Rescue my marrage or Should I give up?

Onbekende · Nov 6, 2009, 09:29 PM

I'm 20 years old and got married when I was 19. I'm almost married for a year now. We had a rough start but the more time past, the better it got. Three weeks ago I got a womanly problem... Causing that we couldn't be intimate for a week or so. My husband got grumpy about this and WOULDN'T understand. He didn' even worry about what was going on with my health, he just was angry abvout him not getting "any". He told me it I wouldn't give him any he would have to get it some place else! This made me feel like I'm only good for having sex with and now that - can't I'm not needed anymore... He's not speaking to me, not sleeping next to me (he is sleeping on the couch). This silent treatment has been going on for a week now. - don't know whaty to do? - don't even feel like trying to work things out anymore. How am I suppose to deal with this? I really love him but he is trying his best to hurt me- like not putting on his ring to work... Is it time to end our relationship or will this blow over?

SVImager · Nov 7, 2009, 08:23 AM

No need to get divorce over this little issue... He needs you right now to hold it together... The time will come when it is his turn to hold it together....

Enjoy the Process of learning to live together.

Devorameira · Nov 20, 2009, 08:45 AM

I agree - he's a spoiled brat. If he gets that upset about a monthly period, just think what will happen down the road when you have a baby and can't have sex for weeks or have a serious illness. I'd get rid of that immature brat fast! You deserve so much more!

NorseThor · Nov 22, 2009, 03:56 PM

One of the vows he took was in sickness and in health. Maybe you need to remind that vow he said to you in front of witnesses and God. Maybe you can do other things for him that will make him feel needed and wanted. There are different ways of intimacy.

Thor

NowWhat · Nov 23, 2009, 06:55 AM

Really?? I have reread your post a couple of times and every time it makes less sense to me.

You acknowledged that you had a rough start. We all do - marriage is a lot of hard work.

So - three weeks ago you got your period - I am assuming this happens every month - so what made this time so difficult for him??
I am left questioning if there is something bigger going on? A missing detail, perhaps?
To cut you off emotionally and just be down right mean.... What the heck??

A marriage works when you have communication. Never allow those lines to be closed. Talk to him - even if he is content with giving you the silent treatment - talk to him. Hopefully he will hear you.

talaniman · Nov 23, 2009, 03:41 PM

I don't think it matters what kind of antics he pulls, he is a very immature spoiled brat. I think what matters is how you deal with it. I always thought you put a child in time out, when he has a hissy fit.

I know if I had a hissy fit, she wouldn't put up with my bad behavior, and I would be sleeping on the porch, making my own lunch, wash my own dirty draws (UGH!), while she would be dressed in her finest and going out without me.

Accepting bad behavior (or childish in this case) will only bring more of the same.