I found out my husband is chatting sexually with a client of ours but he denies it. I have tried to talk to him about it but because he does not think I have proof he tells me it is all in my head. We have been together for 3 years, married just 6 months.

In one of the conversations he said 'its not like i have every seen her picture, talked to her on the phone or chat with her while i am at work. I don't even know where she lives.' Well I found pictures of her on our computer and i found a copy of a chat that occurred while he was at work and of course we have her address because she is client. which of course now makes me wonder if they are chatting at work on the phone as well.
(phone records are not accessible).

Because he denies everything, I don't know what to do. I am so scared that this is going to turn into a physical affair, although she lives several hours away.

He calls the chat casual when i first brought it up. But I have seen otherwise, which I don't think he realizes.

She refers to him as 'Babe' which really bothers me and i asked him to ask her not to do that but he said that would be rude to tell a client. I disagreed but lost the battle. Now all communication between them is a secret and I am in the dark.

I love my husband with all my heart and can never leave him. I don't know how to cope with this though.

virgolovesscorpio

Amazingly, prayer does wonderful things. I began praying about it and I feel much better. I know the situation is still unsettled but I am following my HIGHER Powers guide to let me know what to do next. Thank you so much..

fix-what-you-broke

i have been with my partner for almost 5 years, i like to chat to people online.
male, female it doesnt matter, i just like to chat sometimes. the thing is this. i am always honest with whoever i chat to from the start that i am in a serious relationship, and i am not online to get sexual kicks, thats what my man is for.
my partner knows who i speak to and has no problem with it. he has even got to know a few of the people i chat to and befriended them too. i dont see a problem as long as people are honest and open.
i see a problem with what your husband is doing, if he wasnt cheating or thinking about it then why does he have to keep you in the dark about his friendship with this woman? in my expeirience if it is all above board,then there is nothing to hide.
tell your husband you are his wife and to show you some respect....if he still wants this woman so bad then show him the door.you deserve better.

talaniman

I feel your pain and after6 months what a bummer. Honestly though you have to quickly nip this in the bud. Just leave a copy of your proof where he can easily see it, and demand to know everything. If he wants to wiggle and squirm and lie some more adios its time for a vacation and let him stew in his own juice. He will call and he better be on hands and knees. He has to be shown that you will not tolerate bad behaviour with out a lot of consequences. This will set the tone for the marriage, and let him know you demand respect. Good Luck whatever you decide.