If I am 17 years of age and finish High School and decide to get married but my guardian does not have a way to prove I'm hers, what do I do? I am 8 Months pregnate and need to be married before conceiving the baby!

Hi I am 17 and I am Just a ordernay girl who worked for a clothing store, I've been working for this store fore about 2 months. I was the christian type girl who focused on life itself and one day I meet this guy after meeting several other guys execpt this one was special! he came in looking for clothes just like any other guy and I ask him if I could help him and he looked and was about to say no but when we made eye contact he decided he wanted help. looking in his eyes was like he already belong to me. we had a fun and exciting go around for clothes and whatever I saw in him I wanted more. I waited for him to come around again but it was about two weeks before I saw him, well to cut the story short we stated a relationship and he did ask my age and I did not give it to him. he found out by me leaving my report card at his apartment. well I left my parents to be with him and been living with him since. I am now 8 months pregnate with a little girl and Im proud about him being the dad. I have finish school and plan to continue my education. he is a helicopter pilot for air rescue. he is the age of 49. he will be 50 in september and I'll be 18 in august. we really do love each other and plan to get married before having the baby. what do you think about the relationship? do you believe in true love? does the age make a deferents? please be Honest!

JBeaucaire

The age difference does matter. It will come up time and again. But so what? You've fast-tracked this relationship in every way so it really doesn't matter what your issues are, does it?

Baby on the way, time to make an honest man out of him regardless of the age differences. On the good side, he is pretty predictable at his age. What you see if probably exactly what you get.

You'll need a thick skin, though, people will talk. Ignore them.

Make that baby a home. It's a 20 year commitment minimum.

ScottGem

This is going to sound a bit harsh, but you are being hypocritical. Being raised in a Christian family didn't stop you from having sex out of marriage. It didn't stop you from dishonoring your parents by running away. So you think it will make it all better if you get married prior to giving birth? Sorry it doesn't work that way.

I'm bothered by your statement that you are marrying someone with a big age difference. Is this the father of your child? If so, you apparently had sex with him right after you started the relationship. Since you are now 17, its possible that sex was illegal. And that may be why he's staying, to avoid stautory rape charges.

I urge you not to rush into marriage with this man. Have the baby, see how well he treats you and the child, then after you are 18 you can get married.

Fr_Chuck

yes, have the baby, become a mother, at this point there is no need to rush into a marriage. It sounds more like your guardian is trying to stop you from a possible additional mistake

Fr_Chuck

At 50 many men go though some mid life issue, and if you are in the US, in some states he can go to jail for rape even because of your age.
My opinion is he is a child preditor who will soon tire of you as you get and look older or he tires of having sex with you.

And if I am wrong at the best, when you are 30 he will be in his 60's, when you are 40 he will be in his 70's so you will expect to live with him with limited or no sex in your latter years, and to expect for him to die long before you are old and you will be living on your own.

donf

Dorlexit,

God is going to love you and your child whether you are married or not.

Please, I encourage you not to run into a marriage that you have not prepared for. You have enough incredible tasks in front of you now. Take care of yourself and the baby.

If you are meant to marry the father (I'm assuming it's the father you want to marry), let him earn the right to marry you and be a father to his child.

By the way, how old is the father?

Fr_Chuck

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JudyKayTee

You spell and ramble on about your "relationship" like you are in elementary school and he sounds like a predator. You aren't sure what the difference between conception and childbirth is! Sounds like he is marrying someone young and uneducated and you are marrying older who sleeps with children.

At least if you marry him maybe you can get some spousal support and child support - if he pays - if/when the relationship breaks up.

Once again I am amazed that 2 people in a dangerous world - people are dying out there! - don't use birth control, particularly because it looks like you knew him about 15 minutes (give or take) before you got "pregnate," as you put it.

Dorlexit

Hey judykayTee! I understand that you know nothing about christians because where there is sin there is repent, you act as if you know it all! if gays can walk around like what their doing is right then so can I! at least I'm a women and he's a man, besides what where doing and have done is Most of post deleted for lanaguage and content

Minors phone number deleted for her protection again, Minor will be banned if she posts it again

Fr_Chuck

First no, don't use being a Chrsitian as a reason to make a terrrible mistake,

And just because others can make mistakes and are proud of those mistakes don't give you a reson to, so please excuses for your actoins in attacking Judy make no sense either.

1. not legal, running away from home, you could be declared a delinquent and put in foster care or detention if your parents or guardian were doing thier job properly.

And in many states, a girl your age is not legal having sex with a old man.
So don't try talking legal to Judy one of our leading legal eagles on this site either.

And of course he is jeopordizing his repertation being with you, any other grown man is looking at him as a pervert, a child molester,

And yes you have came a long way, all down hill.

It is time for you to start looking at life as it really is, not what you want it to be like.

But now is not the time to futher it by getting married, wait till the child is here and you are starting into real life and reality.

JudyKayTee

My first reaction to your posting was a flash of anger - and then I looked closer.

You cannot express yourself; you can neither spell nor use proper English. You are a filthy mouthed, run away, pregnant out of wedlock 17 year old.

You have posted your telephone number on a public message board as well as this entire story and a photo of the alleged father of your child. If anyone is endangering his career, it's you - and the photo is complete with identifying background info.

Take a look at how the adults on the board express themselves and see if you learn anything.

I'm surprised your Guardian isn't RACING to the Courthouse to emancipate you in order to get out from under the legal responsibility for whatever you do next.