My husband said that I am driving him crazy. I want to be around him all the time. He said that I need to get a hobby, and develop some friends, but I dont know what I am interested in. What can I do?

450donn

What does he like to do, besides sit in front of the boob tube and drink beer all day? Is he interested in fishing? How about camping? Maybe bike riding? Heck, why not buy yourself a nice bike and go for long rides. Maybe hook up with some neighbors for a bike ride. Maybe the simple act of taking a long walk, or jogging. Lots of stuff to do that don't require a lot of money.

talaniman

Balancing your life with other things besides him, may give him the space he asked for. Try it, you may enjoy it.

fishbrenda

I know that would probaly help, but I dont know what to do. I dont really enjoy doing anything without him there, and I dont know what interests that I have.

love_pup_321

I started selling Mary Kay Make-up it gave me time with other women and a chance to get out of the house to do something i enjoy then i started meeting other women with home based businesses some of them also have full time jobs as well and still make some money on the side with their home business. You can try Mary Kay, Avon, Pampered Chief, Creative Memories scrapbooking (great if you have grandkids or young children) and a Taste of Home Entertainment. All are good companies with some great benifits.

Wondergirl

Volunteer at a nursing home, hospital, school, animal shelter, horse rescue farm, public library. You will meet lots of people and find out what you like to do (and have stories to tell your husband).

Altenweg

Get a job. Sorry, I can't understand why you are unable to leave this poor guy alone for a minute and let him catch his breath. My young cousin is the same way, her boyfriend can't even go to seven eleven for 5 minutes without her bursting into tears "Why don't you want to be with me, I can't believe your leaving for five minutes." She ends up being mad at him the rest of the night, now he's so fed up that he's thinking of leaving her.

If you don't have any interests than maybe you should take a course like pottery or an art class or something. You need to find yourself and stop expecting him to be around all the time to make you happy. Everyone needs some breathing room, this isn't healthy.

Altenweg

Fishbrenda- I know I could have been nicer, but having dealt with my cousin over the very same issue, I've tried the nice route and it doesn't work. I honestly don't mean to hurt your feelings, what I'm trying to do is the equivalent of slapping someone when they are having a fit. Sometimes it takes a bit of harsh reality to get someone to see the bigger picture. I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings. Take care.

sasha_1

I think you lack confidence in yourself. It amazes me that you do not know what interests you have! Didn't you have any hobbies before you met your husband? How did you used to spend your spare time?

Try doing something creative, if there's nothing that interests you then try reading, pottery classes, cooking classes, any sports, workout... there are thousand things. Then see which one holds your most attention and then pursue that.

And your statement - "I dont really enjoy doing anything without him there" makes sense, as doing something together is very healthy for the relationship, but at the same time you do not want to become a creeper plant which cannot grow without a tree's support.

George_1950

Are you interested in returning to school? The technical schools in the US seem to be getting much better. Find a skill or hobby you are interested in and have some fun with it.