I am 17 about to be 18. I am going to college this fall, and I have totally fallen in love. This is it, and we both know for a fact. She is only 16 and will be 17 in January. We know for a fact we will be together forever. WE KNOW!! So we were just wondering what people think about a couple getting married, but it wont matter what the reply is we still are, but we are not getting married until she turns 18 in 2 years. I am going to college to study music and she will still back home at my old high school. Then in 2 years she is going to come to school where I am and we getting married. She has wanted to go to this school since 8th grade, and I have chosen this college for my best choice for me. So we are still going to college, but people keep saying we should wait. But, we love each other we want to be married, and people say what is the rush, well I say why wait if YOU KNOW!! Her parents are strict and are like my girl is going to college and stuff, and I am like yeah of course we are and we are, but we are going to be married too. But they do not know our plans yet. Anyways i would like to here some feedback. Thanks.

mommaveloso

take this from someone who married at ~19~! we just KNEW! and trust me we are still together.. but.. i never finished school.. we had babies! and i said.. well this is just one baby i can finish school when she is big enough for day care, NOPE.. we had another one.. and then when she was big enough for day care, i started to go back to school, got a job, and then BAM.. another one.. and trust me i love my kids, and i would never trade them for the world.. but if you want to finish school... u best do it before the wedding! we always say.. i will finish i will finish.. i have a 7 mth old, and i have to finish still.. we been married 10 years now.. i could have been finished by now.. but my kids come first always and forever!
i am only saying this because this is my experiance and no one elses, u are eventually goin to do what you want to do anyway.. so u be the one to make the choice!

daehnolem

I don't see anything wrong with you and your girlfriend getting married in a couple of years. It depends on what your goals are. College is important for both of you. If she's planning on graduating before you guys start your family (if you plan of having one), then by all means, use every kind of birth control you can think of. My husband and I are in our early twenties are we're newlyweds. I didn't know him when I was 18, but I know would have married him then. We dated for a year before we got married, and he was overseas for the first year of our marriage. We're kind of in our second first year of marriage now, when we actually get to live with each other. But I think having the support of your best friend (with great benefits) to help you through college is great. We're in college right now, and sure, money's tight, but it would be even if we were single. I'm glad I married young. My husband and I had our goals before we got married, and we still have our goals now. I say give it a chance. I think it's smart for you to start thinking about it now because you're waiting for two years, after all. If you feel differently when the time comes, you'll still be able to change your mind. But I don't think there's any harm in planning for it now.

-B

starella19

Ummm, I am 20 years old and I have been married for over a year. I am in college full time, and I graduate next year. My husband is 4 years older than I am and I have been with him since I turned 17. Marriage and college can work. He never attended a university like I have, but he went to trade schools, and from I was in high school I knew I was going to college for 4 years and graduating with a Bachelors in Science, and become an RN. I am well on my way to my dream, I am a junior and I am very successful. As far as school goes everything is all good, however marriage is not easy. I know this first hand, you have ups and downs, and we have been through harsh times, but were making it. Its stressful, it requires a lot of work from both of us, and we both have to be understanding, willing to do certain thing and make sacrifices. We have to communicate and deal with each others schedules, but all that is based on circumstances, not love, I know I love him and want to be with him. I am a hard working person, and when I know I want something and I believe in it, I fight for it. That goes for my career and my marriage. We are both willing to work for the things that we want from life, that's what counts most. We want our own careers, we want a family together; we want a lot of things, some individual achievements, and other things we want together. Idealistic, maybe but if you guys are on the same page with what both of your needs are, then it can work. Sometimes you feel like killing your partner, but at the end of the day if your happy with where you are at in life, and feel that's where you need to be, then do what you want. I'm stressed with school, work and a husband, but i wouldn't trade my life for anything. At this point, we are planning to get a home, we want children around the time I graudate (which I will be a working mom), and I am going to get my Master's(part time). Trust me I know what I want, and I will have it. What we have has worked so far, will this last forever, truly I dunno, but in the now we are broke, we are happy and doing what we have to do, to get where we want to be together....so do what you feel is best!!!