what is it about men thinking they can go out and do whatever they want and the woman has to stay home with the children?

milagros6670

listen if u have so many problems u really should have talked to your husband maybe i dont know before you got pregnant because now......your taking that babys right to have his/her parents away from it while ur other child will have a little brother or sister running around that shell never know..........and what are you going to tell her that if she would have been the second child u would have given her away.........i was put up for adoption at 3 weeks old i love my adopted "parents" there amazing but theres not one day that i dont wish that i could have been raised with my brothers.......cuz i have met them and my mom kept them and gave me up cuz my dad didnt want a girl........so u really need to put some thought into it before u give that-inocent creature- that -regalo de dios- away as if it were an unwanted pair of shoes.......................................



p.s.regalo de dios means gift from god

N0help4u

My x use to spend ALL his time with his buddies and brag to them that he 'got me pregnant' so that I would be stuck home with them so he knows I am not cheating on him. He would never watch them other than one day a month so I could do the shopping, pay bills and run errands. Years later it hit me how hard I really didn't have a real marriage and he wasn't worth staying with. I got a divorce and kept the kids.

Chewy1

Leave him now. It will be the answer in itself. if he loves you he will come back and try his hardest to make it work..if he doesn't, then its his loss.
Don't doubt yourself. Are you a good mum? Could you live without the child you already have? If your answer is Yes and No then leave him have your precious baby and let the future work out for itself.

JuJuFruit

Is that how it was in your hubbys home as a child?

Did his mom stay home take care of the kids and the house while his dad had bowling night and golf Sat.?

That is how it was in my hubbys family growing up. We have been married 5 .5 years and have 2 children together.

He never once got up in the middle of the night with either child. He never changed a chitty diaper. Although he did change pissy ones... lol I swear he thinks if he gets crap on his hand it will melt off... lol

I am a SAHM, so it didnt really bother me too much, but now that they are older, 3 and 4. It irks the hell out of me if he doesnt help. But I am vocal, and let those feelings be heard. Now our 4 yr old is his daddy's shadow. As soon as hubby comes in from work our 4 yr old is right there to ask.... We going to go work in the workshop? He will help now with baths as well. He is teaching our 4 yr old how to take a shower. He is uncomfortable bathing our little girl. He will get her dressed after her bath, and brush her hair though. And around the house.... he is still as big a mess maker as the kids, so sometimes you have to "retrain" husbands. It took 5 years, but he will now rinse a plate and a cup and put them in the dishwasher, compared to just leaving them where they sit. Also, he Mops the floors and vacuums on Sat. He wont know what you want unless you tell him.

Have you tried to give your Hubby specific duties? Such as giving a bath, reading a bed time story, taking them outside?

Also, you can not unilaterally decide to give your child up for adoption. Your hubby would have to agree as well.