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I have never just 'sat at home' . I always had a life of my own and a job and managed to raise my son to be a contributing human being. These men you live with need to have a wake up call my dear. Why do you stand for it ?
well i work a 40 hr week so i am not a stay at home mom, and i have an almost 3 year old daughter. my husband just thinks he can go and come as he pleases. People will say things about me like i am cheating and i dont like to hear that so i just stay with my daughter. we just found out we are pregnant again and i have a feeling he is cheating on me and i dont want to put this baby through it so i am thinking about giving it up to a family who will appreciate it. is that wrong???
Before you give up your new child you should talk with your husband.
It's possible he does as he pleases because he thinks it doesn't matter.
It's easy for us to convince ourselves of anything - especially the negative things.
often times we don't expect much so we won't feel disappointed if we don't receive much.
If you don't talk with him in depth and responsibly about this then it will never be resolved.
None of us read minds, therefore, your husband might not really know how you feel.
if you are passive about the issue then it's almost a given he will assume you do not care what he does.
Even if he is simply the type person who just does not feel any sort of commitment to marriage and family it would still be in your best interest to give some discussion a chance. You certainly don't want to wonder "what if..." some days, months, years down the road.
But, I would like the opportunity to state that i don't think "men" - used as a general term, is a fair description for your husband's behavior.... Any gender is capable of mistakes, and certainly not all men fit into the category you described.
... so i am thinking about giving it up to a family who will appreciate it. is that wrong???
It's not wrong to be sad or disappointed about your relationship with your husband. It is true that another child will introduce new experiences and stresses, but there will be many good memories as well; if you gave up your baby, you may feel guilty the rest of your life. Have you tried counseling? Can you find a mental health clinic or martial/relationship counselor? Check this: Marriage Counseling - Benefits of Marriage Counseling
First, he must not be a family man. Me and my husband work and he watching our kids and take them out and preferred to spend time with us then his friends. Sometimes I've to make him go out and have fun with his buddies. We mostly spend alot of time with friends and family. He needs to learn to balance his time between friends and family because kids needs their dads. Can you imagine what your child think thats daddy never home? Talk to him about this issue stat.
Well, to give up a child for adoption will require his approval anyway, so talking to him about is a foregone reality.
I belive doing that, BTW, is one of the greatest acts of selfless love a person can do. So you'll get no speeches from me influencing you against it. The adoptive parents of newborns are the most motivated, resourced people on the planet and I would wish that on any child.
Meanwhile, on the marriage front, if you want some resources and like to read, I can recommend some. Click on my name and shoot me an email and I'll forward some ideas to you.
heididixon, well i work a 40 hr week so i am not a stay at home mom, and i have an almost 3 year old daughter. my husband just thinks he can go and come as he pleases.
Where is your daughter while your at work, and for that matter where is your husband while your at work????? Where is he coming from, and going to?????
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People will say things about me like i am cheating and i dont like to hear that so i just stay with my daughter.
What people are we talking about, your husband???
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we just found out we are pregnant again and i have a feeling he is cheating on me and i dont want to put this baby through it so i am thinking about giving it up to a family who will appreciate it.
Pretty radical to even think of giving your own blood away just because of what you think he is doing?? Is there proof?? How did you get pregnant again, if he comes and goes? Never mind that answer, I figured it out.
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