I am in my early 20's and I am married. Almost a year now. I love my husband with all my heart, and I love being married.

My husband is the only person I have ever been with, he was my first and only boyfriend I've ever had.

Latley when we go out with our group of friends I've started to wonder if I am missing out on the whole dating scene. None of our friends are married and they look like they are having so much fun experiencing different relationships. I've skipped that stage in my life and wondering if I really am missing out on that. I've dissuced this with my husband but he doesn't really understand because I'm not the only person he's been with.

Now, don't get me wrong. I don't regret getting married, and I take the vows we made very seriously. I wouldn't ever cheat on him, and I don't believe in divorce.

Do you think it is foolish of me to wonder what that stage in life would be like?

s_cianci

It's not foolish to wonder, but rest assured you aren't missing anything. Take it from someone who didn't get married until he was almost 35. Consider yourself lucky that you have an established family at a young age.

stonewilder

I think what you are feeling is normal. I bet your friends secretly wish they had what you have too.

rpg219

I agree. I would think it is normal for you to wonder, as long as you don't act on it. I was like you in the manner of marrying at an early age. Then I divorced and went "wild". Now I'm back to my settled stage (married for life this time, with a child). Although I had fun...I'm more the settled down type, as it sounds you are. I think it was very honorable for you to discuss this with your hubby. Keep that up and you'll be wondering a loong time (that's a good thing) Honesty is what makes a marriage last.

donf

Annon,

Foolish to wonder? Absolutely not! Even if you see a the perfect male (me of course) and all you passions ignite for an instant, relax, you are human, welcome home.

Emotions and passions are natural and not to be worried about. It's what you do from that magical moment when we meet that counts. It sounds as though you already know and are able to enjoy the moment and just let it go. The dating scene is no longer you playground.

However, I assume that you are still allowed to go on a date with your husband. I know I'm still dating my wife.

Oh by the way, I forgot to tell you (trust me) that I'm sixty, rotund, with blue eyes and non brown hair. Is that your definition of the perfect male?

Congratulations on being married and enjoy yourself. Marriage is not a life time of misery. It is and has been a source of comfort, companionship and friendship for me. I hope my lady feels the same even after all these years.

George_1950

This may be a case of "the grass looking greener on the other side". A lot of single and uncommitted folks are afraid of the lonely nights and wonder when, if ever, they will end. The idea of "dating" your husband is something you might explore. Hopefully, he will be receptive to this idea as well.

talaniman

As you can see we all wonder what if from time to time, normal. That you and hubbie can talk about it is so cool.