were completley wasted talking in the Garage and she grabbed his face and they full on kissed. After the kiss she went inside and his other friend came out. My husband started crying not believing what he had just done. We were having a really hard time in our marriage and she knew my feeling HELLO she is my BFF I told her and he was confiding in her to cause they are practically brother and sister have known each other since kids.
well so after that he was confused even more we fought even more cause he was always out of town. so he got this idea in his head if he was going to kiss her again he would know if it was wrong he couldnt lose me and if he could kiss her and feel nothing that it was done. SO and let me tell you her husband is his BFF so weird situation. So he asked her in the garage new years eve if she had feelings she said no he said well how do you know she said I do he said well lets kiss again and see so they did and they said it was occuard he called her couple days later apoligized said he loved me and knows what he wants. THEN I guess this summer he was dropping her off and she told him oh i could kiss you but I am not going to and he said I DONT WANT YOU TO. so obviously if he wanted her he would have right. what should I do? do I stay friends with her I love him."

Xxangelface09xX

Wow love. that was not the way to solve that problem. you should know how you feel about your wife without having to kiss some other chick. drunk or not. that was lame and stupid and i would have left your .

N0help4u

You may not think this is temptation but anything that causes you to do something you shouldn't has some degree of temptation or you wouldn't have gone for it.
Like the others said 'I just needed to find out' is NOT the way to work your problems with your wife out.
What if when you were having differences she decided to latch on to some guy she has known and start kissing on him?
Being drunk is not an excuse or else maybe you should give up 'getting drunk'

N0help4u

Tell him that he is going to focus on you and your relationship and work it out the proper way or he can just go find some other girl to be kissing on.
As far as being friends with her I would go more for acquaintance if anything.