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I'm really needing some thoughts, input, advice... anything on this decision I'm trying to make.
I have met this 20 year old girl from the Philippines and we really like each other. She says love, but I say we need to meet first. She agrees we need to meet. A good idea?
I'm a 26 year old from the US and we met on a sexcam site. Pretty embarrassing, but I joined and then saw her online that day and was just taken away by her beauty. On these sites you buy credits to take the girls into private shows where they do what you want.
Well I bought credits and took her into a private show and we just continued to chat. I came back the next day to talk more. For a few hours again. She gave me her yahoo messenger name after that.
Now we talk online every day. Sometimes quite a few hours at once. This is all while she is at work. No computer at home. We both have webcams and use them all the time to see each other. We have exchanged phone numbers, address and she tried to call me the other day. Expensive for her to call or txt, but I tried to call her back, which is what she asked, but my phone doesn't do international.
Ok, sorry this is wordy, I know. Since we met, her bday came, so i sent money for a cell phone, plus some extra. Then she bought two phones!? What ever. Now one is cracked and she gave to her sister, And the other is lost from something that happened on her birthday. Ill spare the details.
well, she really want another phone. This is kind of sounding like a scam to me. Anyways, She tells me about her medical problems and the high cost of meds, but never ask for money for that. She only wants a cheap 60 phone.
Think this is a legit thing? And, Ive met online on webcam, someone who is supposedly her best friend from 5 years old, also her older sister Ive met on webcam. Ive chatted to another friend w/o a cam.
This girl has told me stuff about how poor the family is. When she was young her house did not have a door she told me. She really hasnt asked for much and has told me soo much about herself. She says she is a virgin and is waiting for marriage. Possibly not the best thing to say to get a 26 year old to come visit you.
I'm pretty sure I'm going to go meet this girl real soon. We joke about marraige and stuff like that. I really like her and she seems to love me. I'm thinking I'm going to take a month off and go rent an apartment in Angeles City. 20 minutes from her home. She says she will be at my side the whole time and wants to stay at the apartment. I think this apartment will be like luxury to her. We have plans to do many different things while I'm there. If i visit.
On the cam site, many times, I see her come in the next day in the same clothes as the day before and then she is changed after she gets there. Like she uses clothes provided by her job. She seems real legit to me. Am I being blinded by what seems to me could be love?
Also, While she is at work she hardly gets any customers, she basically ignores them while chatting to me. I try to get her to work harder and maybe show off her body some. She just keeps her clothes on while the other girls at the very least get down to panties and bra. U know?
Whats everyone feelings on this? A good idea to meet her? She seems amazing.
BTW, I choose the Marriage catagory because I've seen a Q on the Philippines here already and I really would like to marry this girl if she is what she says she is.
If you can go there and meet her that would be best, it really sounds like a scam where she just wants you to pay for her visas and passports and to get her into the US and then she will disapear.
In fact she might even get you to pay for her visa and passport and not even go get the passport, just take the money and disapear.
You just never know these days but if you can go there and meet her maybe you will feel she is genuinely into you... tough call... but in all cases dont send her money, as the last poster said it sets a precedent that she can get money from you and you might get taken advantage of.
If you can go there and meet her that would be best, it really sounds like a scam where she just wants you to pay for her visas and passports and to get her into the US and then she will disapear.
In fact she might even get you to pay for her visa and passport and not even go get the passport, just take the money and disapear.
You just never know these days but if you can go there and meet her maybe you will feel she is genuinely into you... tough call... but in all cases dont send her money, as the last poster said it sets a precedent that she can get money from you and you might get taken advantage of.
I understand the doubts because fraud really happens here but I just want to clear that, HERE, guys the must be the one to pay for immigration expenses (if ever)! Even in the date & wedding, guys are responsible for MOST of the expenses. Its the way of showing how to be a gentleman. Its a culture thing.
Do you know ALL KNOW that the minimum wage here is P375/a day (or $8.33 /a day, not p/h?
I saw a news when police raided a internet sex den. They were asked how much these girls are earning they said P 15,000/a month ($333)! Most of the payments wired goes to the operator of the shop and these poor people just enjoy the gifts sent to them by cust like reallywondering.
hi there. i am in somewhat of a similar situation. i met (well, got in touch with anyway!) my girl through a sex webcam site, cams.com. after a year of phone calls, probably 2 hours a day, and her being offline for a few months, i thought i would go and finally see her.
well, i've just come back from two months with her! everything is fantastic! as for the webcam thing... i know she won't do it forever and doesn't really bother me too much right now. we chat via msn video every day, even while she is working. though i try to not watch her shows live on msn when i can!
what she does online is just a show. all fake. anyone who thinks it's real needs to have their head examined.
i'm moving to be with her really soon. and yes, i've done a *lot* of thinking about it.
You are a young Boy,
and may be you do not know exactly which is the real situation in Philippines, right, she needs help because of the life necessity.
But many helps (e.g. history of lost phones) are only excuse to get money, easy money.
I had a friendship and after a relationship with a girl like her, same situation, but the end it has been not happy for us both, she continues her work right now, notwithstanding because the occasion i offered to her to stop the work.
So Anyway be cautious, before taking decision to go in PH (Angeles City there are a plenty of these girls), make the proposal to stop the work and see which will be her reaction, your trip will depend of the reaction, be cautious before, that is better to before be scared, Best wishes, mmiky.
Hey. If you have some time to read a pretty long and detailed story about a bad experience with a philippine girl someone met on a dating site, take a look at this link:
Some things about this story show the guy was obviously not to smart...I mean looking at the pictures of this nice young girl with this graying old man should be red flags enough!
Anyway, it seems (at least from his perspective) that they went to great lengths just to try and scam him. The main thing to take from this is people are saying to visit her first before you decide...well this guy spent 10 days with her and it was all in the scam plan.
Main advice from me is if you do visit, do not have sex. If she inituates sex early on it's a bad sign. As long as you don't get a disease and a scam pregnancy like this guy then it's much easier to walk away from the situation if you find it is just a scam.
Good luck and I wish you the best, just be careful. Spending money on her is one thing...you can always earn it back, so I wouldn't worry about that too much (unless you are making yourself broke). But be wary of getting mixed in with a organized crime with a prostitute...could get you a VD like this guy or worse, killed by her pimp.
I have been married to a Philippine Woman for 3 years now. And we have MANY Philippine/American couples as friends. We all agree that you need to RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN FROM THIS ONE!!! First the GOOD GIRLS there would NEVER EVER work a sex site. And they would never ask for money from someone they do not know!
Just look at the answers on this reallywondering. How many think its a good, safe idea? You must have some suspicions or you wouldn't be here. Ask her to show you the cracked phone over webcam. Bet there'll be an excuse. Just because somebody tells you things doesnt mean you know them. Do you really trust her? Why do you think shes allowed to chat with you for hours at work? Because it is likely she will get more gifts or money from you. Try asking her for a private show from a different computer...
Say a friends computer that she wouldnt have the ID of (If you havent told your friends and family about her alarm bells should be ringing you are having major doubts) see if her reaction is any different then. The sex company she works for wants to make money you know, why would they keep a model on who wasnt making them any money unless they plan on retreving money from you further down the track. Your call..
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