Married woman in love with a married man !

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Jul 11, 2008, 02:24 PM

I believe most of the replies that you get in regards to your question/advice would be about morals, ethics and infidelity. If you were an unmarried woman and he was an unmarried man then I think members here will be more opt to give advice about love and relationships. BUT since the members have seen numerous (if not 100s) of posts regarding 'married woman falls in love with married man' or 'I want to leave my husband for a married man' or 'how do I tell my wife I cheated on her?' then I don't think they are going to tell you what you want to hear only because it's not MORALLY right. Just my opinion.

In most infidelity cases, men NEVER leave their current wives.

FYI-Oral 'pleasure' aka oral sex is considered a sexual play and I'm sure what ever your married man's religion may be, that is against that when being unfaithful.

JBeaucaire · Jul 11, 2008, 02:34 PM

This forum is about helping people develop healthy, happy relationships. Helping you seduce a married man is counter to everything we are about.

Yes, there are moral issues. I won't recite them because you said you don't care.

Yes, there are health issues, but again, you don't care.

Yes, there appear to be religious overtones, but neither one of you really cares that much about that either since kissing and groping and blow jobs and sex are all the same thing in the fidelity department. I'm just saying, that boat sailed...and again, you don't care.

So, how can you help a married man be interested in you regardless of how it affects the rest of the world? I can tell you this - I couldn't begin suggest anything so horrible.

And since you don't care, I'll have to care for you and say a prayer for all the people you're pushing off the cliff and they don't even know it.

May the universe so richly deliver the life you deserve.

SHOOSHOO80 · Jul 12, 2008, 01:42 AM

Please have some mercy .. I know I am wrong but I really loved him before I got married , he did though he never told me ... He is always saying we have no right to talk about love as both of us are committed , he is always resisting me & resisting our mutual feelings but it shows up in moments where we miss each other & can't hide it.., he refuses the intercourse because it's the major sin but he also know foreplay is a sin & that's why he told me he wants to stop anything we do ......... ..I am not a non caring person as you say ..I am just in love , I don't need the blow jobs or orals nooooooo I just want the emotional side where he shows he cares .. But he told me last week let's be only friends ! Because he is enjoying my company along with our mutual friends & he doesn't want to lose me ........ I believe we can't be only friends & if he wants to end it up then why is he coming to our meeting place & sit with me for chit chats ? Doesn't he understand that being with each other - even with our mutual friends - 3 or 4 times per week for 2 hours talking with each other can make us weak again ? Or at least I am talking about myself ..I feel butterflies in my stomach & my heart skips a beat when I c him coming to sit with me ............ I really love him , I swear it's not about sex ..it's about feelings & I am in a real dilemma .......... Thank you in advance for not accusing me of immorality ..

JBeaucaire · Jul 12, 2008, 08:49 AM

The only reason I'm not accusing you of immorality is because you already admit it and everything you say goes basically:

"I know it's wrong, I know it's sinful, I know we're both married, but since I 'feel' something anyway I'm going to ignore all the wrongs and pursue it anyway. Please help me pursue it anyway."

Well, I feel that I should get to have that diamond ring without paying for it. I feel that, so it's ok for me to take it? To solicit others to help me take what is not mine to have simply because I want it? Of course not. And you know that.

I appreciate how exciting all the "resist-resist-ohmygod-kiss-kiss-blowjob" drama actually is to a person. But that's the same adrenaline rush criminals get when they give in to their particular vice. It's a total rush. You're addicted to the rush.

You don't need mercy, you don't want speeches about 'morality', but I'll still simply point out that you are stealing what is not yours. Just because you feel it doesn't mean you 'deserve' it...and when you take it anyway that makes you a thief.

We're not going to actually help you steal from others.

sully123 · Jul 12, 2008, 09:26 AM

Do you honestly think he is going to leave his wife? Do you think it's right what your doing to your husband? There is so many people getting hurt out of this? Talk to a counselor, get some help, but stay the heck away from a man that's married, its going to come back to bite you...............

mrchef1110 · Jul 12, 2008, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

We're not going to actually help you steal from others.

^this

Think about your family and if you have kids what that will do to them as they are just by standers to this

What will this do to your husband who pledged his life to you

How about the woman that the man pledged his life to

Their kids if they have any

Your workplace and colleagues as this is a work relationship

I could go on and on but if those don't make you realize that your selfish actions are going to hurt a lot more than just your feelings I don't know what can

I am not giving you a moral lesson or anything but just trying to make you realize how many people will not only be affected by your decision but hurt by it

He has apparently already made his decision by sticking with his wife so your decision has been pretty much made by him already.

N0help4u · Jul 12, 2008, 12:30 PM

You want to know if he loves you
So what if he does what is it going to accomplish when he already said
He told me you are the reason because I can't resist you & I don't want to cheat because it is not allowed by our religion the next week he left....clearly he does not WANT you over what he has whether it has to do with love or being committed to his wife he choose being married to his wife over that so you have to accept and respect that.

It seems like he sees you as a box of tempting chocolates that he can't resist so he did something about it instead of giving in.

So the emotional side is LEAVE the poor man alone like he has been begging you to!

Homegirl 50 · Jul 12, 2008, 03:38 PM

You are sounding like a teenager rather than a grown married woman with a child.
No matter what you feel or think you feel, you are married with a young child, and this man appears to be begging you to leave him alone.
GROW UP!

hjpan · Jul 12, 2008, 04:37 PM

Grow up and stop pretending like you love anyone. In fact, you don't even love yourself. Seriously, marriage is about commitment, love, care, loyalty, honesty, integrity etc.

1. The fact that you're kissing & hugging & probably effing shows you are irresponsible for your actions. You have a child now; you have a husband. What else do you need?

2. The fact that he's using the "my parents wanted me to marry this rich girl" excuse is nonsense. Anyone can be as poor as the beggars in US, but it takes a lot of effort to climb through a pile of sh*t and earn owns expense. If marriages were based because of money, I'm pretty sure the world will fall into a higher level of problems.

3. The fact that he's saying "the Lord will punish me" crap is nonsense as well. Yeah, he's fuqing you even though he has a family and you're fuqing him when you have a family. That's cheating (adultery) regardless of intercourse or not; oral sex & mutual masturbation = sex because it's stimulating the genitalias.

4. Grow up. Confess to your family. Go make your own living and stop leeching off your husband who works probably five days a week from eight to five. Stop meeting with this douche and you'll understand the true meaning of working hard and being responsible.

This is coming from a 19 year old.

Married woman in love with a married man !

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