Hi,
I been married for 3 months been together for a year. About 3 weeks ago he left about 5pm and came home about 6 am; he did that for about 16 days. He and I got in to a yelling match every time he left he would find something to yell at me for and try to get me mad. Yes it did work. Then he left for a 6 days and did not come home. He finally came back and asks if I want to make this marriage work but I would have to give up all my friends’ b/c he did not like me talking to them. I told him I would but he still left again. He told me he had been stay a girl house named Stacey it’s an ex of his. Be fore all of this are marriage was going bad. We would have sex for five mins. And no hugging or kissing. I would try to hold him or touch him and he would get mad. I don’t know what to do. What should I do? Oh and I tried asking him to go to someone for help but he said no. Over and over again.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

First, I don't know why your husband, a married man, is staying with an ex-girlfriend in times of trouble between you two. For crying out loud! Couldn't it be his parents, buddies, brother or sister's house?

He is controling and selfish. Though I hate saying this and unless he is willing to work things out, then leave him. I don't like suggesting divorce because afterall, why did you two get married in the first place?

coolcooljess

We got marriaed b/c we were in love. Should I give up?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Did you realize that when you made the marraige vows, they would be forever? Not for just 3 months?

Before giving up, talk to him about it. I know you are capable of it.

coolcooljess

Should I just say we need to go see someone or we have to go call it quits? I dont want to lose him b/c I do love him.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

Yes, tell him for the sake of ever being happy together, that you must communicate with a professional or without.

coolcooljess

Thanks

igman

There is definitely something here that needs to be fixed. Staying at an ex girlfriends house is NOT ok even if you weren't married. It seems that he does not want to go to counseling because he does not want to face the truth.....my wife was like that. Ask him again to go with you...maybe even suggest he pick the counselor/therapist. If he still refuses then by all means, go by yourself. You will need the help to deal with what is to come.

karinalatina

Look I Know How Much You Can Love This Person Because I Love My Husband Alot Too But While Me And My Husband Have Pro Blems If He Left To Exes House And Came Back At Six Am That Would Definitely Make Up My Mind In Leaving Him But Easier Said Then Done But You Have To Make A Decision Based On The Way Hes Treating You And How Hes Acting First Hes Intentionally Trying To Get You Mad To Have Reason To Go Out And Stay Out Probably Even Cheating On You But We Dont Know This For A Fact But You Should Consider It Because Come On Exes House Why Out Of Everybody He Goes There . Second You Too Making Love He Doesnt Appreciate You Doesnot Want You To Touch Him Why Doesnt He Want You Touching Him If He Loves You He Would Want You To Touch Him And Make Him Feel Like A Freaking King Right. Third This Is What Always Gets Me Mad I Dont Understand Why Men Always Wants Us Not To Have Friends Now This Is A Definite No In Listening To Him You Should Always Have Friends He Definitely Has Friends I Bet You Dont Want Him Talking To Like That Stacey He Cant Be Selfish. I Mean If You Love Him Give It One More Try What The Hell You Been Together For A Year Right But He Cant Be Lea Ving And Coming Back At 6 That Has To Stop Or Theres No Point In Trying To Fix Relationship Tell I M That Hope This Helps In Some Way.

be1013

i think definalty you should consider ending this relationship. maybe you're in love with him.... but if a man is in love with you he would NOT do that type of thing. sorry, but it's just my opinion, hope things work out, i really do.