I'm really needing some thoughts, input, advice... anything on this decision I'm trying to make.

I have met this 20 year old girl from the Philippines and we really like each other. She says love, but I say we need to meet first. She agrees we need to meet. A good idea?

I'm a 26 year old from the US and we met on a sexcam site. Pretty embarrassing, but I joined and then saw her online that day and was just taken away by her beauty. On these sites you buy credits to take the girls into private shows where they do what you want.

Well I bought credits and took her into a private show and we just continued to chat. I came back the next day to talk more. For a few hours again. She gave me her yahoo messenger name after that.

Now we talk online every day. Sometimes quite a few hours at once. This is all while she is at work. No computer at home. We both have webcams and use them all the time to see each other. We have exchanged phone numbers, address and she tried to call me the other day. Expensive for her to call or txt, but I tried to call her back, which is what she asked, but my phone doesn't do international.

Ok, sorry this is wordy, I know. Since we met, her bday came, so i sent money for a cell phone, plus some extra. Then she bought two phones!? What ever. Now one is cracked and she gave to her sister, And the other is lost from something that happened on her birthday. Ill spare the details.

well, she really want another phone. This is kind of sounding like a scam to me. Anyways, She tells me about her medical problems and the high cost of meds, but never ask for money for that. She only wants a cheap 60 phone.

Think this is a legit thing? And, Ive met online on webcam, someone who is supposedly her best friend from 5 years old, also her older sister Ive met on webcam. Ive chatted to another friend w/o a cam.

This girl has told me stuff about how poor the family is. When she was young her house did not have a door she told me. She really hasnt asked for much and has told me soo much about herself. She says she is a virgin and is waiting for marriage. Possibly not the best thing to say to get a 26 year old to come visit you.

I'm pretty sure I'm going to go meet this girl real soon. We joke about marraige and stuff like that. I really like her and she seems to love me. I'm thinking I'm going to take a month off and go rent an apartment in Angeles City. 20 minutes from her home. She says she will be at my side the whole time and wants to stay at the apartment. I think this apartment will be like luxury to her. We have plans to do many different things while I'm there. If i visit.

On the cam site, many times, I see her come in the next day in the same clothes as the day before and then she is changed after she gets there. Like she uses clothes provided by her job. She seems real legit to me. Am I being blinded by what seems to me could be love?

Also, While she is at work she hardly gets any customers, she basically ignores them while chatting to me. I try to get her to work harder and maybe show off her body some. She just keeps her clothes on while the other girls at the very least get down to panties and bra. U know?

Whats everyone feelings on this? A good idea to meet her? She seems amazing.

BTW, I choose the Marriage catagory because I've seen a Q on the Philippines here already and I really would like to marry this girl if she is what she says she is.

CFZD

Sounds like a scam to me! I think it's better to meet someone local instead of internet especially those websites...

And you said she seems amazing, you tell me how long does it take to get to know a person in real life, you know it takes longer than this! Now you only know her online, how much do you know really?

Fr_Chuck

money for phone now, yep lost two phones, met on a sex site.

All that is missing now is a sick family, and money for the passport. And don't tell me, you are going to send her the money to rent the apartment ??

Get a friend to check out that sex site, and see if she will tell him the same story ( or a better one maybe)

Best bet, plan a trip to there, great county, wonderful vacation and I bet it is alot different.

reallywondering

No I am renting an apartment myself. She will visit. I question her all the time. As I get to know her more, she seems true. I will be visiting to meet her and all expenses will be mine for me. She has said she has no passport and has no money for it. She has said she has no money for many things. I told her to buy this phone, she said it will take a long time to save up. But she doesn't beg. I dont know.......

KeepItSimpleStupid

For phone try Skype. If it's a cell doing international, it will cost you bucks, that's why it's usually intentionally turned off. Usually no charge to turn it on. You'll pay international roaming + connect charges. Definately not a good way to call.

CFZD

She is true! She wants money. That is very obvious to us!

You need to notice some culture difference, in most asian cultures, when someone says she doesn't have money for something, that means you need to buy for her!
American culture is different, you guys are more direct than most asians.

If you read about the business culture in Asia, you will realize that the way they express their needs are less direct as Americans. Americans misunderstand a lot of their words, not Americans' fault, just culture difference.

reallywondering

if i get another phone for her, I wil be using my verizon cell. 3.99 month, plus 0.13 min i think. we have talked briefly on the phone. we always cam online with sound also. well she has sound.

I know she wants money, of couse. And no, she and her family affords the meds she takes now, but not easily. the family can afford what they need, but a cell phone is all on her.

CFZD

She is probably testing you with an "inexpensive" item first.

lawanwadee

Philippines has the highest immigration rate in Asia.. almost all are females who would do anything to be able to leave the country. Possibility to obtain tourist visa to US is zero and even spouse visa or fiance visa takes about a year or longer while it takes much less in other Asian countries.

Don't mean to sound pessimistic but many of our clients are US citizens who married these girls and ended up being "used" for greencards, plus debts, etc.

In my opinion, don't jump on the first train... take time to get to know each other. Don't be blinded, which you are now, with just her look, there are more deep down that you don't know and will never know in short period of time. It takes time to find someone for marriage, unlike buying a hamburger.

oneguyinohio

I'll bet she does sound amazing. That could be because she is trained in her job to fulfill your desires. I could tell you about money I need for some medical stuff too, and that my family lived in a home without a toilet for a long time and had to use a porcelain chamber pot. Oh, and I lost a cell phone too... does that make me amazing??

But relax, I'm not interested in hitting on you... I'm not gay...

You seem to want to go check out the situation... so, if you do, I would only caution you to be careful. The trip might be a real learning situation as well as an enjoyable experience, or you could wind up dead somewhere.

Are you willing to take a chance like that? Going to a foreign country... and hanging out with someone you know works in the sex trade... just seems to be asking for problems... as a tourist you would be an easy mark because of the money you would have. You also would be making yourself extremely vulnerable by being alone and not knowing what areas would be safe or not...

Have you considered why she is permitted to keep her job if she is ignoring other customers at work? Sounds to me like her employers are planning on making some money from it in some way??? It would be easy for them to monitor all of your conversations with her...

One of the big safety warnings about meeting with people from online is not to go places with them that are not public, and that you are not familiar with... I think it would be best not to ignore that advice because it really seems to me that you are being lured into a potentially dangerous situation.