[dankums]

My girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me. In the past 2 years we have been perfect. Spent most of our free time together, slept together almost every night, rarely argued, all that fun stuff. We are both graduating from college in 2 weeks. So everything is going great and out of the blue she breaks up with me saying she no longer wants a boyfriend, she wants to be able to do what she wants, hook up with guys if she wants, basically be free to be single without the worries of having a boyfriend. I can completely understand the desire to be single, but it literally came without any warning and I am having trouble wrapping my head around why someone would do this and how to react to it. In a few weeks I am leaving for Georgia for an internship and she is toying with the idea of moving to California. I am scared I will never see her again. What should I do?

[liz28]

Her decision did not come out of the blue. I guarantee this is idea has been in her head for a while and since college is ending she made it a reality.

Since, she expressed her no longer wanting to be a relationship with you need to come to terms with it. You might not see her again and she might be in a different state as you. However, this is good news. Let her fly her freak wings and you start letting go and free your heart from her. Her lost can be someone else gain.

[Romefalls19]

You have to do the only thing that you can do, respect her wishes. I know it's tough and we have all been there. You have invested so much time into the relationship, it feels like a part of you is leaving. But use this opportunity to grow, do things that you wouldn't normally do because she was in your life.

[SentientAndroid]

It happens to the best of us. Once again, I'm currently going through this as well. I was told "I just want to be single. I don't want a boyfriend at the moment." It doesn't matter how good you were to her, no matter how romantic or how great you were in bed, when a person has that need to fly away and be single there's absolutely nothing you can do to keep them grounded. It's crazy and I still can't comprehend it, but it is what it is.

Your situation sounds eerily familiar to mine. We were inseparable in college and we were great from 19-22, but around 23-24 and after she graduated college she just wanted to be free. The only thing that I can think of is that a person who has been in a long term relationship for 2,3, 4-5 years from an "early" age eventually starts to wonder what else is out there. Do they REALLY want to be with this person for the rest of their life? So it's best for them to get out of their relationship and see what else the world has to offer while they still have their youth. You can't be mad at them because if the shoe was on the other foot you'd expect them to understand where you were coming from... it just sucks for the other person who doesn't want the separation.

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes most likely this is not out of the blue, you just did not see it happening. And yes the part of you moving to GA, perhaps that is not the career and life she wanted, Did you ask her where she wanted to move to after college ? Why were you not willing to move with her to follow her dream ?

But yes most likely you will not see her again, unless you run into each other in future years at college reunions and the such.

[talaniman]

Listen to the others, mourn the loss, and let her do her thing, and take the good memories and do what you had planned to do, without her. She just did not want to share your dreams because she has her own.