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SHOOSHOO80 · Jul 12, 2008, 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

You want to know if he loves you
So what if he does what is it going to accomplish when he already said
he told me u r the reason because i can't resist u & i don't want to cheat because it is not allowed by our religion the next week he left....clearly he does not WANT you over what he has whether it has to do with love or being committed to his wife he choose being married to his wife over that so you have to accept and respect that.

It seems like he sees you as a box of tempting chocolates that he can't resist so he did something about it instead of giving in.

So the emotional side is LEAVE the poor man alone like he has been begging you to!!!

thank u for reply , but I want to tell u he left work , but he called me once each 2 or 3 months for a whole year , then we met & he came back to me , confessed he missed me much then give me the cold shoulder.. then he missed me & became passionate.. then begin the resisance period again... & that's how he acts with me : resistance & cold feelings for a while then inability to resist , making sin then feeling sorry & cold period again.. till he told me last week he doesn't want us to do this again & let's be only friends who chat & meet together but I suffer from seeing him in front of me , doesn't he?

mrchef1110 · Jul 13, 2008, 03:54 AM

It doesn't matter what he feels

Grow a backbone and stop seeing him as this is only increasing your suffering. Hell tell your husband you want to move away if you have to a different city as that will force you to not see him or talk to him.

You aren't seeing the big picture HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU MAKE HIM FEEL GUILTY. Reread your own passage, he does something then he feels guilty because hmm let me think he loves somebody else and feels he is cheating on her.

Stop making excuses and stop talking to him now tell him he can't come around any more hell if you need to get a restraining order as this will ease the feelings you have for him in time its going to suck yes but guess what honey you have a family who takes priority over your needs.

So either grow up and get some help or keep yourself miserable.

It is your choice.

N0help4u · Jul 13, 2008, 05:26 AM

Originally Posted by SHOOSHOO80

thank u for reply , but i want to tell u he left work , but he called me once each 2 or 3 months for a whole year , then we met & he came back to me , confessed he missed me much then give me the cold shoulder .. then he missed me & became passionate ..then begin the resisance period again ...& that's how he acts with me : resistance & cold feelings for a while then inability to resist , making sin then feeling sorry & cold period again .. till he told me last week he doesnt want us to do this again & let's be only friends who chat & meet together but i suffer from seeing him infront of me , doesnt he ??

I resist chocolate too but every now and then I get a taste for it again and then I end up giving it away to resist temptation.
You suffer from seeing him in front of you---you know where it is ALWAYS going to go SO YOU take the first step and quite.
Doesn't he? Yeah so that is why he avoids you

YOU ARE AN AT HIS CONVENIENCE THING

talaniman · Jul 13, 2008, 05:49 AM

You are deluded, and should seek help to end this dependence on another human. Even emotional junkies can get help if they want to be normal.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 13, 2008, 07:27 AM

Sounds like he knows what he needs to do and tries to do it. You keep hanging on the something that does not belong to you.
It really does not matter what he feels, he is going to do what he needs to do for himself. You need to grow up and wise up. You have a husband and a child. Put as much energy into your marriage as you have in trying to see this man. When you see him at these functions, don't chat with him, avoid him. He will soon get the message and avoid you.
Why did you marry someone else if you were so hooked on him? You both made stupid and selfish choices so now you must own them. Be the best wife and mother you can be. Get some counseling to help you deal with these juvenile feelings you are having. Start putting some effort into your marriage, go on dates with your husband. You may find a really good person in him.
The road to this other guy leads to nowhere but heartache, it's time to grow up and get off it.
I wish you well.

hjpan · Jul 13, 2008, 08:16 AM

Originally Posted by SHOOSHOO80

yes he is like u said , & he is having 3 kids not bec. he loved her , but bec. his wife's father ordered them to have kids & he will pay all the bills of giving birth , children's schools & everything !!! so her father told them u have no excuse not to have many kids as u will spend nothing , iam the 1 who will spend !!!!!!!!! he can't be in love with her as she is fat & ugly & from the 1st place he didnt marry her for love ..

tell me what can i do when we meet in our social gathering?? i can't stop coming because we have mutual friends & i won't b able to give explaination on y i quit hanging out with them !!!! i suffer when i c him , he told me 1 week b4 that he'd stop doing the foreplay stuff we were doing ,,doesnt he suffer when he sees me infront of him ???

Easy. Tell him to get the fuq away from you.

ANUSHKA86 · Nov 16, 2008, 04:38 AM

Let me tell you one thing it's not difficult to seduce any man in this world, specially married men. If his wife is ugly & he's not happy in his married life that means the ball is in your court, you can get him anytime you want. Try to show your emotions & break him emotionally from him family first. When he'll be in your full control don't loose your grip on him. Try to touch him hard, keep on kissing him & hugging me, Have sex with him. I can advice you this because I did the same with my married lover who's now all mine
Wish you good luck

Homegirl 50 · Nov 16, 2008, 10:40 AM

You need to concentrate on your marriage your family and leave this man alone.

As for the above poster, when you decide to go after something that does not belong to you, you are no better than the cheating man. A man can have a beautiful wife, but want something on the side. If you choose to be a booty call to a married man, that is your business, but to advise someone else on how to do it, especially a married woman with children is just irresponsible IMO

TrueFaith · Nov 16, 2008, 11:32 AM

ANUSHKA86

You have no idea. How selfish you are and what a pathetic reply that was.
You tell people how to steal husbands and girlfriends?

You disgust me! There should be a lot less people like you in this world.

As for the OP
I know your not going to listen so I don't know why I'm waisting my time..

You depend on him too much
You have no self worth
You have no respect for other people. Other than your wants and needs you selfish ignorant fool.
And you are emotional weak.

Honestly you will get what is coming to you :)

povkham · Nov 17, 2008, 01:14 AM

If you both strongly enjoy pleasure then family go and live to gether. Make new family
Your love will be happy and strong .

povkham · Nov 17, 2008, 11:01 PM

Because we all respons so much that why we have the high devorce rate in here.

mrsomeonetolove · Nov 25, 2009, 08:24 AM

I have a VERY long story that will shed some light to this topic. I will post it later today but I will give you a hint. Stop it. No one is going to be happy as long as your both married. How can you trust her or him if they are willing to hurt people they claim to love? If they want to be with you, wait till they are single and free of their spouses. Same thing for you too. Do not burn bridges but do the right things that will make you and the other person respect themselves and give you both the proof of trust. Cause that is really what you are looking for.