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Old Apr 30, 2009, 11:46 AM
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underage marriage

I'm not sure what to say about this, but what do you others thoughts about marriage at a young age like around 18?

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Old Apr 30, 2009, 12:05 PM   #2  
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I think statistics show about a 75% chance of it ending in divorce and as a mathematician, I tend to agree with numbers.

There is very little reason these days to get married young. It provides little benefit that cannot be obtained in other manners. Divorce is messy and expensive.

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Old Apr 30, 2009, 12:15 PM   #3  
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I got married at gulp.. 17.

I'm getting divorced now at 23 I've been with him for 4+ years with some seperation in between.

There's a lot that I missed out between these ages. I really wish I had waited, and listened to my PopPop when he warned me about it.

The thing about young marriage is although it is an adult decision and your now considered an adult, there is a lot of baggage that comes with it that not many young couples understand.

Your now at the age of entering adulthood and marriage will lead to responsibilities. Sometimes leads to having babies and it can change your goals.
I wanted to be an English teacher... and now I'm an accountant. Only because he had a problem with me being a teacher [stupid I know].

You are just leaving childhood and entering adulthood. By getting married your ripping that ticket up and taking an expressway to life... and the outcome leaves you with a temporart bliss but a forever regret and even resent towards your partner.

Wait! If you love eachother now you CAN wait.


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artlady agrees: I took the plunge to my HS love at 18,seperated by 19,people change so much once they get over the teen hump.
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I think that people "in love" and want to get married will not listen to anyone anyway and will do what they want no matter what others think.

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I think that people "in love" and want to get married will not listen to anyone anyway and will do what they want no matter what others think.
Very true FR.. I wish I wasn't such a bonehead. Too bad my PopPop isn't here still so I can get that "I told you so".

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Seeing as you've only been dating for a month, I'd say it's a terrible idea.

Why the rush? If you're in love now you'll be in love 6 years from now.

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I think it is okay to think about getting married one day (I believe I had my wedding day planned out at 13) but I wouldn't get married at the age of 18.

Marriage is so easy to get into but hard to get out of.
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I wanted to be an English teacher... and now I'm an accountant. Only because he had a problem with me being a teacher [stupid I know].
You know if you really want to be a teacher you can always go back to school. It is never too late.

I started going back to school for nursing, my dream job, and just got back into school. I already completed 3 years but then I left school because I needed a break. That was a bad decision because I really should have stuck with it. Now I enrolled back into school and will start in the Fall and be graduating next year.

Never give up on your dream and I know first hand with kids it isn't easy but where there is a will there is a way.
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You know if you really want to be a teacher you can always go back to school. It is never too late.

I started going back to school for nursing, my dream job, and just get back into school. I already completed 3 years but then I left school because I needed a break. That was a bad decision because I really should have stuck with it. Now I enrolled back into school and will start in the Fall and be graduating next year.

Never give up on your dream and I know first hand with kids it isn't easy but where there is a will there is a way.
Good for you lizz, congrats, I went to nursing school in 02 and graduated in 06, best thing i ever did. Prior to nursing i was a flight attendant with an airline that tanked in post sept. 11th although i got to see a lot of places and embrace so many cultures it was not as rewarding as the work that i have done and still doing as a nurse

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Lighterrr, I meant to write "Good for you! I can't wait to be a nurse".

I just think everyone should follow their dreams. I was thinking of being a flight attendant once. Went to the interview, landed the job, but changed my mind.
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