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So I made this really nice dinner tonight for my husband and I. We both really like Italian food so I made portabella parmigiano over pasta, homemade garlic toast, salad, and an ice cream pie for dessert. We don't usually eat like this but I just thought I would make a special dinner. As I was making dinner I sent picture messages to my husband as clues to what we were having. We were bantering back and forth all day. Everything seemed fine.
He came home and dinner was ready after about 20 minutes. He took like two bites, told me it tasted like crap (I am an award winning Italian cook, no joke, and so I know when things taste like crap, this did not). He slammed his fork down, screamed at me that I made dinner wrong. When I told him how I made it, he went through the garbage screaming that I was lying to him. Which I was not. Then left the kitchen. About 5 minutes later he came back, still yelling at me for lying to him about how I made it. I told him again how I made it, and he continued to yell, slam things, and then the real Tuscany had to go out. I went to let him out, and he yelled at me again, and then yelled at the dog. It actually scared the dog (we don't typically believe in yelling, it just scares Tuscany).
He came back from letting the dog in and again started yelling at me, then went to the bedroom, slamming the door. Tuscany and I are in the computer room, and I am not sure what to do next. I am scared to go down to talk to him because I hate being yelled at. But, I don't want to end the night like this. I just keep crying. What should I do?
I am so sorry for you. I do not know you very well. But please just stay put and do not make him angrier. Just settle down and take comfort from your dog, maybe take him for a walk. Just settle your mind and you can decide later if you want to try and talk to your husband, but for now let things cool down.
Honey, I'm so sorry.
It appears your hubby had a really bad day and is taking it out on you.
You tried to make a nice evening, so don't beat yourself up over this.
Was there a reason you went to so much trouble?
For now, I'd just let him be...
Is he the type to apologize for snapping at you for no reason?
I pretty much just made it because we have not had dinner together just the two of us in awhile and I thought it would be nice. I have made the same meal in the past and he loved it.
Thank you both. I think I am just going to stay right here for awhile...my puppy is happy, and he is super cuddily right now...so I am going to enjoy that.
Yes i agree with the others that it is best to let him cool down. Sorry that he carried on like this.
Is he usually such a hostile man?
NO!! That is why I am so upset. He is usually very calm and cool. In the years (almost 10) we have been together I can count on one hand the number of times he raised his voice at me. We disagree sure, but it never escalates to what happened tonight.
Well in a way that is good to hear. Im glad it isnt common practice. But im sure it must make it all the more scarier for you.
Hoping he just had a really bad day at work and was looking for a fight. I know sometimes as bad as it i am like that. I will bottle everything up until i see the person i care most and let it all out on them in a fit of anger.
Sometimes it is easier to be mad at the people we love then the people we dislike.
Crazy isnt it. But thats what men can be like sometimes.
Thanks Skell...Even though my heart knows that to be true, it hurt really bad when he started screaming at me. He is asleep now...I only hope that he apologizes in the morning.
Is it possible that he had some drink after work?? The only time i seem to fly off the handle is when i have a little too much to drink and im in a bad mood.
I know it must have hurt and it sounds terrible. Let him sleep it off and see if his attitude changes in the morning.
But again you know what stubborn men can be like. He may be to stubborn to apologise.
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